Post # 1
My cousin (age 19) and his girlfriend (age 18) just found out they’re pregnant and have decided to get married. Their wedding will be probably within 2 months and I don’t know what kind of gift to send, I’m 500 miles away.
Typically I would send a check/gift card or buy something on the registry but they won’t be making a registry.
Little bit of background; they’re both really really immature. Neither of them go to college or have jobs. They just kind of ‘hang out’ all day. I think if I send a check they’ll just blow it (he got over $500 for his HS graduation and spent most of it on a tattoo). They’ll be living with his mom so sending household stuff would just be in the way.
Any bees have any advice? What would be something I could send that would be appreciated but wouldn’t be used frivolously?
I know for the baby shower I’ll be sending my mom money to buy diapers for them, that’s definitely something they’ll need!
Post # 3
Can you gift them gift cards for like a less expensive department store? Like Wal-Mart or Target? That way they could pick up the necessities they will probably need as well as baby stuff. Or alternately a gift card to a restaurant nearby for a dinner out. Cash would probably be what they want, but I would feel more comfortable giving gift cards in this instance.
Post # 4
@SunnyBunny: Um, therapy? I would probably get them a gift card to a baby store…just to point out the obvious.
Post # 5
How about diapers and wipes? Set up a monthly mailing of something the baby needs from Subscribe & Save from Amazon for one year.
Or something else more needed, like a PP said a certificate to walmart or target.
Post # 6
Honestly, I would make a cheap DIY craft (I’m huge on decorating those cheap letters you can get at Hobby Lobby, so I’d probably grab three (2 first names & 1 last name), paint them, paint plywood piece & hang them on the wood like a monogram.
It would probably cost less than $20 (not a huge investment), but be super original & point out ot them that they should now act like a married couple.
These are two of the letters I have decorated before.
If you want less of a time investment, totally just get a gift card (I would not feel comfortable giving them cash either!)
Post # 7
I agree with PP. Baby items is the way to go.
Post # 8
Thanks ladies, I just worried my family would think it was tacky if I sent baby stuff.
@PennyPrincess: I think I’ll probably include something like this, I’ve made them for kids before but didn’t even think of that!
Post # 9
Etiquette wise, even if you know the reason they are marrying is the pregnancy… it would be quite RUDE to point that out (so you can’t truly send anything that features that)
This is their Wedding… and despite all the obvious reasons (and probably the need for the baby more than them)… you have to do the RIGHT THING and honour their marriage.
And that means sending them a gift that is strictly for them (or appears so)
So something household, money, gift card, etc is the right thing to do.
Hope this helps,
Post # 10
@WillyNilly: lol at therapy! Sorry OP, not to take away from your question, but it is sorta funny. 🙂
I mean if you did gift cards, they can still spend them on whatever they want, but maybe they will think about it and save some of them for the baby necessities. I seriously wouldn’t send cash to them. Another option could be to order a nice photo frame online (I’m thinking a collage type family one) and have it sent to their place.