Post # 1
Ok bees, I really don’t like going on rants, but this is the safest place I feel I can get it out.
I have received over 5 invites from FI’s family/guests writing in their own number on the RSVP cards. We have no more room on the guestlist. I told all his immediate family this. Whaaaaat what what is wrong?! We wrote in the name of the guest(s) invited and the number. People are crossing out the number, writing in additional names. Not only is it annoying, but inconsiderate and disrespectful! I don’t understand how much more explicit the cards could have been written to get the point across. I have been trying very hard to be diplomatic but I feel disregarded.
Any advice or words please feel free to send them my way. I need it. This is so discouraging and makes me not even want to be around them.
Post # 3
That sounds super frustrating. At that point it sounds like people know how many people are invited and they just choose to ignore it. So rude! Unfortunately this is pretty common and the only way to deal with it is to call each family directly and tell them the extra people aren’t invited.
Post # 4
the only perk of people being THAT FREAKIN RUDE is that you should feel less bad (or not bad at all really) telling them they can’t come.
Post # 5
You are not alone hon. We invited 2 and got back an RSVP for 7. Its my FI’s family and he had the honors of explaining to them why that was not an option.
Post # 6
Thank you ladies, so much. FI is taking care of it because it is his family. He already had this conversation with the exact same people who are adding numbers. Ugh, so frustrating.
Post # 7
Deep breath. You are not alone. We didn’t get cross outs but we got subsititutions and other foolishness. Just assume they mean no harm and they just don’t get it. Some people are really clueless. This is the tough part of the planning soon it will all be behind you.
Post # 8
My best friend said that her husband may not be able to come and that she’d come by herself UNLESS she brings someone else. EXCUSE ME, say what!!?? Not an option.
We’re having an intimate wedding (ONLY 50 people). We are only inviting immediate family and our VERY BEST friends. Why would she think it’s okay to invite some “random” person. I’m so irritated that I can’t even talk to her about it.