Post # 1
We got married exactly two weeks ago – I’m starting a new name here because I think I may have some post stalkers from real life and don’t want them following all my marriage business!
The whole time, we’ve been very much “We don’t know if we want kids. Not ruling it out, but definitely not sure.” I’ve never been one who absolutely wanted kids – very take it or leave it. The one thing I did know is I want to make up our minds in the next 2 years. We’re 29 and I would rather not wait long to get started if we’re going to have a family.
For the last few days, my boobs have been really sore, and even though I have Nexplanon (and don’t get periods because of it), I took a pregnancy test… just to make sure. Negative. Whew. I asked Darling Husband if it freaked him out that I had that possibility in the back of my mind, and he said that it didn’t, which was interesting.
So… why am I sitting here, exactly two weeks after the wedding, looking up baby rooms and baby names? Reading birth stories?
I’m not all of a sudden wanting a baby tomorrow, but seriously — is this what happens after marriage? Your outlook on kids changes so fast? This is like bizarro world for me.
Post # 3
It didn’t happen for me right after we got married but yes the Baby Fever set in fast when we finally decided we did want kids. I did find myself browsing baby stuff online and definitely stalking the TTC and pregnancy boards on here.
Post # 4
Change of heart ?
It can happen…
And it is natural.
Being in LOVE isn’t just emotional… it is also hormonal.
Finding yourself wanting to have a baby with a person you love is completely normal… and YES it can be a HUGE deal
When I was in high school, college, uni etc I was the gal who said… Take it or leave it… I like my life the way it is
Kids “looked to be” a lot of worries, troubles etc
BUT after I got married, I fell in love with the idea of seeing little MissMe and little MrHim running around
So within 3 years I got pregnant with baby # 1 (good timing, as it was nice to have some just US time… mind you we were in our early 20s when we married)
No regrets when it came to our kids… kids were great
Lots of regrets about my first marriage… it wasn’t the best… looking back I believe we got married too young (but then so did everyone else in the 1980s). Never gave myself enough time to grow up / find myself. Waiting 2 or 3 years more would have made a bigger difference I think… mid to late 20s.
Hope this helps,
PS… It almost sounds like you are experiencing a “sentimental / sympathetic” pregnancy. You body has your mind fooled… because it is thinking that it might be nice to be pregnant
Post # 5
@BruBright: the exact same thing happened to me and i can’t even have children but my maternal instincts were kicking in. i think it’s because we shared that special day, felt so much love and connection that we wanted to spread that love in the most logical way. it must be a natural feeling for some people.
for me, it’s been a year (next weekend) and those feelings have subsided.
Post # 6
@BruBright: Well, my wedding is still about 6 months away so I don’t know how much my opinion matters lol but before we got engaged we knew we wanted to have a baby in the next few years but didn’t really talk about it much. Then we got engaged in September and talked about trying for a baby next year. But NOW, the more we’re getting into our wedding planning and everything his baby making talk has kicked into high gear and wants to try for a baby on our honeymoon. Which is fine with me! But it’s funny how that works… I think it’s from all of the love and the feeling of closeness as you’re going through this new chapter in your lives together. It’s so exciting!