Post # 1
I thought that my SO wouldn’t really want to be too involved in the planning since he told me so a few weeks ago. But he has specific opinions about a lot of things!
Right now, deciding on the venue is on a hold because of this. At first we both agreed that we were not getting married in a church (although we are christians). He told me that he wants a “one-stop-shop” wedding so I decided to look into hotels (my mom has connections in this industry on this island plus it would be easier to plan). Then he realized that there is a possibility that a certain pastor wouldn’t be able to marry us… and now… he’s not sure about a “one-stop-shop” wedding.
I love that he wants to be involved but the wedding should be in April 2014. 5 months from now. Time is running out. We are not bickering or anything but this is a hold up in our timeline. We now are finding the time to verify information. Short engagements really do take a lot of work!
Tell me!!! Is your FI doing anything that is making wedding planning more difficult?
Post # 3
@tiff-tiff-tiff: When we were planning our wedding, DH seemed to have an opinion about everything. Haha.
Post # 4
I can’t get him to pick a date. I really need this to start planning.
Post # 5
At 1st I thought his lack of not wanting to help in the planning process was making things difficult. However, now I feel like him not wanting to be involve in the wedding planning process has turned out to be a beautiful thing.
Post # 6
i’m having a wedding BECAUSE of my fiance. i personally would have rather spent the money on something else but he insisted being that he is from a large italian family.
i would have MUCH rather gone on a fantastic vacation, had a private ceremony + a photographer and come back a married couple.
so the whole wedding planning process is BECAUSE of him lol
Post # 7
@tiff-tiff-tiff: he agrees with me too much. I ask him to pick one or the other and he picks both because “you have great ideas babe! I’ll be happy with anything” lol
Post # 8
we had to have a destination wedding because fiance’s family is MASSIVE. not his fault but still. annoying. he also works a second job on weekends so he is NEVER home, which makes it hard to get any help : (
Post # 9
@pengoala: +1! FI has opinions on everything wedding related, and they usually aren’t the same opinion as mine!
Post # 10
He keeps him monkey wrench handy… We didn’t want save the dates but then he decided we had to send the invites ASAP because he has lots of out of town family… Um, hello you can’t send invites 7 months out….so now we NEED save the dates -_- I love him…
Post # 11
@tiff-tiff-tiff: my FH was against all banquet halls/hotels because he works in the hospitality industry. He wanted somewhere different and unique. He was/is concerned about price. Well uniqueness and non-banquet hall come at an elevated cost around here.
He also doesn’t understand etiquette or time sensitive things. I STILL don’t have addresses for some of his friends, he doesn’t think I need to send them a formal invite, he’ll just text the details (he’s 31…he should know better)
Post # 12
@tiff-tiff-tiff: My DH was pretty detached from the decision making and I included him when i felt like it was something he SHOULD have an opinion on. Like the food, cake and music..etc. The one thing that made it tough on me was my attention to detail and his lack of attention. He didn’t really get why I cared so much about the little things until our wedding day. It was those little things that made it so unique and special to us. It was difficult but well worth it, and in the end he agrees “the devil is in the details!”
Post # 13
@memo: Yup, that sounds about right! 🙂 Ugh. men. haha.
Post # 14
He took a portion of our wedding fund to go buy a PlayStation 4 talk about hindering our wedding plans.
Post # 15
He won’t pick his part of the wedding party! I’m planning around it, but seriously! He doesnt have any super-close guy friends and the friends he has didnt ask him to be part of their wedding parties a few years ago so he feels weird asking them. He has 2 brothers – one is 15 years younger and the other is a few years older but really unreliable and kind of hard to be around so they’re not the most ideal choices. But really he’s not going to make a new BFF in the next 5 months… so just figure it out! lol
Post # 16
FH doesn’t have an opinion about anything. He just agrees with me. I went with him to try on some suits the other day and he wouldn’t say if he liked one or didn’t like one, just whatever I thought. I want him to be comfy. It’s his wedding too after all.
He also won’t get any addresses from his friends. He thinks he’s just going to tell them when and where and be done with it. I’m sending out invitations next month.