(Closed) what is wrong with people? rant.

posted 6 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
188 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

WTF? I can’t imagine in a million years going to a friend’s house and pissing in their yard, throwing cigarette butts everywhere, taking things that aren’t mine without asking, or doing drugs. No, just no. Those people are super rude and the drug thing is a serious liability! What if a disgruntled neighbor filed a noise complaint with the cops and they saw whoever it was snorting whatever it was right in your living room or kitchen?

Maybe that’s all “normal” behavior if you’re an inconsiderate asshat, but not if you’re a decent adult human being. You can have a good time and a good party without wrecking someone’s property.

Post # 4
853 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Make new friends. These people are serious losers if no one has taught them by an adult age that you can’t use people’s documents to take your drugs, use the garden as an outhouse, and leave toxic cigarette butts everywhere. 

Try Meetup.com, join literature clubs, volunteer, and network through work to meet new people.

Or, just stop inviting the losers over.

Post # 5
7293 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

Whomever these people are don’t really sound like friends aka respectful and understanding individuals.

Its your place, you draw the line. Please don’t harbor people that are potentially brining illegal drugs into your house in the name of keeping a friendship…

Post # 7
3461 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

If you want to keep them as friends, but change their behavior, I’d start in smaller groups.  In a party, things get out of control.  Hold smaller gatherings such as a dinner party and if someone does something with which you are not cool, politely let them know at the time.  In a small gathering, there is more accountability and it’s harder to hide in a herd (and not be identified) or follow herd mentality it’s ok.  They might be more apt to recognize the behavior is not acceptable if you discuss it with them.  If they continue to repeat it, because it’s FI’s friends, I’d have him speak to them more directly.  If that doesn’t solve it…I’d just stop inviting them over to my place and only see them out or at their place until they change their ways.

Post # 8
2577 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I would not be inviting said people back until they learned not to act like apes.

Post # 9
838 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I had this a few years ago when I was living on my own, friends starting crossing the line. The next time they came over,before they even got through the door, I had to be really firm with them and tell them no smoking or drugs inside my apartment. If you wanna do them,do them in your own car down the road. We always smoked outside anyway,I dont see how it was any different just because there was a “party.” They moaned,bitched and complained about it for the first half hour,but I stood my ground and eventually they came around.

Post # 10
914 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

It is your home and you are the one who has to deal with the aftermath of it. The fact that they would disrespect you and your Fiance enough to do drugs in the house?? Wow, imagine that police raid. If you find it impossible to get new friends (highly advisable) then you have to set some ground rules at the start of any get together. Allow them to smoke outside and sey up several ashtrays around the communal area. When you see someone throw a butt on the ground, go pick it up and place it in the ashtray. If you do this a couple of times, they will hopefully get the hint and do it themselves. Maybe you can even recruit one or two of the more evolved ones to help you out and spread the word that you don’t like this behavior and it’s unfair to you! You are nice enough to invite people over to your house and they are tearing it up. You don’t run a nightclub. And peeing in your garden??? You have to put your hands in that! And all that urea will ruin your plants, not that they would really care it seems.

I’m sorry, I feel for you because I have had several parties like this in my college years, but I learned how to stop the behavior: get new friends or have smaller get togethers.

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