Post # 1
I’m going to sound really old here. During the last few months I have received several event invitations from friends on Facebook. The events include birthday parties, BBQ’s, happy hours, cocktail parties, etc.
The thing is, they are never specifically sent to me as a ‘message’, sometimes they are just posted by a friend in his/her newsfeed or they just sort of appear as an event I need to respond to on my page and were clearly sent to all of the friends of the organizer.
Maybe I am really old or just not used to it yet, but I’m actually a little offended by this. I don’t feel as though I was specifically invited to these events despite the fact that it was set up so I could at least see the invitation. The people who set up these events never actually reach out to me to let me know about it or ask if I’m coming.
Am I crazy or does anyone else feel this way? Can someone explain it to me so I’m not so offended?
Post # 3
If YOU were invited you should be under the awaiting reply. The creater would have clicked on you to send the invite to.
If it just happens to be in your news feed then its something other people are going to.
Post # 4
For public events, I think it’s okay…but for a private party, it’s kind of questionable!
Post # 5
I’m with you… I always wonder if they just checked “invite all friends” or something…I always question if I’m REALLY invited.
Post # 6
I made my invitation private and sent it only to specific people (this was for my guy’s recent birthday party). I thought it was a great way to get in touch with certain folks who I know are FB junkies, lol. My biggest pet peeve regarding this was that few people RSVP’d to it though. Very frustrating. I ended up still having to call and hunt people down in order to find out if they were coming.
Post # 7
I am really not a fan of Facebook invites. For whatever reason, I don’t take them as seriously as I would an Evite, a paper invite through the mail, or an email. They always feel like an afterthought.
Post # 8
I don’t like them. For bar/club events I get them all the time but I feel like that’s more of an advertising/promotional thing.
I think for a personal event (birthday party, BBQ, Shower, etc) it needs to be accompanied with an email, otherwise it doesn’t really feel like the host is inviting me personally but rather casting a net into facebook and just hoping people come.
Post # 9
I understand what you mean. When it isn’t very personal, it makes you wonder if they ever really had you in mind when they made it or if it was just like a big party flyer.0
My FB wedding invite was merely a save-the-date announcement. I didn’t really care who responded and who didn’t because not all my friends are on FB. They will still get an invite in the mail. It was just for them to know the date for sure because my date was up in the air for a while.
I can’t speak for your friends, but I know that I personally selected which of my “friends” I was going to send an invite to. I even put on the invite “If you are receiving this, it’s because you are on our invite list.” That way, there’s no confusion.
Post # 10
I agree, I hate getting invited to events through the FB events thingy. Not only do I rarely look up at the top right corner of the screen so I don’t even notice it for days, but I feel the same as you do- like I was invited through clicking, “Invite All Friends”. Really impersonal, IMO. When I invite people to stuff, I call or e-mail or text message so I know they’ve received it. Eh…
Post # 11
My group of friends (we number about 10) uses them for nailing down details, but we always know about a gathering beforehand. We like to have an official Facebook event page so we can all see who’s coming and who isn’t and if we need to bring anything. It works for us, but I’ve declined going to events hosted by those outside our group because I wasn’t sure if I was a product of the “Invite All” function :).
Post # 12
I feel the same way. I feel like if someone wants me to go to a certain event, send me something where you know I will actually see the invite (e-mail, text message, phone call)? Or at least, don’t get irritated with me for not responding/ showing up.
My roommate was talking about her show the other day (she’s a musician) and I said, “What show? You never invited me.” She said she sent me an invite on “the book” and I said, “Ummm, I live RIGHT ACROSS THE HALL from you… why would you send me something on FB instead of just yelling out your door?” lol. Technology creates silliness sometimes.
Post # 13
That’s exactly it, it doesn’t seem personal at all. And just to clarify, these are events that my friends create and I’m technically invited to, not events that they are attending and I can see. And I also don’t ever look in that corner so like for example a BBQ I am invited to in a couple days I just noticed.
I can understand if it’s something a friend had already mentioned to me and just posted on FB to give all teh details, but it is never the case with these events. I honestly dont’ know if it was a ‘invite all’ situation or what because it’s so impersonal.