(Closed) What is/was your guest list breakdown?

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
1110 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Without having my actual guest list in front of my (I’m guessing) this is the breakdown:

60% my family

20% his family

15 % our mutual friends from University

5% friends from highschool

Post # 4
9217 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA

Interesting!  Ours are about

-20% my family

-20% his family

-10% my family friends

-5% his family friends

-20% mutual friends from high school

-5% mutual friends from (my) college

-5% mutual friends from (his) college

-5% mutual friends from (my grad) school

-10% mutual friends from our current life

Post # 5
10453 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2014

We each have 50% of the list.

My half is like this:

  • 20% immediate/close family
  • 25% family friends of my parents and their kids
  • 25% university friends and dates
  • 30% work friends and dates

His half is:

  • 20% old friends and dates
  • 15% university friends and dates
  • 50% family – aunts, uncles, cousins, etc
  • 15% people his parents want to invite 


Post # 6
3183 posts
Sugar bee

100% family. It was a compromise between what I wanted (an elopement) and what my Future Mother-In-Law wanted (a big wedding with the works).

Post # 7
1600 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Well I hate math so I don’t have the percentages but I would guess that at least 80% of the guests will be my family/friends.

My fiance’s family consists of him, his mom, and a distant cousin, that’s it. He is also a lot more shy than me and has a smaller circle of friends. Meanwhile, my family is absolutely massive (my mom literally has, like, 60 cousins) and …. yeah …..



Post # 8
12250 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

We’re having 47 people…

5 are my friends

8 are his friends

9 are mutual friends

11 are my family

7 are his family

3 are mutual people (Pastor, his wife, etc)

3 are his etc (bosses)

Post # 9
1548 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

The breakdown of our entire guestlist is:

My family – 42%

His family – 27%

High school/college friends – 23%

Work friends – 8%

We’re inviting about 210 people

Post # 10
4049 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

65% my family

8.5% my friends

14.5% his family

10% his friends

Those are the numbers for who is on the current 117 person invite list (though it may be edited slightly in time). We’re in a unique situation since the wedding will be in my homestate, which means all of his guests have to fly 5,000+ miles to come. I also come from a huge family (mom is 1 of 12 kids), whereas his is tiny with just two aunts and three cousins. So that’s why our numbers are hugely in my favor, though I wish he could have more!

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