What is your biggest wedding pet-peeve, frustration, or irritating situation?

posted 3 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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2516 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

MONEY!!! I am so annoyed with how much money we are going to spend, I regret not doing a small DW like we originally were thinking about..but we both thought we would feel like we were missing out. And we love love our venue so…yeah big wedding here we are

We cannot avoid the money lol it stinks but its annoying to think about! I hope it is worth it!!

peoples requests/opinions aren’t bothering me…I have no issues saying no and I am doing exactly what I want ( well, all things considered). lol 🙂

Post # 4
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301 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I don’t know if it’s the thing that I find/will find most annoying, but I’m currently annoyed about family members adding family and friends to the guest list but not providing the guests’ full names and/or mailing addresses.

Post # 5
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1327 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

That everyone keeps asking about it.  Like at any family gathering or someone I haven’t seen in a minute.  I know it’s a easy go to topic for small talk, but I feel like during this year I’m not a real person anymore, just a “bride”.  Can’t we just talk about normal people topics, like the weather?

Post # 6
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1157 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@March1stBride:  Mine is the same as yours!  I cannot BELIEVE the nerve of some of guests (who aren’t even dating anyone!) who expect a plus one.  No one is getting a plus one outside of our wedding party since our wedding can be 40 people max due to a contract with a vendor.  No one!  That does unfortunately include on friend in a “serious” relationship (with a guy who refuses to propose after almost a decade) but oh well.

Post # 7
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1287 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

So far, my frustration has fueled from one main ‘issue’, and that is certain family members making ‘suggestions’, or sometimes demands to make it about ‘them’, and not ‘us’.  

For example, my FMIL – whom I do adore, and get along with really well reaches out to me for things solely surrounding how to make the day best and easiest for her, and her only.  Yes, this is her first child getting married, and yes, she is extremely important, but a little – or any – support regarding the effort we are putting into this would be greatly appreciated. On top of it, she suggets ideas – that cost money – and has not offered to pay for a thing!!  We are FINE with that, 100% OK with paying ourselves, but then please STOP advising us on how to spend OUR money!!

 

Post # 9
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971 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

FIs family has been challenging to say the least, I’ve got 3 weeks to go and now my hair is starting to fall out…pray for me.

Post # 10
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905 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

The fact that I don’t have any money yet that I can spend on the wedding! I’m waiting for my tax refund (end of January) to reserve a venue, and we’ll have been engaged for a year at that point!  Then it’ll be March before I can do anything else… thank goodness we’ve got a long engagement, or else we’d have to go to the courthouse by necessity!

Oh, and we don’t actually know where the wedding is taking place, yet, and obviously we need to figure that out before I can reserve a venue… or caterer… or photographer… etc.

Post # 11
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320 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2014 - Restaurant

  1. Randon people asking for an invite or assuming they are invited
  2. Family members being overly emotional about traditions we are breaking or wanting to be involved in every single decision
  3. Talking to my FI about wedding planning is like pulling teeth

Post # 12
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2576 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

@March1stBride:  Not so much with wedding planning per se, but the minute I became a bride, suddenly everyone (even random coworkers) started asking me about my weight, what I was doing to lose weight, and that I shouldn’t be eating that (name of whatever food I was eating at the time) right before the wedding (right, b/c I can gain 5 pounds overnight…). All unsolicited. Like a PP said, you’re no longer a person, but a “bride.” And somehow it’s acceptable to make weight comments to a “bride.” ::Eye roll::

Post # 13
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272 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

The most frustrating thing I’ve encountered (and I’m going to sound like a total brat saying this…) is that I’m the last of my friends to get married, so I’m not getting the same experience that they had. It’s like they forgot how exciting this time was for them and now they are annoyed that they have to do it all again. I don’t want a low key stagette, I want to go have some drinks! I want to have a shower and be the center of attention! *sigh* Oh well – at least I get to marry my FI Smile

Post # 14
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1931 posts
Buzzing bee

The most frustrating thing for me is that everything with the word “wedding” in front of it automatically has a 200% markup. 

Post # 16
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6964 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2015

@March1stBride:  I’m very early in the planning stages but my pet peeve so far is venues that charge one price for “meetings and parties” and another price for weddings. FI found this GORGEOUS place for $650 for the whole day! When I went to call the next day they informed me that a wedding would be $1800. Literally the only difference is me in a white dress. So freaking stupid. 

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