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I am curious to know in what order life events have happened to you. I am talking about big events such as:
I want to know the events from YOUR perspective (i.e. not necessarily when your SO graduated or started their career)
I just find it kind of funny that my FH and I have not followed the "normal" or "suggested" plan, and we are still making it/going to make it. I think the order that I listed them above is what most people would suggest; hence "get married before you have a baby" or "start your career before settling down with someone."
So far here's my order:
I'm not saying any order is better than the other, I'm just saying I think any order could work for any couple.
What's your "blueprint of life?"
@Atalanta: Calm down I posted twice in Beehive by accident sheesh!
Don't have a heart attack, I attempted to "fix" it for you.
Let's see....
Education came first for me. There didn't even seem to be any other option there..
(This is the point when i actually figured out who the heck I am...it happened through a lot of travel, exploration, dropping of friends who wanted me to be the person I was in college for the rest of my life, and meeting new, more open minded people.)
Next up:
The current plan is the be child-free.
Education was first for me too. I would have loved to been married and have kids before now, but that's not how it worked out for me.
@kate169: Your timeline does not look lame! Life is a journey, not a destination. You can't always control what happens to you, you can only control how you deal with it.
Let's see...college (18 - 22), started working full-time at the company I had interned at (22), got engaged (22), broke off engagement (23), left job (23), decided to drive across the country with an old love (23)...haha, and that's where I am right now, in transit. Next up will be getting a new job, settling in to being with a Military Man, and hopefully having kids!
My timeline...
This is where I am now. I'll be married at 31. I hope to have at least one child by 33. A house would be nice too but babies are my priority.
I did mine ALL backwards;
Age 24 had my first son (still lived at home wtih parents)
Went to college
jobs in my field weren't working with the long hours and a son so I found a local job which has now become my career
Bought my first house when he was 7
a year and a half later, bought my second house
decided it was time to make room for dating
met my now fiance- a few months later he moved in
about a year and a half later I became pregnant and had a beautiful son!
another year and a half later we got engaged
I've been at my job for almost 8 yrs, now have a 16yr old and a 2yr old and will be married next May
2001, age 18 - graduated high school, moved out on my own, got married
2004, age 21 - got divorced
2006, age 23 - graduated college, moved in with my now-husband and moved to a different city, got my first "career-type" job
2007, age 24 - got laid off (no surprise, the turn-over at the company was mindblowing, less than 30 employees and at least 1-2 people PER MONTH got laid-off, I was there a year and half the employees were different than when I started)
2008, age 25 - got my current job, 1000x better than the previous!
2009, age 26 - now-husband and I bought house (in his name, I didn't want my name on it since we weren't married yet)
2010, age 27 - got engaged
2011, age 28 - got married
Other than moving in with DH before getting engaged I'm on a pretty traditional path.
2006 (21) Graduated College, Moved to NYC, Started working, Met DH
2008 (23) Moved in with DH (he already owned)
2009 (25) Got Engaged
2011 (26) Got Married
The plan is to start my MBA and buy a new place in 2012 (27) and to start trying in 2014 (29/30)
I would not necessarily say it's blueprint as you have no control over some of it.
The way things happened for me:
For me, it's pretty much how I expected it to be...
Would have been nice to buy a house by now but, ehh, it wasn't in the cards to do it.
I think mine is fairly traditional! I graduated university, then we moved in together, then got engaged, then bought a house, then got married, and a baby will be next :)
2006 - graduated high school
2010 - graduated undergrad
later 2010 - got married
2010-2012 - postbac advancement in my research field
2012 (hopefully!) - acceptance to graduate school, which means a big move
It won't be until after I graduate with my PhD that we'll start thinking about a more permanent house and kids - We really like being young and free to move as we please :)
Bought my first house (May 2005 age 18)
Graduated College (May 2008 age 21)
Bought my second house several hours from home in order to find a job in my field (April 2009 age 22)
Sold my first house (June 2009 age 23)
Started my career (June 2009 age 23)
Got married (June 2011 age 25)
As of right now kids are a few years out as my husband is still in school for another year. He is the one really excited for kids. He thinks that since he is 30 he has to have kids soon so he's not an "old dad" as he puts it. It doesn't help that his younger sister is already on her second kid.
Graduated college - May 2007
Started career - July 2007
Moved in with boyfriend - September 2010
Got engaged - October 2010
Bought first house - June 2011
Getting Married - August 2012
Starting a family - ??
@MrsWrangler: Go gators! We graduated the same year.
My imaginary timeline hasn't differed much from my actual, but i'm not even halfway through my list yet.
Imaginary: graduate high school (2006), graduate undergrad (2010), graduate medical school (2014), get married after med school, buy a house, raise children. With travel sprinkled in.
Actual: graduate high school (2006), graduate undergrad (2010), possibly get married before graduating medical school (2013), graduate med school (2014). No house or kids, and the travel has definitely been sprinkling itself in nicely.
I'm as traditional as they come!
Started college in 2006, met my FI (then boyfriend) freshman year.
Graduated in December 2009.
Started my career directly after graduating.
Moved in with FI upon his graduation in 2010.
Got engaged 6 months later.
Will be married in 2011!
Next will be grad school for FI, and then maybe a house.
Kids are still a long way off- I'm only 23!
Graduated college
Started career 1 week later
Moved to an apartment
Bought a home with the BF
Got engaged
Get married
Have babies
Got married 10/09
Bought house 4/10
Graduated 5/10
I technically started in my career 6/05, but my current job started 5/11 but still in the same field
I'm all sorts of backwards...
