What is the proper etiquette here? (re: church)

posted 3 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

@its_erin_j:  I would be honest with the church and tell them that due to the lack of information and communication from their church office, you have decided to change the location of your ceremony. I wouldn’t necessarily say that you chose another church because it really isn’t important in the grand scheme of things for them to know. 

If you’re uncomfortable telling them that you could always just leave it at “we decided to change the location of our ceremony” and give no reason at all… But I think it could be potentially helpful for them to know that they need to provide better customer service, so to speak. 

Post # 4
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137 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

I would just tell them what you honestly feel. That you weren’t happy with the lack of information, and that you visited a new church and feel it is a better fit!

Post # 5
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

@its_erin_j:  I would just leave it at “we have decided to change the location of our ceremony”.  ONLY if they ask why, would I bring up the lack of communication. At this point it probably doesn’t matter why – since they can’t do anything to change your mind.

Post # 7
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I wouldn’t sugar coat it, I’d tell them exactly why you’re changing venues – that their lack of communication and overall interest in your questions is leaving you with an uneasy feeling that they are not the church for you.

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I would tell them you’re changing locations due to a lack of communication, but say it nicely. At least they’ll know for future brides and may try harder next time. It won’t do anything for your wedding, but you could be helping out a future bride.

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