Post # 1
My boy’s love language is physical touch. He loves to kiss and cuddle, and when we’re hanging out, he has to be touching me at all times. That could mean holding hands, or just putting his arm around me, or setting his hand on my leg.
I would be lying if I said it wasn’t TOO much sometimes, but I’d rather it be too much than none at all. I know I’m lucky I have an affectionate guy and I want to make him happy!
What is your SO’s love language?
Post # 3
Words of affirmation, which is also my love language. We spend a lot of time telling each other how much we live each other and the reasons why.
Post # 4
@pokie45: My FI’s is the same as your SO’s – physical touch. Which is mine, too, followed by words of affirmation. He gives me lots of them and I give him lots of physical touches, so it works out well. 😉
Post # 5
We have it so easy. While neither of us have one dominant love language, we both have two tied for first place and a third trailing closely behind. Mine are touch and service, followed by quality time, and his are touch and quality time, followed by service. Luckyyyy!
Needless to say, we are constantly touching each other. If I don’t loop my arm through his or put my arm around him, he sets his hand on the small of my back or holds my hand. We hug a lot and are self-proclaimed “extreme cuddlers.” We also take a lot of pride in doing favors for each other – admittedly, he’s better at that one, but I’m catching up! And we spend a lot of time together.
When I told my mother our love language results, her reaction was, “Well I could have told you that. I’ve known you two were twin souls the first time I saw you smile at him.” Awwww.
Post # 6
Heh, Mine is being a Jerk. He says you only pick on the ones you love, but he usually makes it up by spending quality time with me.
Post # 7
I’d say physical touch (even just passing each other in a room he/we will reach out and touch the other person’s hand, back) followed closely by words of affirmation. We talk a LOT, lol. 🙂
Post # 8
We both say I Love You all the time, but I’d say touch and acts of service…He always has to grab me when we’re close or passing…and just last night he left an umbrella open and waiting in the garage for me, so I could use it to get to the house when I got home.
Post # 10
We are both words of affirmation followed closely by touch, so we are a great match in that department! It’s really wonderful b/c we never hesitates to say how we really feel, and I can never hear ‘i love you’ too much!
@peasantsong: Us too. it’s great isn’t it?!
Post # 11
it’s pretty much everything, except that we don’t exchange gifts that often. the first place goes to physical touch and affirmation words, acts of service like cooking, looking after pets and sometimes cleaning go second.
Post # 12
I wish this was one of those polls that I could check all of them, because FI is all of them!
Post # 13
@linssi: Mine is pretty much the same, as am I. We’re pretty much all the love languages (although we do little gifts rather than big ones mostly).
Post # 14
FI’s is Physical Touch, I think. I’m going to get him to read that chapter and see what he thinks though. He definitely loves and responds to his hair being stroked, me putting my hand on his knee while we are driving, cuddling all the time, random hugs. If I don’t hug him or hold his hand, he thinks I am mad at him.
Mine is Receiving Gifts, which has been a problem in our relationship. I’m still upset about my birthday this year…no card, and two movies from Walmart as a “stand-in gift until I have time to get you a real one.” He is in no way a jerk, of course. His family just doesn’t do cards or gifts, so he still has problems understanding that it is a big deal to ME.
Post # 15
I don’t know. How do you find out?
Post # 16
@Handful: From this book The Five Love Languages. My coworker recommended it. It was very interesting – eye opening for sure.
ETA: The premise of the book is that a marriage counselor deduced that there are 5 main different types of ways that people show love for one another. The book talks about the problems that arise when people have different love types, and how to recognize those types and nourish them in your partner.