Post # 1
What are the things that drive you crazy at weddings?
How everyone insists on dragging/forcing all un-married women onto the dancefloor for the bouquet toss. It is so obnoxious and uncomfortable. I don’t consider myself to be “single”. I am engaged already, I know when I’m getting married. Isn’t that the whole point of the toss? To see who will be “next”? Well, I know I’m next, already. If I’m not next, I’ll be in the order my wedding date comes. There is no need for me to go crowd up on the dancefloor with a bunch of women trying to catch a bundle of fake flowers that I don’t want nor need. I have ears. When the DJ requests all single women to the dancefloor, I can hear him, and I know what he’s calling them up there for. I don’t need six thousand people in my face, screaming over the music, “Get up there, girl!”, “Go on!”, “Hurry up before you miss it!”, all the while pulling on my damn clothes!
Haha, obviously that is my biggest wedding annoyance. I don’t think we’re doing a toss at our wedding (we don’t plan to, but I think certain family members will force it), so hopefully my single female guests won’t have to suffer.
Post # 3
It bugs me when things are drawn out (like awkward pauses in the night – nothing going on/scheduled).
Post # 4
Off the top of my head it would be:
- People inviting themselves
- Future Mother-In-Law telling me how to spend the money when she hasn’t offered any.
- The 800% markup on everything “bridal”
Im sure I’ll think of more later
Post # 5
I won’t list them as I know there are some bees here who plan to use them at their wedding but there are cetain songs that I literally cringe to when I hear them played at weddings.
Post # 6
@Pinksapphire: I don’t like large crowds of people. I really don’t like large crowds of drunk people. I really don’t like people at all when I am hungry! My pet peeve is a wedding that has nothing to eat or cheap food. WTF… I got dressed to the dime and purchased a nice gift, please feed me! Secondly, I do not expect to drink my beverage out of a jar. I would rather be thirsty.
Post # 7
@Soladylike: Aaaaahaha “beverage out of a jar.” Yes, shabby chic certainly seems to be the trend in weddings now.
I really don’t like the mustaches. I don’t understand. I think they’re so bizarre.
Post # 8
@Pinksapphire: I hate the bouquet toss too! I’m definitely not having it at my wedding, I will actually get up and “go to the bathroom” when that part of the reception comes up!
Otherwise I don’t think anything in particular stands out to me.
ETA: oh wait, I did think of something – line dances! Not a fan…
Post # 9
I’m 100% against the Chicken Dance. I hate it!!!
Oh and I hate the whole penis montage thing at bachelorette partys. I love men and I love my man, but they (penises) are NOT attractive and I don’t want to drink from, eat or wear one. No thanks!
Post # 10
@Pinksapphire: I HATE that! The exact reason why we are not doing the bouquet and garter toss.
As a guest my pet peeves are outdoor weddings in uncomfortable weather, disposable cameras during the ceremony (they are sooo loud and obnoxious and really, who still uses disposable cameras?!?), cold food, too-long lines at the bar, sit down dinners that drag on too long between courses, stinky DJs and stupid props.
Post # 11
I HATE head tables. Hate hate hate them! The only purpose they serve is for everyone to be on display. You’re the god damn bridal party, you’ll be on display regardless. It’s next to impossible to have a conversation with anyone who is not sitting directly next to you and in most cases, they separate the bridal party from their dates. I don’t care if they’ll “just be sitting there for dinner”, If I attend a wedding with my husband, I expect to sit with him.
Post # 12
@AllRosesandSunshine: I’ve never experienced that, but that would be really annoying.
@MASPA: Haha, I hear ya on the markup thing. It gets really ridiculous!
@MrsPinkPeony: I could probably guess some of them. There is a thread going on about that now, where you’re welcome to post songs that you refuse to have played at your own wedding.
@Soladylike: Omg, that’s another really big pet peeve of mine! When there is a lack of food! I find it common courtesy to offer some sort of edibles and/or drinks (water, juice, tea… something) while the bride and groom are taking pictures after the wedding. I’ve been to a few weddings where we had to sit around for like an hour waiting on the bride and groom (they were evening weddings) and there was nothing to drink/snack on. I enjoyed the weddings that had appetizers a lot more. I know some people have tight budgets, but my venue does a fruit, cheese and crackers display for $3 PP. If anything, we’ll have that because our wedding is at night and I know everyone will be starved. I attended one wedding where they had a buffet and I guess some of the guests were taking extra food because there was nothing left for me by the time I got through the line… and I spent a lot of money attending that wedding.
@redheadem: My friend had her wedding reception at a very nice country club and was serving lemonade out of mason jars. They were cute, and all, but did not match the atmosphere. I ended up using my mason jar to fill it up at the candy buffet =P
Post # 12
This is a pre-wedding pet-peeve. I can’t stand that after you’re engaged EVERYONE that has you have ever spoken to suddenly thinks they will be invited to your wedding. I have so many people say “I can’t wait to come to your wedding” and I have only been around them once or twice! I want people I actually know and talk to on a regular basis at my wedding!!
Post # 13
When the bride and groom don’t smile at their own wedding reception.
Seriously, it kills the mood and people pick up the vibes of an unhappy couple. They might be completely in love with each and other and totally happy, but when they are miserable at their own wedding OR have a huge, bridezilla attitude going on, I just shake my head.
Post # 14
My pet peeves are: Cash bars and long gaps between ceremony and reception. I know some bees chose to do these and that’s okay if it works for them. But as a guest, I can’t stand either!
Post # 15
@UpstateCait: I don’t like head tables, either. We’re just gonna do a sweetheart and let everyone else sit with their SOs/families.
@sarahjc0015: Haha, I deal with this all the time. I chose a Destination Wedding so that I could get out of having to invite people I hardly knew/liked. My excuse will be, “Because we chose to get married far away, we didn’t want to inconvenience everyone with the expense of making a trip. Therefore, we’re just having an intimate wedding with less than 60 guests.” My aunt (who I don’t want at the wedding and is one of the main reasons I chose a DW), was saying that she wanted to invite all of these third and second cousins, great aunts and uncles, that I don’t hardly know! I haven’t seen some of these people since I was in diapers. I quickly let her know that we’re only having a 50-60 guest wedding.