Post # 1
I’m curious how you view food and how that relates to weight and weight management.
I’ve struggled with weight and have been overweight my entire life. I was thinking about my recent weight loss (and current struggle to maintain and lose a little more) and was thinking I needed to really change the way I view food.
It also got me thinking about the way fit or healthy weight people view food.
I used to view it as 100% pleasure. If you were to ask me about my hobbies – one would be ‘eating out’. Fine dining and eating out in general would be my normal source of social interaction and a huge sense of pleasure.
I guess what I’m wondering is if there is any correlation between viewing food as pleasurable to weight gain.
And, if that’s the case – how do people who maintain a healthy weight view food? Do you see it as pleasurable but in limited amounts? Do you view it as fuel for your body? etc.?
Post # 3
OMG thank you for this post!!
I think I have such an UNHEALTHY view of food. I seriously LOVE it!
I wake up thinking whats for bfast, I spend my whole day waiting for the right time to eat my lunch and I start planning dinner!
I just love food so much it makes me feel like such a fat bastard. It is actually quite sad. But yes, I am overweight. So I should probably change the way I view food but I don’t know how.
Post # 4
I don’t have a healthy relationship with food so I may not be the best one to answer this. I’m working on it though.
I also love food; all of the flavors and just the experience of eating it and trying new things. Everything that I eat I calculate and usually feel guilty about. I’ve recently lost a lot of weight also and the way I view food and weight is something that I’m really focusing on now.
Post # 5
I think I have a healthy relationship with food. I love it. I love it so damn much. I love cooking, especially cooking for other people, and I love eating, and going to restaurants. I don’t think that loving food = unhealthy at all. I never feel guilty about eating, or even about overeating. I think I always have a good reason to eat, whether that’s sensual pleasure, or fueling myself so I can do awesome stuff.
Post # 6
@tranquility: I totally understand what you mean. I love food too! What I’m hoping is there is a way to love food and eat in a way that maintains a healthy weight! I think there HAS to be and I’m hoping bee’s who don’t have weight issues will also chime in!
@Running Elley: I think it’s important to hear all perspectives. What’s your definition of an unhealthy relationship with food? For those that struggle with weight, I think there’s a good dose of guilt and self-hate we dump on ourselves (that doesn’t necessarily help with our overall goal of feeling GOOD about ourself)….
Post # 7
I’m actually the opposite of you. I am a very picky eater. If the food thats available I don’t like I just won’t eat. Sometimes it near impossible for me to even decide what to eat. I like so few foods that it’s hard to have a craving when I most likely just ate that type of food last week.
I am not overweight nor underweight. I’ve never had issues with my weight and I think it is because I have minimal choices to eat. It does get very fustrating at times when I just want to enjoy a meal with friends (My best friend’s rehearsal dinner was a this fancy french restaurant & I ate practically nothing becuase I didnt like anything).
Post # 8
@Beluga: Not to be too personal, but do you have a weight issue? I’m crossing my fingers and hoping you don’t, because that’s the exact way I want to be with food. How do you balance your love of food with not overindulging? I think that’s my problem – I love it so much, I go way overboard with it… and that’s when it becomes a problem.
Post # 9
I too have an unhealthy view of food. I often eat when I bored, or stressed. The past year has been pretty stressful for FI and I. He was recently diagnosed with Rheumatiod Arthritis at 32 years old! 32!! Apparently this kind of arthritis hits people of all ages, even kids.
So I’ve been stress eating for a whilte. I’ve gained an extra 50lbs on top of my already thick frame. I’m trying to lose some of it before we get married because I don’t want double chin in our wedding pictures.
My mom wasn’t around much from day to day, she was always working or out with her friends. So from a young age I would fend for myself in the kitchen and just make whatever. I have very poor cooking skills and I’m 26!
FI is a rotund guy as well so together we made a vow to eat healthier. We now eat a lot of baked chicken and steamed veggies.
Post # 10
@oracle:I guess it’s just a lot of guilt.Even when I convince myself that I’m just going to enjoy a meal or when a meal is healthy I’m always adding up all of the calories up in my head and thinking about how I’m going to make sure to burn them all off.
Post # 11
I’ve realized that in college, when I actively deprived myself of stuff I loved and worked out like a maniac, I was so obsessed with food, and once I caved and let myself have something, I went overboard. Like I’d be four candy bars and eat them all because I couldn’t just pick one since it would have been awhile since I’d had one. That was pretty unhealthy because I was SO consumed with food all the time- either thinking about what I wouldn’t let myself have, or just gorging on stuff once I allowed myself to have it.
Then I got pregnant, and realized I could eat whatever I wanted whenever I wanted, and the allure of food went away pretty quickly. I went back to having a much more normal viewpoint toward it, and now, pre-pregnancy, I’m not the way I was in college at all. I won’t eat sweets because they’re just lying around, and I can have a bite or two of something and stop if I’m satisfied, because I’m no longer depriving myself or constantly worrying about how many calories something is. It’s a much nicer way of living, I have to say.
Post # 12
I have an unhealthy view of food because I made it what I looked forward to all day. I love cooking so after a long day at work and studying, I would always make sure I had an hour to play in the kitchen and eat a proper dinner because that would be the only “break” I would get in the day. I definitely cook healthy things but when your day is good when your dinner turns out, I don’t think I have the right attitude and definitely need to work on that.
Post # 13
@oracle:I don’t have a weight issue. I would be skinnier if I didn’t eat so damn much, but I like my body and my curves. I’d probably describe my body as sexy and strong. I’m an athlete, and if anything I want to be a little bigger, not smaller. “Nothing tastes as good as skinny feels” is bullshit, IMO.
Post # 14
I love food especially alot of what my Mum makes. There have been a couple occassions where I put on weight, so I did yo-yo a bit. Inbetween one the yo-yos I did the Atkins diet a big mistake, I ended up walking into things. After the 2nd yo yo I did weight watchers and did lose a bit but found it difficult to maintain. I ended up buying Paul Mckennas Think yourself thin, or it’s called something similar, I don’t know how I came across it. The book and CD taught me to become back in touch with by body well stomach so I re-learnt when I was full, for some reason I felt if I left anything on my plate it was a waste, but now I have no quarms in leaving it if I feel full, i’d rather do that then having that bloating/sicky feeling of over eating. It really worked for me and i’m at the slimmest i’ve been since I was like 17. still eat what I want like my Mum’s profiteroles but just everything in moderation and I do try to exercise though this tends to be up and down.
Post # 15
Food hates me 🙁 I have a stomach disorder that makes eating difficult.
Post # 16
I love food. Love eating it, tasting it, the flavors, the textures, the combinations. I love cooking it and coming up with new ways to have mouth orgasms. That’s my relationship with food. And yes, I’m about 20-30 lbs overweight.
@Beluga:“Nothing tastes as good as skinny feels” is bullshit, IMO. Right, on sister, right on. I know someone said that exact thing on the boards the other day, but I just.can’t.agree with that. See aforementioned mouth orgasms.