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Boards are a little slow today so I thought I start a post!
So what is/was your biggest fear for the day? Or more than one fear...
Did it come true?
Did something else happen instead..
OK....Go!
That it won't be organized!!! I'm really good at the crafty aspect, really good at the idea aspect... not so good at logistics, and I'm afraid it's going to be a clusterF8ck I totally should have hired a day of coordinator!
@Cheesy Potatoes: Paying the bills! I'm sure there are other things, but seriously, the draining of my bank account is what scares me the most...
That I will do the ugly cry and not be able to stop, UGH......... and also the money issue, that sucks ass!
That my psycho grandmother would show up and make a scene
She did not :-)
The one thing I was not afraid of was the bank flagging muliple cards for fraudulent activity and that did happen.
I'm scared no one will dance. The only thing FI wanted for the wedding was a Beatles cover band. We'll play a variety when they're taking breaks, but I'm scared people will think it's lame and no one will dance.
My biggest fear is that I will be unhappy/not confident with how I look.
My dress has not come in yet and I ordered it without trying on a sample (no samples were available in my area) because I loved the online picture so much.
I was not thrilled with my hair or makeup trial.
Plus I have gained 5 lbs over the last 4 months. :(
Mine was that I'd get a bad migraine (I get very severe ones where I have to go to the ER), or the rabbi wouldn't show so we couldn't get married.
Rabbi was there on time, but I did get a pretty bad migraine. I had a massage that morning which helped a little, and I just stuffed myself with tons of pills. By the time of our ceremony, I had no more headache.
I was most worried that MIL, SFIL, and DH's two half-brothers wouldn't be able to make it because of the weather. It did turn out that way, which sucked, but we still had a good time.
I am sure you will look beautiful and i dont just tell ppl what they want to hear. Have you gone back to your hair/makup ppl and let them know what you want to be different? I think as long as you are on the same page you should be ok.
Don't worry about the 5 pounds! You have time. And stress plays a role in that too!
oh my gosh! I was worried about other things but now I am worrying about all of these items mentioned haha. I think I am most worried people wont have fun or that something will go wrong ( be unorganized ).
I was worried about that too until I saw some really cool rain photos on same photographers blogs. So even if it does rain I plan on having matching umbrellas for the whole wedding party for photo ops.
That I wouldn't sleep at all the night before and I would be a zombie the entire wedding day.. and it came true unfortunately. I also worried a lot that it would rain, which it didn't, but looking back that wouldn't have been such a bad thing.
Our wedding was on top of a mountain and our guest took a ski lift up to the ceremony. We did have an alternative way up but I really wanted to utilize the lift since..well...it was just plain cool. I was so afraid ppl wouldn't enjoy it or hate me for it. All 115 of our guests, except for maybe 4-5ppl took the lift and absolutely loved it. The pictures they took while up there were fantastic. I'm so glad I did it. I was also absolutely petified that it would rain and we had no good back up plan. It ended up being beautiful out. I was also afraid it'd be boring and ppl wouldn't dance or have a good time. We set up our favorite yard game (washers) outside the tent and ppl who werent dancing had fun playing that. Anything that did go wrong on my day just didn't matter and all my biggest fears never happened. It was fantastic.
I didn't have any fears about the wedding or the reception. I wasn't worried about anything. I was so calm on both days, so I can't think of anything I was afraid of happening or not happening.
@Wonderstruck: Hey date twin!!! :) That's one of my fears too! I feel like I have been hassling our dj but that's only because I want it to be a PARTY!!! Not some boring get together with dinner and music. I just want everyone to have fun! Oh and definitely the financial end...
@Cheesy Potatoes: The stuff that did go wrong were so stupid it just wasnt worth ruining my day over. For instance, for some odd reason our cake topper was never put on the cake. It was just left in the box sitting next to the cake on the table. It got put on there later so who cares. It was in it for the pictures. All that sort of stuff really doesnt matter. Just have fun and enjoy your day. Sadly, it'll be over before you know it.
