(Closed) What is up with my guest wanting to wear my wedding colors?

posted 6 years ago in Themes
Post # 3
2450 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

maybe they want you to know (by looking at what they’re wearing) that they put thought and effort into looking good for your wedding by coordinating with it?

Post # 4
554 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I wouldn’t have thought it was a done thing. I asked my mum if she was going to wear something in our colours (blue/silver) and she just said “no…” like ‘duh wtf?’ Her response amused me greatly.

Post # 5
169 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

i quite like the idea of guests coordinating with the wedding party, but im quite obsessive with things being symetrical so for me it wouldnt be an issue.

Post # 6
7561 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2013

I agree it’s weird but they’re just doing it to support you. Try telling them nicely that you only want the wedding party in your colors so they really pop. 

Post # 7
376 posts
Helper bee

i had people ask the color to make sure that they DIDN’T weart it. Could that be the case?

Post # 8
1403 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

I think it would be nice if everyone wore my weddng colors.  Then they would all match!

Post # 9
3 posts
  • Wedding: December 1969

We had a wedding last weekend and one of the guest had on the exact same yellow silver and white dress that the bride changed into for the reception. Can you say embarrasing. Im not a fan of the idea, I think it takes away from the wedding with everyone matching. 

Post # 10
3569 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I’ve never heard of that. Just fib a bit and say your still deciding colors, and you welcome quest to wear any color they want.

Post # 11
295 posts
Helper bee

if your biggest problem in life is your guests wearing purple.. id say you have it pretty good. move on.

Post # 12
94 posts
Worker bee

It’s a bit strange guests asking about colours – none of mine have. However, I really don’t think you can do anything about it, people are free to wear what they want. 

    You could try requesting that people avoid that colour but don’t be too strict. A friend of mine requested no black to be worn at her wedding (I didn’t think it needed to be a request as surely noone wears black to a wedding!) and surprise! loads of guests wore black. Hate to say it but some people just have a habit of wanting to do the opposite of what is requested of them.

    Just smile and enjoy your day!

Post # 13
1361 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

You can’t tell guests what to wear at the wedding.  You can say you haven’t decided yet and that you’d be happy for guests to wear any color, but you can’t tell them they can’t wear purple, or even that you’d prefer them not to.  That’s a bit rude, IMO.

Post # 14
1839 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

haha when i finally figured out our colors and told my Future Mother-In-Law she immediately ordered a dress in one of the colors.

Post # 15
1769 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

that’s so strange to me – when I get invited to a wedding I DON’T match the wedding colors – I want it to be clear I’m not in the Bridal Party…that’s what my mom always told me to do. Huh.

Post # 16
2742 posts
Sugar bee

What culture are you? In my culture, you match the wedding party. I’m West African and that’s how many weddings in my culture have been. Most guests, especially close families wear ‘aso ebi’ which is something designated by either the bride/groom or the families to show the close relationship to the people getting married. I only see a majority of guests not wearing ‘non wedding colors’ in what I’d term ‘American’ weddings. Different strokes 🙂

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