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Just curious what the main reason everyone is in their LDR? We are apart because his law school and my job are not in the same state. We will be together after he graduates from law school.
I added a poll just for fun but I'm sure I didn't capture everything.
I met my husband showing cattle at a national show. So we were long distance for a couple years because we lived in different states, and he lived in a particular state that I happen to loathe the weather in so I was like, "I'm NEVER going to live there!" Clearly, he won out and I'm here in the snow, but yeh, we grew up in different states. :)
"work" was the closest answer to why we're a ldr. we dated for awhile, broke up, and then got back together after he moved out of state for a job, so i was basing my answer after our last go around. i'm quitting my job before we get married so that i can move out to live with him after the wedding day. if i had been able to find a job where he lives prior to that, we would not have been ldr (his job is a lot better than my current one).
We started dating while on opposite sides of the world (we're both Americans though). Old friends, stayed close over the years, he came to visit me, and *boom* relationship happened. :)
Six months later I visited him and we got engaged; four months after that I moved back to the States and we got married.
I guess ours was career. We met on an island and we were both working in the service industry. We were together for three weeks before our winter "seasonal" gigs broke us apart (he went down south for work and I stayed up north :)). By the time he had made it back up North for the summer season, I had decided to move to the city and try the 9-5 thing, and he was still in the seasonal thing... and so it went for five years!!!
Finally, he was able to find a job in his field (he is a golf pro), outside of the city, and I take the train in... So work, and life choices I guess...
We lived in the same place when we started dating, then I moved to be near my family. Shortly thereafter, things got serious and he started looking for jobs near me. That was 2.5 years and one major recession ago. 6 months til we get hitched and no luck yet so cross your fingers for me!
FI works for professional baseball, and travels during baseball season, mostly March-September.
We're not in an LDR anymore, but we were because I met my hubby when he was doing an exchange year at my university. He had to go back to his own university to finish his degree, and I had to stay here to finish mine.
Then it was a matter of me starting my career so that I'd be able to support both of us on my salary by the time he arrived here, and him getting some work experience in his field so that there would be a much better chance of him being able to find a job in Canada.
That lasted 2.5 years, and thankfully we're together again now!
Our reason is work related. We didn't start off in a LDR, but he moved to Cali 6 months ago to get a job in the film industry. He's trying to work his way up to cameraman and unfortunately that takes time. So it looks like we will be long distance for at least another year or possibly two. :(
We met during my post doc and I was offered a job a few months after we started dating and I moved a few hours away so we could still see each other most weekends. Now 2.5 years later we are planning a wedding and he is about to get transfered for work (we're not sure where yet but he'll be moving in a month). And he is from another country so until we are married he can't quit his job so we have visa issues as well. I am very much looking forward to this whole long distance thing to be over! But this year is going to be tough
FH and I are in a LDR due to his work. We have been dating since high school and have been in the same state for 6 years and then 2 years ago he got into the SS and has to go to training 14 hours away! Now he is in D.C. and we are 4 hours apart. It was really hard ar first especially since we were practically living next door to each other for 6 years but we are making it through and are sooo excited about the wedding because then we will finally be living together!
First it was college. Now it's because I work abroad (it was too good an opportunity for me to pass up) and he's in the military (stationed WAY across the country from our home state).
I chose other because I couldn't pick three at once 
We were introduced by a friend and became long distance(AK-East Coast)...while I was in the military, then I got and took a job overseas (Afghanistan & Iraq to the East Coast).
DH and I were in a LDR for a few months after we first started dating because of school; he moved to my city to be with me after about three months. I hated LDR--I don't know how you ladies do it!
We initally weren't in a LDR until he got into Grad School and I wasn't about to stand in his way. Then he proposed but we (as a couple) decided that I would remain were I am while he finishes his degree. Unfortunately, this also means that we will be spending the first year of marriage in a LDR too!
School is the issue for us. Six months of our first year together was spent in long distance with him studying in California and me in Ohio. Then he moved back and we had about a year and a half of living together while he finished his PhD. Now he is done and had a great job in British Columbia and I am stuck here, not-so-happily finishing my masters program. As soon as I finish, I am moving to be with him.
We were apart for 2 1/2 years due to the military. The first 10 months he was in Iraq, so obviously I wouldn't be moving there. When he got home, we decided to stay apart because we knew he would be getting out eventually and there was no point in me giving up my job. I am so so so so thankful we are no longer in an LDR. Ours was a little extreme...we only saw eachother 8 times in those 2 1/2 years, so I'm loving every single minute with him right now!