I'd say I'm doing it in the "traditional" order, yet I'm younger than most.
OBTAINED BFA- 2006
MET FI- 2008
ENGAGED- 2010
BOUGHT HOUSE- AUG 2011
MARRIED- OCT 2011
BABY- TRY IN LATE 20012 OR 2013
:)
2000: graduated highschool (18)
2004: graduated college (22)
2005: met FI, began law school (23)
2006: moved in with FI (24)
2008: graduated law school, passed bar, began working (26)
2011: got engaged/married (29)
2012: baby?! (30)
Age 19: Moved out for the first time. I lived with FI and one of my best friends. That only lasted about 6 months until we got evicted for having wild parties 3-4 times a week. Those were the days! Lol
Age 21: Started my first “real job” at the company I still currently work for.
Age 22: Got the promotion to my current job.
Age 24: Got engaged after more than 5 years of dating.
Age 25: Launched a software company with FI (stay tuned for a badass wedding planning iPhone app!) and will be getting married!
Age 26-27: Hopefully buy our first home and quit our day jobs to run our software company full time.
Age 28-30: Have our first (and only) child.
Age 26-30 is obviously not set in stone yet so who knows what the future will hold but that’s the plan. It’s very important to both of us to not only be married but also own our home and be successful before we even think about children.
I'm following a pretty traditional path which is what I always expected.
Graduated college - May 2009 (age 22)
Start working full time - June 2009 (age 22)
Got engaged - September 2009 (age 22)
Moved in together - April 2010 (age 23)
Got married - July 2010 (age 23)
Plan to buy a house - late 2011/early 2012 (age 24)
Plan to start having kids - ~2014 (~age 27)
I'm pretty traditional. We may have a baby before we buy a house though - we want to save us a lot of cash %20+.
Cool!
Hmmm
2004 Graduated College/Get job
2004 Bought an investment house
2005 Started Grad school/sold investment house
2007 Graduate MBA/Meet husband
2008 Move to California from Boston
2010 Proposal
2011 Wedding in April
No more house buying planned while in Cali, we dont expect to be here too much longer. Maybe another 3 years? and prices are still going down anyways AND its really expensive here. A small "starter home" is $500,000
These are all really interesting to read. Everyone's timeline is so different! For some reason, I had been feeling bad about my own, worried about "making it" since I haven't technically startd my career yet, etc etc. But seeing that everyone else has "made it" makes me feel a lot more confident!
What's next? Well, hopefully:
So there you have it- story of my life.
Graduated University - August 2011
Get Married - September 2011
Haha, that's all I've got so far. Pathetic.
To come:
Move Abroad - September 2013
Come Home/Buy a House - September 2014-2015
TTC - Fall 2015-2016
2007: Graduated High School/ Moved out on my own.
April 2010 : Met FI
May 2011: Graduated Undergrad.
May 2012 : Wedding
Aug 2012: LAW SCHOOL
By Jan 2012 own our 1st home together.
Children ???? maybe after I earn my JD. He's older and More established in his career. so it might happen before then. ;)
2003 - moved to another country alone, away from everyone i knew (age 20)
2005 - met my now husband (age 22)
2006 - moved in with my boyfriend (now husband) (age 23)
2006 - Got my first serious career job (age 23)
2010 - Got engaged (age 27)
2011 - Got married (age 28)
Future:
2012 - house/ baby - whichever comes first!
2005/ Graduated with first degree-Moved to another University
2006/ Moved in with husband (then boyfriend)
2008/ Engaged- married six months later. Graduated with second degree, began temporary career working in automotive buisness. Also began interning as wedding photographer.
2010/ Moved across country/Bought home
2011/ Closing photography buisness (shooting my last wedding in August!) and starting another degree program (hopefully.. still waiting to do a final interview).
In 2011 I am 26. Hoping to have kids in 3-4 years.
Started college/moved away from home, 2007 age 18
Took a year off after my first year/moved back to my dad's house, 2008 age 18
Met FI (then SO), 2008 age 18
Went back to school at a different school & different major/moved back away from home, 2009 age 20
Moved in with FI (then SO), 2011 age 21
Graduated school with associate's degree, 2011 age 21
Got engaged, 2011 age 21
Trying to start my career, 2011 age 22 (and still currently happening)
Moving to a rented house (our "forever until we buy" home) with FI, 2011 age 22 (this weekend!)
Getting married, 2012 age 23
Buying a house will proably happen in 2013-2014
And we're not having kids.
Lets see...
In college (Now)
Get Married (December)
Graduate College (1 more year!!)
Get job
(FI grad/his masters)
House
My Masters
Kids (the far future)
college (18-22)
Homeless shelter internship (lived/worked full time at the shelter) (22-23)
Grad school (23- present, aka 31)
Marry (two weeks ago! 31)
Receive PhD (in a few months - 31 - HOPEFULLY)
Get tenure track job (please god - 32 ish?)
Baby (depends on lots of factors, but hopefully 33-34)
Buy home - who knows
18- Graduated highschool, moved out with BF (who would later become EXH)
21-Married
26-Divorced
27- FINALLY!! graduated college, started working in the industry.
28-Started dating BF (now DH)
30-Moved in with BF (now DH)
31-Purchased 1st home
31-Engaged
32-Married
32-Trying for a family.
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