Post # 1
I have been hunting for my dress for a while. Finally narrowed down my options to 2 dresses.
One of them ball gown ( to be converted into A line) and a mermaid style.
Im not sure I’m a bit complicated or if it happens to other brides but I have not ordered my dress because I just can’t decide which dress to go with and the clock is ticking.
I have made polls, asked friends, family and it seems like the winner is mermaid because itlooks best on me.
I love both, but at night when I’m going to bed and put thought into it, I wonder: what is this really about?
Is it about how people will see me on my wedding day?
How comfortable I will be with whichever gown I choose?
How the style fits me?
How the dress makes me feel?
The beauty / glamour of the dress itself?
Lifestyle/ looks – conservative vs sexy look?
Most like the answer is a combination of all, but what was the determinant factor that made you choose your wedding dress? What is it really about ?
Post # 3
@JAM1982: For me its about the look on my FI’s face when he see’s me i want the wow effect, and of course it’s about feeling glamorous.
Post # 4
For me it was about traditions, the venue and my strong dislike of most modern gowns. I wore my mother’s beautiful dress with the sleeves. To me it felt like a wedding dress with all the layers it took the corset, the length it just made me feel like a princess lol. It also was totally church appropriate and an heirloom. My mother will preseve the dress so that if I had a daughter or if someone else wants to wear it they can. We will also preserve both my mom’s vintage veil which I did not wear at all and my veil.
Post # 5
I had an unconventional outfit but my main priority was to look like me and wear something that reflected me. At the same time, I was conscious that I wanted DH to love what I wore so he saw all the individual elements of the outfit ahead of the day. When he saw me on the day he was thrilled which was lovely.
But to answer your questions, I do think that it’s important to take practicality as well as impact into account. There are some beautiful dresses out there but a wedding day, and all it entails, is very different from a catwalk. So personally, I couldn’t wear anything that I couldn’t walk or sit down in! At a recent wedding taking place in town, the bride’s dress was so enormous (think Big Fat Gypsy Weddings style here) that it took 10 minutes to prise her out of the limo. It wasn’t a graceful start to the ceremony especially when she started screaming and hollering because she thought she was stuck in there forever!
Also, no matter how beautiful a dress looks on the hanger, you need to choose a style that suits your own body shape because otherwise, the dress starts wearing the bride rather than the other way round!
Now this is where my unexpectedly conventional side kicks in because I think that the choice of dress should take some account of where the ceremony is being held. Only there are some frocks that look wildly out of place in a church. I’m thinking particularly of the sort of very low fronted strapless variety which barely contain the bride’s breasts.
The main thing is to choose the sort of dress that suits you and your wedding and it is equally important not to allow other people to impose their decisions on you.
Post # 6
- Wedding: October 2014 - UK
I want something that when I wear it I look like me – which sadly hasn’t been the case with the shape I thought I wanted (mermaid!) – but I also want something that looks elegant and timeless, so it won’t look dated.
Post # 7
for me it’s about what pretty much all outfits are about … what am I going to be doing that day, and what would be the best thing to wear for that occaision?
I’m going to a wedding… better get dressed up!
I’m the bride… might make it a white dress, and add a veil so everyone knows I’m the bride.
There’ll be lots of photos that will hang around forever … I’ll make sure the dress is flattering and that I really love it
It’s outside… some lace sleeves would be good, take the edge off any chill in the air
There’ll be dancing after… make it a short a-line dress because that’s the perfect dancing shape!
that was pretty much my decision process. but some people prefer the ‘this is my ONE chance to wear a crazy dramatic princess dress’ approach, and I get that. I love princess dresses. but when it came down to it, I wanted our wedding to be a fun party and that called for a fun party dress.
so, do you want your dress to be perfectly suited to the occasion, or do you want to wear the most awesome dress you can find just because you can? or is there a happy medium?
Post # 8
Honestly your wedding dress is something only YOU will remember for the rest of your own life. Other people will probably forget what it looks like in years to come. That’s because the dress means something to you, not them.
My advice is go with your gut. Pick the dress you want, whether its comfort or glamour or elegance or whatever you are going for. Polls and opinions of family/friends should only serve as reference… ultimately YOU are the one wearing this dress to marry the man YOU love. Think about how you want to remember the moment you walk down the aisle. 🙂
That being said, try not to put too much pressure on yourself over a dress. The garment should not make or break your most important day. Just have fun!
Post # 9
For me, it was how I looked and comfortable in the dress. I wanted to make sure that I looked amazing but still me, and that the dress was something that I could dance, move, sit, etc. in without being uncomfortable. I really wanted something dramatic, like a mermaid or fit and flare, but they just did not look that great on me. I ended up with a flowy chiffon sheath with some beading at the top (which I didn’t want lol). I fell in love with the little details and the fact that I could move and sit comfortably in it.
Post # 10
For me, it was about comfort above all else. I love how fit-n-flares/mermaids look but they were tight around my ribs and there was no way I could wear that for longer than 30 minutes. I ended up with an A-line and I couldn’t be happier. Plus, that’s my FI’s favorite style so it worked out great. I love sparkle so I knew I’d get a dress with some beading (the bodice of my dress is covered in beading/crystals). I hate tulle, so I knew that my dress would have to be some other fabric.
Post # 11
- Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA
I wanted one that was flattering, that I knew my FI would like, and that fit my style/personality. So for me, that meant a dress that was more low-key rather than super glamorous. I wanted to feel comfortable and like me, rather than feeling like I’m in a bride costume…
Post # 12
I needed my dress to express who I am, and I found one! My dress looked like it wandered out of the 1870s with the ornate skirt and MASSIVE train! It also made me feel SO skinny–which was good, because I hit my lowest weight of all time for the wedding!
Post # 13
How it looked on me and how it made me feel. Also the lovely details on it. I could also move and sit in it easily. It wasn’t too poofy or too tight. It really is all the questions. Lol
Post # 14
Your dress should be something you want to wear. Don’t wear it for anybody but yourself- choose something that you feel great in- the more comfortable you are, the better you will feel and move.
It doesn’t have to be a world-changing dress. It should just be the dress that’ll get you to the altar and get the job done!
Enjoy the process. Don’t worry about what anybody else thinks. If nobody else likes __ but you love it, screw it and just get it! At the end of the day, just go for it– nobody is going to get hurt from a wedding dress choice, silly!
(note: if you have strict religious rules, maybe stick with them? Other than that, there aren’t any rules for what kind of a dress you should get)
Post # 15
The way I saw it, this was the most beautiful dress I was ever going to wear. I had to love it. If I love it and feel beautiful in it, I will BE beautiful in pictures, to my fiance as I’m walking towards him, and to my family and friends. Get the dress that you love that you feel makes you look most beautiful.
Post # 16
For me it’s the overall tone of my wedding. The dress must fit the look, tone, and theme of my day!