We are not in it now but we started as a LDR, me living in London and him in Sweden. We met while he was on vacation and I was working in London through a mutual friend and honestly the day I met him I knew that that was it and I moved to Sweden to be with him just a month and a half after meeting him. And now it is over two years later and less then a month to our wedding!
Our reason was school, I moved 3 hours away to go to uni. We were only LD for 4 months though, because as it turns out, the program I was in really wasn't the right fit for me so I decided to change programs. And since I was changing programs, I might as well change schools ;) now I'm moving in with my SO the day after tomorrow!
We were LDR for two years. I was in grad school while he was working in his hometown. I joined him when I finished my degree. So I guess our reason was both school and work.
International love story here - wish the visa/work situation was easier so we wouldn't have to jump through so many hoops just to be together.
Visa/Immigration :(. I am a Canadian, and my SO is an American. We should be together in 2011, but I miss him a lot/the distance hurts :'(..
We met randomly online 3 years ago. We are FINALLY closing the gap this summer and will be married one month later. I am also moving to the area for school. So. Excited.
@Miss Bumble: Our situations are very identical! We weren't really LDR until my FI got into grad school. We spent one year being two hours apart, and for us, I don't really count that because we saw each other on the weekends. He is working on his PhD in biochemistry. He got into three schools...one in our hometown, one in TN, and one in NC. The one in our hometown wasn't as strong of a program as the other two, and he chose TN because it was closer to home.
I'm not moving down there because I have a full-time job in my field (which is incredibly hard to accomplish right now--I am a teacher), I love this job, it's in our hometown (which, plans are right now that we will live here when he's finished), I have health insurance, lots of other great things. We too will spend our first year of marriage in a LDR. A lot of people look confused by this and don't understand it. I think, "Well, if one of us were in the military, they wouldn't look down on it, so why should they for school?". Gotta love people!
School and work here. FH and I started dating while he lived 2 hours away, but he moved an hour closer in February. Now, he works all the time and goes to school, and we're lucky if we see each other once a week. Hopefully it won't be like this for much longer, I guess about a year. We've been doing it for a little over 2 years now, and I'm ready to see him every day :)
FI is American Im in Canada just starting k1 process this month..:(
I am at University, my BF is at home, where we grew up.
LDR time will be over in 4 months CANNOT wait. Hopefully will get my proposal then! Eeeek!
We met at college in Alabama, where we BOTH did not live at the time. I grew up in New Orleans, Louisiana and he grew up in Mississippi. He currently lives in GA and I currently live in AL. We've both been all over the place, but were only actually living in the same state for about 5 months!!!
we met online, we're a world apart yet somehow we make it work... hes thinking of moving here this summer:)
I checked school because I am in university right now but at the end of april when I am finished it will be military (5 months). It sucks!
hes stationed across the country and I cannot afford out of state tuition for college or id be there in the blink of an eye :(
We started dating after I moved away for work. Then I moved again for grad school. We have only been friends while we lived in the same town. It's nice because we have time for our friends during the week. But it sucks because we miss each other too much. Oh well, less than six months and we're together for the rest of our lives!
We met online and knew that it would be a while before we could be together forever. He is finishing up school in So. Oregon and has a decent job that gives him the flexibility he needs to get to classes. I own a company in No. California and split custody of my son, which I would lose if I moved out of state. I also am close to my grandparents who need extra help, as my grandfather is very sick.
Our plan is that he will be able to move down once he finished school, that is if he can find a job in his field (which will be hard in this economy) or transfer with his current job. He might have to take a job in his field there (he has one lined up) and wait even longer.
Fingers crossed.
I voted military but we're a combination of the three. After high school (we were just friends then) he stayed in the state where we went to HS and I went to college near my hometown. Then he joined the military and was stationed 2 hours away when we got involved. Now he's deployed again to Seoul, 14 hours across the Pacific. When he comes back he'll be reporting to his home state which is about a six hour drive.
We were going to close the gap at some point this year. . .at least to where he'd stay with me a few weeks at a time and work from home. . .Then I changed career paths which will keep the gap open for what looks to be 2-3 more years!
I'm just very grateful we both have the same cell phone provider. . .free unlimited mobile to mobile. :)
School...bleh!
I'm in France, and he's back in the U.S (Ohio). It's tough- hasn't even been a month yet! I'll be here till the end of June. Any tips? We can't talk on the phone, only internet (e-mail/Skype)
6 year LDR here! Different provinces, states, countries, even continents at times! Frequently 4 months between week-long visits. Now we live an 8 hr drive apart, but we'll be living together in June, YAY!!! (have lived together for a few months here and there when we could)
I'm in med school, and he's in the oil business. Hopefully I match into an oil state for residency, or we might have to LDR our marriage after the first year!
We've always been an LDR--met while traveling, halfway between where we live!
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