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And has it made any difference in your wedding planning? We are both the youngest in our families and unfortunately as a result no one is overly excited about our engagement/wedding. That is actually why I joined weddingbee last June if you check out my first post! I was so fed up with the lack of enthusiasm or even recognition that I got engaged.
But what about others - are you the oldest/youngest/middle/only child? And how has that impacted your plans?
I'm the oldest and it s*cks in terms of wedding planning. FI is youngest, but we're both the first to get married in our families. This leads to clueless parents that expect way too much and get easily frustrated.
I look at being the youngest as an opportunity to do whatever I want. Having been through 2 traditional weddings- and seeing my poor sisters try to check off this huge list- I don't want/have to do it. It's great. I should excercise my freedom with a circus wedding or something. :)
I'm the youngest by *a lot* - my sisters are 18 and 15 years older than me. Basically, once I was old enough to remember anything, they had both moved out. So, even though I have sisters, I essentially grew up as an only child. And it makes me a little sad, when I read about women asking their sisters to be bridesmaids, since my sisters and I just aren't all that close due to our huge age difference.
I'm the youngest & the only girl & FI is the oldest. If it were up to me, we'd get married on the beach somewhere in Cape May, NJ & have a reception with about 80 people. Sounds like a dream to me. But since I'm the only girl & FI is one of the 1st in his family to get married - we kinda have to have a big hoopla.
Edit: @ Redherring - I'm the same as you! My brothers were 18,17 & 12 when I was born. I was my oldest brothers flowergirl when I was in 2nd grade!! My brothers aren't in my wedding but my nieces are - they'll be 23 by my wedding day. LOL
I'm the oldest, but 3rd to get married. Weddings were old hat in my family by the time we got to me, but that's ok.
FI and I are both the youngest, and both of us are babied by our parents. It's good because both sets of parents are contributing a lot and we're very grateful. For my parents, however, that also means that they get a lot of decision-making power in certain things. But I would definitely say that my parents are more excited about my wedding than my older sister's; her's was much more low-key, less formal, done in a much shorter time (but still very nice). FI's older brother isn't married yet, so this is all new for his parents!
I'm an only child, so it's made it a little more difficult to concede to other opinions. I'm pretty stubborn.
Fi and I ae both the youngest. (I see a trend) I sometimes feel like an only child as my brother was in trouble a lot and away from home a lot. We are also older and it's his 1st marriage, my second. His family is over the moon excited and wants to talk about it all the time. Mine is slowly warming up and getting into it.
Weeellll...I'm my mom's only child, but my dad has 6 other kids. So in one family the wedding is a huge deal, but in the other it's sort of just "there". My dad has a lot going on with his other kids so my wedding is kind of just another "thing" going on. FI is the oldest (with just one younger sister), so the wedding is tremendously important in his family.
In some ways it's good because we don't have anything to "live up to" so to speak. But at the same time, we're sort of setting the bar? Which is a lot of pressure.
We're both the youngest in our families, but we are also both the least likeliest in our families to get married, so there has been plenty of enthusiasm on both sides.
We are both the oldest, but were both the last in our families to get married. I think folks were over it ahead of time.
We're also both the youngest of much older siblings. My brothers are 7 and 9 years older and his are 14 and 2 years older.
But, we are also the first to get married on both sides. So, everyone is pretty excited.
I'm the youngest of just two...and the only daughter. My FI is also the youngest of three boys. No one thought he'd ever get married, so it's a big deal all around. Quite exciting.
I'm a middle child, and haven't found that it's affected anything with wedding planning. My older brother was planning his wedding at the same time as mine, so maybe that's why I didn't get a lot of grief about the way things "should" be done, since there was only so much attention to go around, lol...
I have one younger unmarried brother. FH has 2 younger sisters, both married with kids. We've actually lucked out on both sides - our families are very involved but accepting of our decisions. 
Im an only and he's the youngest. This is my seond wedding, and his 2 siblings have gone before, so the pressure is off.
i'm the youngest of 2. My older sister was married 4 years ago and i guess it hasn't really impacted any of my wedding plans.. i do get alot of "well, we did it like this for her wedding.." from my mom but they know that my head is full of "different" ideas and they are both open to my plans.
FI is the oldest of 3 and the first to get married.. well we think..we joke his younger sister will get married before we will because our engagement is so long.
:)
I'm the oldest and FH is an only child. Also, my younger brother is NO WHERE near marriage-ready! (he would be the first to admit it).
I don't think it has impacted the way my parents act - they are super excited but also like "you're an adult, you can have whatever you want" - no really "right or wrong" with what I'm doing....even though mom still thinks it's odd to have cupcakes and no formal wedding cake!
We are both the middle. Both of us have older brothers that are married, but my older brother had a huge wedding and his older brother basically eloped. Also, FH's family is a mixed/blended (not sure of the correct terminology) family. So while his older (half)brother is married, he is his mom's oldest child and her first kid wedding. But this hasn't really caused us any problems. We got a lot of help from his cousin who got married two years ago in finding the venues and things. Also his grandparents put a lot of money toward the wedding for us. My parents helped out too, and had the 70% of my side of the guest list already, which was a huge help.
my guy is the oldest and i'm the middle and since my older sister eloped, this will be the first wedding for both sides so everyone is pretty clueless. that said, my mean independant streak [i once considered it my life's work to make myself as different as possiible from my sisters] has definitely factored into the plans. if my friends haven't done it, i'll do it. or if they did do it, i'll do it differently. lol. habits die so hard!