@Cheesy Potatoes: The stuff that did go wrong were so stupid it just wasnt worth ruining my day over. For instance, for some odd reason our cake topper was never put on the cake. It was just left in the box sitting next to the cake on the table. It got put on there later so who cares. It was in it for the pictures. All that sort of stuff really doesnt matter. Just have fun and enjoy your day. Sadly, it'll be over before you know it.
@Wonderstruck: That's a great idea =D I'm 23 and I love the beatles and of course my parents are crazy about the beatles.... they're a classic can't go wrong with that. They are great for all ages.
I'm worried that I'll start really blubbing as my face goes all red and blotchy and my makeup will be ruined! my other fear is that I won't be able to put in my contact lenses and i'll have to wear my glasses - horror of horrors!
My biggest worry at the moment is a slightly yellow spot on the back of my dress- i'm going to work on cleaning it- don't really know how to but my mom is going to help me. I'm just afraid people will see it and it will show up in pics.
I was so worried about tripping walking down the aisle and not being able to speak/say my vows. All was fine! :)
@Cheesy Potatoes: Okay, I know it sounds ABSURD but the fear I keep having is that something will get on my dress or I will destroy it somehow (rip, tear, whatever). I know it's so insignificant and a silly thing to worry about. I just keep having nightmares about this scenario.
On a more rational level, I am afraid that people will not have a good time.
I think what scares me the most is the money factor! To have to pay everything is going to scare to crap out of me! Like we have help and all (at least I hope we do), but just the thought of spending all that money, ishhh...
I'm worried our band won't be amazing, or that people won't dance. I know that's probably silly because everyone will be loosened up from a little drinking and our friends love to dance, but I just want it to be fun! I can't help sometimes worrying that we're going to pay for all of this stuff and it will end up being boring. I think the people really make the reception, so hopefully all of our friends and family will be in the party spirit!
Rational Fear: My inlaws. I told all of my vendors about our issues and they did a wonderful job of having them keep their distance and keep the piece.
Irrational Fear: I had a nightmare every night that we ran out of time and I never got my hair and makeup done and I had to walk down the aisle looking awful. My MOH is a hairdress/makeup artist so I knew this couldn't happen but my day turned out amazing and I had never felt more beautiful
@couawilou: That was definately one of the best parts for me. It felt sooo good to pay everyone and be done with it!
My fears: How awkward I would feel walking down the aisle since I don't like attention on me. That no one would dance since we were having a daytime backyard reception. That people wouldn't have a good time. That we wouldn't have enough food.
What actually went wrong: DH didn't check with the venue about what we needed to plug in the MP3 player so it didnt work (to be fair to him, we asked everytime we toured and they always said they provided everything but I wanted it in writing and from a knowledgeable source, not the 16 yr old kid standing there with a key. Should have trusted my instincts on that one). As we were scheduled to leave my parents house to go to the ceremony site I was digging through CDs like a madwomen trying to find a piano CD and my parents were searching high and low for a boom box. We did test out the CD and the boom box briefly, but as people were walking down the aisle the CD kept skipping. Oh well, I am told no one noticed...
Our guests didn't realize we were starting the ceremony and DH lived too far away to make our rehearsal, so they were just standing there when it was there turn to walk. Our officiant started announcing who people were to que them to walk down the aisle. That actually turned out rather nicely since no one on DH side knew anyone on mine and vice versa. Also probably took away from the CD skipping :)
DH grandmother's cell phone rang during his vows. She was standing directly behind him. SHE ANSWERED THE PHONE and I totally missed what he was saying to me. That one alternately makes me want to laugh and cry. Grrr.
Advice for future brides: if you have a hunch something may not work out, it is okay to check and double check even if your FI calls you a nag (MP3 player). Have someone standing with the list of who walks down the aisle to cue them to go (mine was the officiant. Then she walked down the aisle and no one else knew even though they were all standing in a line. Never underestimate the stupidity of humans). Have your officiant make an announcement to shut off cell phones. This is a common sense thing but clearly not everyone possesses common sense.
As far as what I was worried about: I wasn't nervous walking down the aisle. Originally I was too pissed about the music, and when I walked through the doors I was just happy and excited. My dancefloor had people on it the entire time thanks to my awesome coworkers and we ended up with more than enough food.
