Post # 1
Mine would have to be, nobody showing up or everybody showing up and a fight break out.
I have a very big family especially on my moms side (she has 6 siblings) and all of them have had their past grudges amongst each other (my mom always seems to know how to start a fight between her brothers and sisters) and Im so scared that since everybody doesnt like/hates each other that im going to go all out on this wedding and nobody show up just bc of the fact that they are all mad at each other for some reason. Also my mom and step mom hates each other, my dad wants nothing to do with my mom even though they have two children together and a grandson.
For an example, when my brother and his FI were having their baby shower for their baby (my nephew) we almost did a separate shower, one for my moms side and one for my dads side bc of the fact that my mom and step mom hates each other and we were so afraid that an arguement, fight or some kind of disagreement would break out between them. We ended up having one that was all together but words were said to me personally from my mom after it was all over and im sure words were said from my step mom also.
Its extremely hard to have a family come together for an event such as a wedding when everybody isnt very fond of each other.
Both me and my FH come from divorced parents and both of our parents are remarried. The holidays are chaos for us.
Post # 3
@cmoest: I have the same fear – about the arguments happening, particularly at the hens day/night…….and since we’re TTC at the moment, baby showers are on my mind too! I have the opinion that I’m not the one who divorced, so why do I have to suffer the consequences?
Post # 4
Are your parents reasonable people? Can you have a heart-to-heart with them and share your angst? Communication is ALWAYS the best approach in situations like this. Tell them how you feel and express your heartfelt desire to have a day free of drama that is just a celebration of the love and commitment that you and your fiance share. Ask them to respect that. I hope that they would make the decision to be mature adults and not put a damper on your wedding day.
My biggest fears leading up to the wedding are:
1. getting sick
2. catostrophic weather
Post # 5
@cmoest: I worry that I will look terrible in all of the pictures 🙁
Post # 6
I worry that FI’s family won’t come. I know a lot of them won’t as they are all in another country, but my fingers are crossed desperately for his parents and his brother. That’s all I’m asking for.
Post # 7
I will probably do that but its not issues just between my parents. Theres issues between my mom and my aunt, theres issues between my mom and cousin. Theres lot of issues throughout my family between my mom and her family.
Theres also issues between me and my aunt on my dads side. Issues to where Im not sure if I should even send them an invite, I havent talked to her in over 6 months bc of the fact that her 12 year old daughter wanted to get on facebook and personal message me, saying very rude things to me about my new born nephew, cussing at me, telling me that I dont know what love is and that I dont need to get married to my SO, etc. (im 23) so I thought I was handling it like an adult and called her mom to talk to her about it and there was no point, her mom completely took her daughters side, by yelling at me, cussing at me, telling me that im the one that needs to grow up and stop argueing with a 12 year old….WHAT?!!?!?! And she knew that her daughter was saying those things to me.
I would tell all the details but it would be like a soap opera but just a little bit more messed up than that.
Post # 8
We bought a specodices destination wedding package that only includes 40 people (anybody above that is anextra cost) so I’m worried that we will either have too few people or too many.
My other major fear is a tropical rainstorm.
Post # 9
I have an irrational fear that I will fall down in my dress in front of the guests. Or that I will get the flu or a virus and be sick, that I will have a breakout during that week and have zits all over my face, that I will look terrible in my pictures (makeup and hair).
Post # 10
I worry that my aunt flow will arrive on my wedding day. She always comes early when I am stressed out 🙁
Post # 11
Being sick on our wedding day! 9 days to go and I still have tonsilitis 🙁 I have been through two rounds of antibiotics too! Also, looking bad in pictures and someone getting drunk and starting a fight (thinking of one person in particular)
Post # 12
unflattering pictures! seriously. silly, I know..
Post # 13
My biggest fear is that my guests won’t have fun and won’t dance. I’m also shy to dance in front of people, so I’ll have to get over that. I have time though.
ETA: also that my FMIL and mom won’t get along. They are both strong-willed women that wouldn’t hold anything back. needless to say, I am afraid to get them together. In the 6 years of dating, they haven’t met in person.
Post # 14
biggest wedding fears right here, they’re on-par with eachother:
very few people showing up.
our guests not having a good time, or dancing.
FIL getting drunk and causing a scene.
on-going drama continuing until (and after) our wedding.
people who aren’t invited, showing up in an attempt to ruin our day.
i have IBS and anxiety, and when i’m anxious/nervous, it is reflected in my bowels.. LOL…
being able to cope financially next year, after the wedding (i’m looking for work at the moment, and with my anxiety flaring up a lot recently, it’s proving difficult)
won’t like my hair, makeup or wearing my dress.
i have PCOS (with very irregular periods) and i wouldn’t be surprised if on my wedding day, i have my period, or get it unexpectedly.
getting married is a breeze, right? never felt a single pang of stress at all.
Post # 15
I fear I will look fat or my fiance will hate how I look. So superficial but that is my honest answer.
Post # 16
what it will end up costing!!!!!!!!!!