He's the oldest; I'm the youngest. His bro got married before him, though, about 3 years ago, and my sister got marred 13 years before me! (She's 11 years older.)
I'm not sure if it changed much besides setting a precedent on budget.
I am an only child, however I do have 3 half siblings who are all at least 16 years older than myself. My SO is the oldest of 3 boys.
I'm in the middle and he's the youngest. Read: I'm the peacemaker/easygoing, and he's picky. In wedding planning, this translates into FI setting the tone, and me hoping no one is offended by my decisions :). It works.
I'm the young sister to my older brother. I've always been the peace keeper in my family, but also I am obsessed with not "growing up." I will eat Swedish Fish for dinner and play video games on a typical week day hahaa, and my brother is kinda the same way. I guess age doesn't really matter in that instance. We're both pretty stuck in childhood, and HAPPILY so. Although I don't really believe signs as indicators of personality, eveything I've read about Libras (me) and Scorpios (him) seem pretty on the money, much more so than birth order analyses.
Oh! Edit time! Ka-POW!
I forgot to mention my guy, heh. He's an only child and an introvert. He's very subtle in his humor and likes staying in most nights (he's frickin hilarious though. His soft spoken delivery makes his humor more off the wall and random), while I'm the crazy extrovert that loves meeting new people.
I am the youngest, and spoiled. FI is the middle child, but his siblings are really not in the pcture, so he may as well be an only.
This does not lend well to staying on budget.
I am the youngest and hubs is middle :) We joke about the stereotypes to eachother all the time.
I guess I have to add that while I am totally spoiled being the youngest, part of the reason why my engagement/wedding plans were never really recognized by my family is because there are already 8 grandchildren between my two oldest siblings. 8! And believe it or not, their birthday parties are a much bigger deal to everyone than my wedding. I do love my nieces and nephews very much, but I definitely am still a little disappointed that my getting married isn't as big a deal as their turning 4.
It is a lot smoother being the last to plan a wedding as the older siblings have already blazed the trail and set the budget. I don't have to fight for things like a full open bar since all of my siblings had one.
For you youngest children (which seems to be the majority) - are there a ton more baby pictures of your older siblings than you? I think there are only about 5 pictures of me under the age of 18 (before I went to college and started taking them every weekend).
I'm a middle and my hubby is a middle. We're both 2nd to get married as far as our siblings go. Both our parents were over the excitement of a child getting married so there wasn't much assistance with the planning but that works cuz I got to decide everything myself! Works well for people with Type A personalities like me ;)
I am a middle child and my FI is the oldest. His parents are much more excited, so it seems, about his wedding then mine. It may be because my older sister (by 5 years) has been married and divorced twice already, so weddings are "old hat" for my parents, whereas, with FI being the oldest, is is venturing into brand new areas for his parents. He is the first to move out, the first to have a steady girlfriend, then the first to have a fiance, and soon, the first to be married. His mom especially is excited about the marriage and the possibility of having grandkids soon.
I'm the oldest by 7yrs and 12yrs and FH is the only child. Our families are overjoyed, his mom more than anyone., she's driving me nuts.
I am the oldest everything: child, grandchild, etc. So it is a pretty big deal that I am getting married. But that also means sticker shock galore for my parents. He is the oldest too but thankfully an Omega to my Alpha. Sometimes I will concede to him but mostly, I just bulldoze him over.
I'm the oldest child and grandchild too. It's been an adventure! My fiance is the middle kid, but first to get married...it's less of a big deal for his side of the family because his brother and sister have been with their so's a long time and have jr. high and high-school aged kids. They're sort of like 'oh that's nice, when are you two having kids?' but my mother and grandma are crazy into the wedding thing...mostly that's a good thing, but sometimes the "excitement" is too much!
I am the oldest of 2. My sister is just a year younger and she isn't married either! but she's also planning a wedding for 2011, so its been fun and exciting for our family!!
I'm sorry its like that with your fam. I read your first post and I'm sure its a real downer when you're so excited about it! At least you have us!!
I am the 5th child of 7 but I get treated as if I am the oldest. When it comes to major decisions, my family usually looks to me to provide the solution. I am very independent and according to my FI stubborn. My FI is the oldest of 2...his younger sister is 16 years (almost to the day) younger than him. I think it definitely played a role in our planning b/c when I planned our wedding I didn't really get his input (we cancelled b/c he was diagnosed with stomach cancer)...now that he planned our wedding I don't even know what he planned for anything...LOL. We definitely have a vision that we like autonomy to carry out.
I'm the older of two, and The Boy is an only child.
Our families are VERY excited for us, though the fact that he is the only child of two only children did put a damper on my original vague idea of slipping off to Vegas and having an Elvis impersonator marry us...since he has no siblings or cousins, his family won't get to see another descendant get married. We're going to have a nice little party instead.
I am an oldest twin and my fiance is a youngest twin, neither of us with other siblings. Our personalities reflect the oldest/youngest thing, but I don't see how it has made much of a change in our wedding planning. We're both the first to get married of our sets.
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