Even with the things that went wrong, we still had an amazing day. Don't sweat the small stuff because I promise you, it doesn't matter.
One of my biggest fears was getting food all over my dress while eating dinner. I am notorious for getting food on my clothes daily (alright...I'm a HUGE clutz!). I also hate eating in front of people, so when my husband insisted that we have a head table at the front of the reception hall, I freaked.
My wonderful sister/MOH did the cutest thing for me! She is an amazing seastress, and probably one of the most creative people I've ever known. I'd been joking for months that I'd need to wear a bib at the wedding, so right before dinner...she surprised us with a funny gift. She made us "wedding bibs." Seriously...she designed an apron that was made out of the prettiest material (hand-beaded and all!) that resembled my dress, and she made a black and silver apron that looked like the front of a tux for my hubby! We got some really funny pictures of the two of us sporting our meal attire, and my husband walked around for a little bit after dinner with his still tied on (it took a few guests a second to realize he was even wearing anything over his tux!). It got a lot of laughs, and kept the ravioli off my dress too!! :) I love that my husband isn't afraid to be a goofball with me!!!
@Cheesy Potatoes: My biggest fear is that something will go wrong. I want the day to be about us coming together as one and I think it will stress me a little to make sure everything is as good as it can get
@mrs_pugetsound: Love them! I'll confess I fret about the possibility of spilling some too and have contemplated sewing a bridal smock.
I wish I could say I was wonderfully calm, but I have a lot of fears about the wedding and am actively trying to troubleshoot them.
1) That my psoriasis will have a terrible flare up at wedding time. It's confined to my arms and hands, but can look quite awful when I have a bad flare up. I'm going to buy a gown with 3/4 or full length sleeves and have a pair of pretty gloves on hand for just in case.
2) I have really severe allergies and am terrified of having a massive attack and looking awful or having to be all but unconcious with meds 
I love flowers but am looking into the possibilitiy of making paper flowers or stressing to the florist that I can only be around a very few varieties safely. Greenery in arrangements can be as bad or worse. I nearly ended up in the hospital when the bride tossed me her bouquet from the bear grass in it. Even though I gave it back to her privately a couple minutes later so she could dry and keep it. Just those few minutes left me in awful shape.
And it's going to sound odd, but I'm terrified of a guest with a cat hugging me. For me my cat allergy is like peanuts or shellfish for some people. Which stinks because I love them. At least dogs don't bother me though. However I'm very worried about someone on Mr Cappugcino's side who isn't aware of this allergy accidentally triggering it while congratulating us and I'm at an utter loss about how to prevent this without sounding overly paranoid.
3) Money! Worried about balancing the dream wedding without overspending and more specifically unexpected expenses at the last minute. To cope I'm making extensive lists and trying to anticipate every possible expense. For example: A few of my ceremony music choices aren't very common and I know I'll have to pay for sheet music for the pieces that aren't probably going to be in the musicians repetoire. So I'm setting aside the cost of sheet music for them to try to reduce unexpected expenses.
My biggest fear is having horrible photos for all the family to show-off at "special" family events :(
My biggest fear is that my dysfunctional family will ruin my day. I'm crippled by this fear, to the point of just wanting to elope or not have them there at all.
That it will rain and we'll have to have the ceremony inside with everyone seated at their dinner tables and us getting married standing in front of the head table...not ideal!
Or, that everything will be super disorganized and the food will be bad/not enough and no one will dance and everyone will leave early whispering about how awkward of a night it was and no one will have any fun. THAT would be my worst nightmare.
That my BM's decide to drive to my DW the day of, and get delayed by traffic, a rockslide, or an RV going 20 mph on the mostly one way highway to Yosemite. Then I'll get really upset and it'll show on my face no matter how hard I try to hide it.
My wedding is over a year away, and I am already worrying that it is going to rain during my outdoor ceremony. The main reason for chosing the venue we picked was because of the beautiful waterfront. I will be so upset if we get rained out!
I also worry that no one will dance at our wedding. I want people to enjoy themselves and let loose and have a great time.
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