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It is one of the first things that popped into my head actually! I can be selfish too and my FI is totally selfless... I'm right there with ya!
That's an interesting thought and I think it depends on what you mean by "selfish". In Oprah land, being selfish is a good thing - it means taking time for yourself to do the things you love, so you can be a better, happier person. I don't think anyone would say that's the opposite of love! If they mean you only care about yourself at the expense of all others, then maybe it is the opposite. I have heard that apathy is the opposite - hate is not the opposite because it is passionate, like love. Apathy has no passion or energy associated with it, so it's the opposite. I don't know if I agree, just putting it out there into the debate :)
I never knew Oprah was the standard on ethics... 
Selfishness is definitely the opposite of love, and I think we all need to work on that sometimes!
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Hmmm... interesting query, m'dear! I don't think that I necessarily have my own opinion on this, but I like the idea that mountain.bride suggested: It certainly makes sense that if one were apathetic, they would not be able to express love. What about self-loathing? I know that the times when I am able to give the most love to others is when I'm happiest with myself.
Indifference. Selfish people love themselves, no? :) Not the opposite...
ooh interesting. I think that selfishness or love of your self is opposite (or far from) the love of another person... but, I agree with Miss Bravo - I've always thought the opposite of love is apathy. Hate is in the same spectrum as love - you still have strong emotions involved. And Selfishness implies that you are caring more about yourself than another, not necessarily that you don't care at all. Apathy is farther away.
Pope John Paul II taught that the opposite of love was to use. It's so true!
This is just my opinion but it can be dangerous to view true love as being totally selfless. Self-care is very important to loving others fully and being a great partner in the relationship (whether that person is your husband, sister, or best friend). The greatest loves of my life are the people where we can lean on each other for support, affection and encouragement but where we can also live freely, knowing the other has a full and joyful life that is their own doing
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I say indifference. Like Mrbee said, hate and love can be remarkably tied.
yep - indiffernce is what i first thought of
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Indifference -- there is NOTHING worse than feeling indifferent. My old roommate and I used to say we had the 'curse of indifference' it we were in relationships with people that fizzled...
Indifference is my vote too. Something about it is way more chilling and disturbing than even hate...
I tend to agree with the Apathy/Indifference vote (as the two are practically the same).
To HATE someone really requires you to care about what the person is doing and it is most often a reaction to pain that the person has caused you because you care about the person.
APATHY is sheer indifference to the person, his actions, or how he treats you because you don't care at all about the person.
However, I do agree with the PP that commented that True Love is not always COMPLETELY selfless... I think there is a healthy balance that should be struck in order to preserve a healthy relationship - one that includes selfless acts to make your mate happy and includes "selfish" acts to maintain a level of happiness for yourself.
..If you want to learn to love better, you should start with a friend who you hate...by a 6-year old
My friend sent that to me after I told her that my four year old asked what the opposite of love was and I couldn't really answer.
Like Mrs. Bee, my AP English teacher used to say that the opposite of love was apathy. When you hate someone, you still have passionate feelings for me. If just don't care about them or their life, then that's truly the opposite of loving them.
I agree with the other posters that said apathy. To me love is all about emotion-both good and bad. So the opposite would be lack of emotion.
See, I'm with Erindesmar. I automatically think of scorn, disdain or contempt when I think of the opposite of love.
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Apathy was my first thought, too!
Or, better yet, disconnect. After all, you feel so connected to someone you love, right? If you don't feel connected...well, you could still feel something I guess.
After all, you can love to hate something =]
I'm selfish, too, August! And so is DH! But we aren't selfish in those negative ways =]. Selfish as in we take care of ourselves so that we can better take care of our relationship. When I take time for myself and sort out MY life, I'm a better partner. When I don't take care of myself, I get snippy, mean, and I'm sure DH doesn't like to be around me. He tells me I need my Me time and sends me to the bath for a soak =]
The English hallway in my high school was decorated with famous quotes and one of them that I remember quite distictly simply said "The opposite of love is indifference." I don't remember who said it, but I always thought it was the greatest quote ever. When I started using google chat I put this quote up as my status message. My fiance quickly countered with "The opposite of love is Zombies." That's what his status message says to this day. Maybe he's on to something.... who knows.... 
Hmm...I think I would probably go with hate. But it really depends how you view opposites -- traditionally, opposite political parties sat directly across from each other on a horseshoe shape...so they're close in one way, but in others they're as far from each other as could be!
So looking at it in that sense, I would say hate. True, it's very passionate, and similar to love in that way. But obviously, it couldn't be farther away in terms of how you treat the other person!
That said, apathy can actually be more emotionally damaging than hate, and is very close to being love's opposite (on the horseshoe, it would be right in the middle, obviously!).
I think that everyone needs a little bit of selfishness. And honestly, I don't think that it's the opposite of love. It may damage a loving relationship if you're too selfish, but true selfishness (narcissism) just means that you love yourself more than others.
the opposite of love is fear. it takes a lot of courage to truly love someone, knowing you will eventually lose them. the fact that humans keep doing this, over and over, for hundreds of years-- i think, shows great courage.
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I think most responses would be "hate".
But I recently heard that the opposite of love is selfishness. This hit me hard - my fiance is very selfless -and I am very selfish!
This is definitely something I need to work on.
Do you agree that selfishness is the opposite of love?