(Closed) What is the point?

posted 9 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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778 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2009

You and your fiance should be making this decision.  Where does he stand in all this?  Does he agree with his parents are is he allowing them to call the shots in order to not displease them?   You and your fiance should be having the wedding both of you want, not the one his parents, your parents or either of your friends wants.  You should speak with your fiance come to an agreement and stand as a united front against any disent. 

Good luck!

Post # 5
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778 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2009

Then come up with a plan, and have him talk with his parents, you can be there but have him do the talking and say, "this is what we are doing, because it makes us happy and is a reflection of what we want for our wedding day".  That’s it.  There really isn’t much they can do about it and both of you can be happy, which is the point.

 

Post # 6
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54 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

I was in the same boat, my guest list kept getting bigger and bigger.  Thankfully my FH wanted a small wedding too.  We both put our foot down with both of our mothers together and expressed what we wanted.  Since then our wedding has became more about us then the guest list.  My advice is make sure you and your FH are on the same page and DO WHAT MAKES YOU BOTH HAPPY.   You two need to havve the wedding you want, its as simple as that. I have also stoped including the inlaws on ideas and such,  as this is my wedding (ok our wedding) and the inlaws had their daughters wedding, its my turn.  (if that makes any since). I guess the thing to remember is your not going to please everyone, so please yourself first. …. Gosh i hope I dont sound too selfish.  

Post # 7
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337 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

How annoying! If I were you, I’d probably go through with the traditional wedding just put a stop to all the in-law madness. Explain what  you want and DON’T want and say you’d be just as happy to drop by city hall tomorrow. (Not threatening, but in a way, yes.) They should back off.

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