Post # 1
So a few questions here:
Did you send mailed invites, email invites, or an email or facebook message to invite folks to your rehearsal dinner? I’m not sure how fancy to be, especially since most people already know about it since we talked about it (ours is immediate family, grandparents, and anyone in the wedding is invited- with that we have a total of 38 people! Big immediate families)
I’m not sure what’s appropriate. Also when do you send these invites?
If you bought invites, any suggestions of where to buy?
Post # 2
Yes you should send invites about a month before the event. We’re having immediate families + wedding party (50 total) and are just buying Michael’s blank invites and printing them ourselves. They don’t have to be too fancy but I think it’s important to send them.
Post # 3
My daughter included a rehearsal invitation enclosure with the wedding invitation to the people that were invited to the rehearsal and dinner. It was up to the guest if spouses wanted to come to the rehearsal and dinner or just dinner.
Post # 4
How fancy do you want the actual dinner to be? Base your invites off of that.
We had a fish fry buffet so it was very casual. Our parents and bridal party are the only people that attended. We just told our parents about it and invited the bridal party and their SOs through facebook.
Post # 5
nawella: My parents held the rehearsal dinner at thier house.
She bought cute, simple invites from a store (I don’t know where)- and just mailed those out. That was specifically for dinner.
We emailed/contacted our bridal party/everyone involved in the actual rehearsal to let them know what time, etc……
Post # 6
Thanks so much ladies! This helps 🙂 Sounds like people take lots of different routes!
Post # 7
We’re sending invitations and bought ours from Paper by Paperless Post.
Post # 8
Since we hosted our rehearsal/welcome dinner, we included information about it and our after-party with our invites. It worked out perfectly for us.
Post # 9
One other thought: we were thinking to do a meet and greet at the hotel bar after the rehearsal dinner (it’ll be an early dinner, so drinks at 7:30 or so) with guests… should we be paying for something for guests at this event?
Post # 10
nawella: Frankly, I send written snail-mail invitations when I am asking the neighbours up the road to Sunday dinner, let alone for a rehearsal dinner. But then, I also put the crisp white damask linen cloth on the table and serve five courses on bone china.
The rule is, the formality of the invitation indicates the formality of the evening. If you want people to attend your rehearsal dinner in dinner-jackets or lounge-suits; with the ladies in long gowns with jewels, send snail-mail invitations on white letter letter sheets hand-written in black ink. If you are serving sloppy joes self-serve from the crock pot, and want to indicate to people that their second-best jeans are appropriate, text them the invitation. For something in-between, pick something in-between.
During the last postal strike, I private-messaged guests via Facebook using formal invitation wording: they all replied by the same medium (well, 68 out of 70 did) and showed up wearing silk tea-dresses and pearls, so obviously private message can successfully convey formality if you choose.
Post # 11
aspasia475: I feel like Cousin Eddie after reading that post.