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What is the proper etiquette??

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    jspeby    July 17, 2011   new york

    I want my bridesmaids and I to all get our hair and makeup down together before the wedding. We all want to look our best and I'm looking forward to that bonding time beforehand.  If we go to a salon together, who pays? Does each bridesmaid pay for themselves or do I foot the bill?

     
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    Soon2BeMrsC    March 20, 2010   Wine Country

    You don't have to pay for them.  It's part of the "bridesmaid duties" really, but it should be clear ahead of time who i paying for what.  You don't want them to be surprised.

     
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    Johnsbride09    7/3/2009   Northern Virginia

    If you're requiring them to do this, then yes, you need to pay for it.  If it's optional, then they pick it up.

     
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    I think it is up to you if you can afford to pay for it or not.  If you can, then it is a nice thing to do for your bridesmaids.  If you can't, then make sure they are aware beforehand of this and give them the option to bow out if money is an issue...

     
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    daniellemybelle    June 19, 2010   Baltimore, MD

    I think it is usually a part of the bridesmaids' expenses, but if you can afford it, its a nice gift. I am paying for my bridesmaids' hair, as well as mani / pedis the day before, but that's my gift to them instead of jewelry.

     
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    Grey56    10/10/09   RI

    I agree with Johnsbride09.  If you are requiring them to go, then you should pay for it.  But if it's optional, they can choose whether or not to go and to pay. If they choose to go get their hair done, they can also choose how to have it done, though most BMs would ask what style you wanted them to wear. 

     
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    cheerful    September 2009 - eloped  

    Even if it's not required, it kind of feels that way, right? I wouldn't want to be left out while the other BMs were getting their hair done and would feel bad if I couldn't afford it.

     
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    jm1773       San Antonio, Texas

    I was part of a wedding about a year ago and the bride made it clear that the mani/pedi spa day was all part of her gift to us. It was an amazing time to spend with the bride and all the other girls before the wedding. She also gave us a necklace to wear for the wedding so we would all match. I am definitely going to do this for my girls when my time comes!

     
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    mandalynn17    June 19, 2010   Medford, OR

    I would also say that if it's an optional thing then the bridesmaids pay for it but if you want ALL of them to do it regardless, then you should pay for it since there are usually already so many other expenses usually associated with being a bridesmaid.

     
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    gamblina    October 29, 2010  

    i did a mass email to all the girls and told them that the salon asked when i tried to reserve it how many girls would be needing hair and who would be needing updos vs. styles and makeup, and had them email me back with what they wanted done. i worded it so that it was optional and included all the costs involoved since they'll be paying for their own.

     

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