Post # 1
Happy Friday Ladies. I hope everyone is looking forward to an amazing weeding
Anyway, one of the things I love most about this site is always being able to find someone who can relate to whatever problem a person seems to be having at the time.
The support is amazing!
So, anyway the point of my post today is to ask everyone to please share what they found to be the most annoying thing they dealt with while wedding planning??
Mine biggest frustionation is people thinking/expecting/demanding a plus-one when we are not having them for people who are not married, engaged, or in a serious relationship (due to the size of the venue and both of us having big families). I think it is super rude and it completely drives me crazy!
So please share your stories I am super interested!!
Post # 3
MONEY!!! I am so annoyed with how much money we are going to spend, I regret not doing a small DW like we originally were thinking about..but we both thought we would feel like we were missing out. And we love love our venue so…yeah big wedding here we are
We cannot avoid the money lol it stinks but its annoying to think about! I hope it is worth it!!
peoples requests/opinions aren’t bothering me…I have no issues saying no and I am doing exactly what I want ( well, all things considered). lol 🙂
Post # 4
I don’t know if it’s the thing that I find/will find most annoying, but I’m currently annoyed about family members adding family and friends to the guest list but not providing the guests’ full names and/or mailing addresses.
Post # 5
That everyone keeps asking about it. Like at any family gathering or someone I haven’t seen in a minute. I know it’s a easy go to topic for small talk, but I feel like during this year I’m not a real person anymore, just a “bride”. Can’t we just talk about normal people topics, like the weather?
Post # 6
@March1stBride: Mine is the same as yours! I cannot BELIEVE the nerve of some of guests (who aren’t even dating anyone!) who expect a plus one. No one is getting a plus one outside of our wedding party since our wedding can be 40 people max due to a contract with a vendor. No one! That does unfortunately include on friend in a “serious” relationship (with a guy who refuses to propose after almost a decade) but oh well.
Post # 7
So far, my frustration has fueled from one main ‘issue’, and that is certain family members making ‘suggestions’, or sometimes demands to make it about ‘them’, and not ‘us’.
For example, my FMIL – whom I do adore, and get along with really well reaches out to me for things solely surrounding how to make the day best and easiest for her, and her only. Yes, this is her first child getting married, and yes, she is extremely important, but a little – or any – support regarding the effort we are putting into this would be greatly appreciated. On top of it, she suggets ideas – that cost money – and has not offered to pay for a thing!! We are FINE with that, 100% OK with paying ourselves, but then please STOP advising us on how to spend OUR money!!
Post # 8
@ebarnes0: I know! I would never dream of demanding a guest to someone else’s wedding! Ours is the same situation as yours we are at 100 person maximum due to a contract with our venue.
@Kit_Kath: I totally get it. It can be a little exhausting. I love talking about my wedding but it does feel like that is the only thing anybody cares about anymore. I find it really uncomftorable when somebody who I know is not invited is asking me about it. I don’t want to talk about it and have that person beleive that they are included but what am I supossed to do answer the questions they have with “Not that you’ll get to see it since you’re not on the guest list”
@Boxerlover24: I am so sure it will be worth it!! But oh yeah I can relate we were in a little sticker shock when we started planning too.
@OUgal0004: I hate those “suggestions” my FMIL (who I love to death and I think she is just the sweetest lady ever) does those as well. I don’t think she realizes it’s annoying.
Post # 9
FIs family has been challenging to say the least, I’ve got 3 weeks to go and now my hair is starting to fall out…pray for me.
Post # 10
The fact that I don’t have any money yet that I can spend on the wedding! I’m waiting for my tax refund (end of January) to reserve a venue, and we’ll have been engaged for a year at that point! Then it’ll be March before I can do anything else… thank goodness we’ve got a long engagement, or else we’d have to go to the courthouse by necessity!
Oh, and we don’t actually know where the wedding is taking place, yet, and obviously we need to figure that out before I can reserve a venue… or caterer… or photographer… etc.
Post # 12
@March1stBride: Not so much with wedding planning per se, but the minute I became a bride, suddenly everyone (even random coworkers) started asking me about my weight, what I was doing to lose weight, and that I shouldn’t be eating that (name of whatever food I was eating at the time) right before the wedding (right, b/c I can gain 5 pounds overnight…). All unsolicited. Like a PP said, you’re no longer a person, but a “bride.” And somehow it’s acceptable to make weight comments to a “bride.” ::Eye roll::
Post # 13
The most frustrating thing I’ve encountered (and I’m going to sound like a total brat saying this…) is that I’m the last of my friends to get married, so I’m not getting the same experience that they had. It’s like they forgot how exciting this time was for them and now they are annoyed that they have to do it all again. I don’t want a low key stagette, I want to go have some drinks! I want to have a shower and be the center of attention! *sigh* Oh well – at least I get to marry my FI
Post # 14
The most frustrating thing for me is that everything with the word “wedding” in front of it automatically has a 200% markup.
Post # 15
@MrsNewDay: OMG I could not agree with you more. That happened to me too. It was like literally the second I got engaged it was “are you planning to lose weight, you need to do it before you buy the dress, want a work out buddy?” and stuff like that. First I didn’t know I needed to lose weight (apparently I was mistaken) and second it would be considered rude to just walk up to somebody and be like “do you plan to lose weight?” so why is it okay once you become a bride-to-be?
Post # 16
@March1stBride: I’m very early in the planning stages but my pet peeve so far is venues that charge one price for “meetings and parties” and another price for weddings. FI found this GORGEOUS place for $650 for the whole day! When I went to call the next day they informed me that a wedding would be $1800. Literally the only difference is me in a white dress. So freaking stupid.