Post # 1
I had an experience today (and part of yesterday) that made me feel intense anger, frustration, a little embarrassment, mainly negative emotions, which is completely unusual and out of character for me. I am a very logical thinker and am not typically driven by emotions, especially negative ones. I always strive to understand situations completely and make rational decisions and reactions. But I had a (for me) mildly explosive reaction to this experience that I can’t stop thinking about, and how the others (complete strangers) involved in the situation contributed to my increase in frustration and anger. Not blaming them, just aware of their small role and how they didn’t help the situation. Maybe I’m having major PMS or huge hormonal issues, I don’t know. Now I’m laying in bed unable to sleep, thinking about it, feeling entirely justified in my position, yet feeling embarrassed at my reaction to people I’ll never meet or see again in my life, and considering it was a pretty trivial thing in the grand scheme of things. I’m really just surprised at how I’m sort of focusing in on this experience instead of just forgetting it like I want to do. It’s possible this emotion and anxiety will negatively affect similar experiences in the future.
What are your methods for dealing with negative emotions and do your reactions ever surprise you?
In the rare case that I have an out of the ordinary experience involving anger, it’s easy to lose a nights sleep over it. I try to remind myself that today is insignificant and won’t matter in the slightest in a weeks time. I try to disctract myself and find that it takes a few days to get over it.
Any similar types of methods to process things like this?
Post # 2
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When I’m mad I usually just get quiet since anger makes my head hurt & plus to make sure I don’t say anything I’ll regret. Yes, a few times my own reactions surprise me since a couple of times I’ve lost it and punched/ broken things in a fit of rage. So I also need new methods of handling my negative emotions…
Post # 3
I can get emotional, depressed or angry for literally do reason… with me its usually hormonal (off the pill) and i try to rationalize it and make order in my head… I used to really explode because i myself didnt really even know what the hell was going on…
i found exercise works for me. When i get this i just grab my gym bag and i am fine in 30 minutes
Post # 4
I have a 0 to 60 temper that I have been able to control really well over the past several years. Once I start feeling overwhelming emotion, I immediately become totally irrational.
When my blood starts boiling, the only thing that works is to stop myself in my tracks to give myself a moment to pull it all together. I stop talking, thinking… Everything. I just stop. Otherwise, I will fly off the handle. I will take a moment to take ten deep breaths and inventory the emotions that I am having, and sort them out. It’s hard to put into words.
It’s sort of like, “OK. Pull yourself together, PoliticallyIncorrect…. WHAT am I feeling exactly? WHY am I feeling this way? WHICH feelings ARE justified and which are part of my irrational reaction? What reaction to those feelings will be most beneficial to all parties involved? Ok… GO!” And I proceed accordingly.
I may just calmly dismiss myself if I see no positive outcome, apologize immediately if I know I am at fault or even force a smile on my face to help cheer my own mood up when I know I’m just being a cranky brat (fake it til’ ya’ make it!).
I wish I could say it worked all of the time, but it does help like 80% of the time. Also, DH also knows when my less-than-justifies emotions are running higher than normal and has been advised to please help snap me back into reality (in a kind, but serious manner). I also try not to beat myself up over it, as it’s done and over with and cannot be changed. No sense in doing so. You can analyze the situation to identify how you could have handled it differently, but please don’t lose sleep over it because I’m sure none of the other parties involved are. What’s done is done, and all you can do is learn from it and move on.
Feel better. : )