(Closed) What is the order of the letters in a monogram?

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

this always confuses me too!

 

i think the last name is the big one in the middle!! 😉

Post # 4
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2011

The traditional order for a monogram is Bride’s first name initial, last name initial, and then the Groom’s first name initial.

If the monogram is for just one person, it is their first name initial, their last name initial, and then their middle initial.

 

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

If the couple is married and the woman has changed her name, it’s Herfirst, Shared Last (bigger), Hisfirst. If they did any kind of non-traditional name thing, it gets confusing. If they’re not married, they’re not supposed to do a couple’s monogram, and should instead put two individual monograms. That’s really old school etiquette, but traditional monogramming is a pretty old-school regardless…

Post # 7
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Sugar bee

If it’s a couple: Jane and Dick Smith it would be – JSD

If it’s just one person Jane Elvira Smith it would be: JSE

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

Not to hijack the thread, but I have a question based on the responses so far. My fiance and I have inverse initials. I.e. he’s BA, I’m AB. So when I get married, I’ll be AA. So for the monogram, I would love to put “bAa” because I love that it works two ways – the big A is the last name, yet it could also work as my first name. Given that the bride’s initial is supposed to go first, do you think anyone would think it terribly wrong if I put the groom’s first?

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2010

Usually monogram stuff is for personal use (I’m thinking towels?) so I think you could get away with it, as long as its your preference. 

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

@teaparty…the bride’s initial is actually supposed to go last. Just like in a greeting…Mr. & Mrs. Bob Doe. My FI’s name begins with an “R” and mine with an “F”. His last initial is “P” so our joint monogram would be: 

RPF

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

@JamaicaBride – to not confuse this matter further, the bride’s initial goes first. (then the last name of the groom, then groom’s initial). So yours would be FPR.

 

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2010

I’m confused. I’ve seen it both ways. eek. Guess I’ll find out in a couple of days when I get my monogrammed towels!

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

@JoonBee…it is pretty confusing. I had to do some additional research and it seems that it depends on the item being monogrammed. Linens traditionally start with the wife’s initial while glassware traditionally starts with the husband’s initial. It’s crazy to me that it would be different…but there you have it. Having said that…I will probably use the “glassware” format for most of our stuff b/c I like how it looks better =)

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

Thanks JB! I’m sticking with groom-first.

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

@Jamaica: I also did research on this, and my understanding is that traditionally linens are monogrammed with the bride’s PERSONAL monogram and barware with the groom’s – not a permutation of the couple’s monogram.

Here’s a link to that effect: http://www.aisledash.com/2008/03/24/monogramming-etiquette/

Post # 16
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

@worcesterbride…so many sites say totally opposite things. I am beginning to think they are winging it just like we are….LOL! Even more reason to do what you feel looks the best.

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