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What do you expect the men to wear? Suits? If so, then you can just tell the girls that it's the cocktail attire.
We're rolling with semi-formal or cocktail party attire. Ours is not formal nor black tie.
At my venue, "gentlemen' are not allowed to wear shorts in the evening hahaha
So I'm just going to wrod it int he way that the venue does, and hopefully that will give people the hint that it SHOULD be semi-formal attire. I might even put "semi-formal attire, please" after the "no shorts on men" thing.
I'm going to make a facebook page for my friends (since most of them are in college and don't yet understand the going to a weding ettiquette) and put something in there about semi formal dress, no shorts on guys (AND PLEASE NO JEANS!)
I don't think I'm even going to give a requirement. I'm hoping they know that jeans are not ok, that's basically my only DON'T. We're really not trying to make it too formal and I know a lot of my FI's family (the women) won't feel comfy in a dress or gown so paint suits are fine. As long as you, your groom and your wedding party look amazing, the rest won't even matter!
I have the same question, I want everyone to come to my wedding dressed formal/suit and tie but I don't know how to let everyone know. Is there a way other than word of mouth that I can tell them?
If your event is going to be formal but not black tie, and your girls are wearing cocktail length dresses...then you should say "cocktail attire" --- this means non-floor length dresses (girls) and suits/jacket and pants (guys)
Ours is black tie optional. It is a formal wedding but I do not want people who don't already own tuxes to feel obligated to go out and spend $100 renting one...especially since we'll have a TON of out of town guests, and that is a lot to ask after already spending $$ on flight and hotel.
dressy to cocktail attire.
Kinda like Kentucky Derby attire! We'll be outside but want it to be nice.
@nlmiele: Cocktail attire is like semi-formal. Women in cocktail dresses and men in suits.
I don't care if guys show up to my wedding in a nice button up or polo and jeans, to be honest.
But if you'd rather have them slightly more dressy yet not over-the-top I would definitely go with black tie!
I think there are regional differences in what is meant by the different levels of attire. I know that here cocktail attire means ladies in knee length dresses and men in slacks and dress shirts, (or a very casual suit without a tie, or a sweater and tie combo). Bud definitely short of a suit.
We're doing black tie optional. Our groomsmen will be in suits and bridesmaids will be in floor length gowns. I want people to get really dressed up but don't want them to feel that they have to rent a tux.
We are doing cocktail attire. Hopefully nobody shows up in a skanky tube dress. But I guess the same person that would wear the skanky dress for cocktail attrie would wear it for semi-formal too.
No one asked me what they should wear, and I didn't really go around asking anyone to wear anything in familar. I do have to say, though, my hubby's on cousin who decided to dress her boys in jeans should have asked first (especially when they usually dress in nothing but nice clothes)!
How can your venue stipulate the dress requirements as no less than black tie optional? Does that mean they'll refuse to admit someone if they don't like how they're dressed? One would hope people know how to dress for a wedding, but there's always someone who shows up wearing something inappropriate. Nothing surprises me anymore.
Ours will be formal...but not quite black tie (i.e. men in dark suits, but not tuxes).
Our venue requires all men to wear a jacket and tie and no denim is allowed (not that I expect anyone to show up in jeans anyway!). I've noted these requirements on our wedding website.
I wanted black tie but I also don't want people to feel the need to rent tuxes so black tie optional it is
Ha! We had 3 people show up in jeans and 2 with sneakers on and baseball caps in a ballroom! Even tho we were asked and told them not to buy suits,but to wear nice pants and a jacket....I was shocked when I saw them. Once they were there,what could we do?
I've seen printed on an invitation 'Elegant Attire Requested', and that was a first for me.
My other daughter had better figure something out for her guests in May,as her wedding is at the beach at a yacht club. We're spreading the word early about no shorts/Hawaian shirts...but I'll bet we have one or two! lol
I was going to say Cocktail attire, but changed it to Formal since I think that's a step up from Cocktail. My gown is very dressy, the church and ballroom are grand so I think it's slightly more appropriate than Cocktail. although everyone is just going to wear Cocktail attire no matter what we say.
since mine was in the winter, we went with semi-formal instead of cocktail...my BMs had floor length dresses, but it was more of a "not jeans" statement ;)
I haven't really specified, but if anyone asks I'll tell them it's cocktail attire since semi-formal seems to confuse people. It's not quite formal since the bridesmaids will be in tea length dresses, but I still want to make sure people dress nicely. Apparently one of my mom's friends insisted that since the venue is a "ranch" that it's a casual event. I'd just like to see her show up in jeans and a flannel. ;)
Semi-formal and wedding appropriate (ie. not skanky.) Halloween costumes optional!
my reasoning is not so people don't wear jeans.. I would hope they would know not to do that. But more because when I go to weddings, I always like to know and I over analyze if I don't. Just like to be appropriate. thank you all for your help
We aren't specifying it on our invitations because our friends and family definitely dress up for weddings. If anything, they may overdress for our outdoor, daytime wedding! "Sunday best" or "dressy casual" is what I would say. Lightweight suits or khaki and blazer for men, sundresses for women. But really, I don't mind what they wear! I know no one will wear jeans or shorts, and even if they do, it won't be the first thing on my mind... though I know FI will notice, he's old fashioned about appropriate attire!
@ Modern Daisy: Just FYI "Formal" means Floor length gowns for women and Tuxes for men. This is totally fine if it's what you want....but you said you wanted to be just one step above cocktail - so that would probably be "Semi-Formal" (knee length or floor length gowns for women and suits for men).
(not trying to play with semantics - just trying to help :) As a wedding guest, I really try to follow the bride's preferences)
@Smyley: My venue was a very formal private club which requires certain dress codes for all its members every day. I didn't mind though because I had planned on a pretty formal wedding anyway :)
We're not saying anything on the invites or otherwise. It's considered rude to dictate the attire, and weddings are semi-formal (Sunday best or business casual) by default unless mentioned otherwise. Neither of us feels right forcing our guests to buy expensive clothes they'll never wear again or even requesting that they do so. Whatever they choose to wear is fine.
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What are you advising guests to wear on your day? People are asking me and while it is going to be a pretty formal event my bridesmaid dresses are not floor length. what should I say? what are you doing?