(Closed) What made you decide you wanted to be with him for the rest of your life??

posted 5 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: Well? I know more than one could apply, but just pick the most prominent one I suppose
    Just a feeling! It just feels different... I just knew. : (51 votes)
    55 %
    The good outweighs the bad! : (3 votes)
    3 %
    We're very very compatible! Everything matches up so well : (24 votes)
    26 %
    We never have any problems and agree on everything! : (0 votes)
    We've been successfully together for so long, it can't NOT be right : (8 votes)
    9 %
    Other... : (7 votes)
    8 %
  • Post # 5
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    Worker bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    Good idea. We have been together so long, I just can’t picture my life any different. Yes, we have had some MAJOR issues, but we always manage to get through them. I love him and know I always will. I couldn’t imagine life without him!

    Post # 6
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    7468 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 2013

    I just knew. For the first time, I felt like I could completely be myself and he accepted me. We bring out the best in each other. We have fun together and want the same things in life. I never knew that I could love someone so much, and that I could be so loved. It’s hard to describe because it’s so much more than all of this…it’s just right.

    Post # 7
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    1202 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I had a feeling from the first time we met. He makes me want to be a better person and he says I make him want to be a better man. I think we bring the best out in each other and we share the same common goals for our future. He is very close to his family and I see why he is the amazing man he is. I can be myself around him and he accepts me for who I am and who I want to become. We are very compatible and see eye-to-eye on a lot of major things such as wanting children, how we would raise them, our short-term/long-term goals, what we want out of life, etc. When he asked me to marry him, I just knew that he was the one and that God-willing we will be one another’s partners in crime, lover, and friend until death do us part. 

    Post # 8
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    I am another who “just knew.” But on top of that, we are GOOD at solving our problems. With everyone else I’ve dated, if we had a problem it was a nightmare to solve and we usually just ended up ignoring it until we broke up, when suddenly tons of problems would come spilling forth. But with my fiance, if we have a problem, we may ignore it or fight about it for a week, but then we sit down and really talk about it and actually arrive at a solution that both of us feel works and then stick to it. So while we have problems sometimes (who doesn’t?), we don’t have the same problems over and over again. Then there’s all the stuff like we have a ton of the same interests, respect each other, have compatible goals in life, like all of each other’s friends, etc.

    Post # 9
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    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2013

    @yanamari:  I dunno, it’s kinda hard to say. It’s a combination of things. Obviously I love him, I can’t see myself without him… I think we’re pretty compatible, he makes me laugh, he takes care of me, he’s just a genuinely good guy.

    I think it’s important to consider more than the butterflies in the tummy feeling (which fades somewhat over time). I just feel like there’s potential with him… I can see a future, I get sad when I think of life without him. I know I won’t end up in debt with him unlike my last relationship. 

    With my ex, for example, I couldn’t really see a future with him.. we had the excitement of the on/off relationship, but he was a jerk. I stayed with him because we had been together (albeit on/off) for so long, I just didn’t want to recognize I could do better.

    Post # 10
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: November 2011

    I just knew, it was so different then anything i’ve ever felt. It sounds super cliche but the first time I saw him I knew it was going to be something special. Our first “date” was supposed to be a trip to the barn to see my horses but we ended up ditching and just sitting there and talking the whole time. Within minutes we both knew that this was it. After only one date and a few phone calls we were in love and official. He is my absolute best friend in the world, I’m so comfortable with him, we smile all the time but even if we do have any fights we talk through it and we’re never going to just give up. I wake up every morning sooo happy and wondering if this is just a dream because it is so perfect. He 100% is my soul mate<3

    Post # 11
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: March 2013

    I wouldn’t say I am one of those people that “just knew” but it was really different for us when we started dating because we were still in high school. In fact, we started dating 4 months before we left for college (2 hours apart) and I remember telling my friends that we were going to try and to LDR but I honestly didn’t think it would work out and I didn’t know if I wanted to be “tied down” in college. We made it through the first year but ended up breaking up over the summer between freshmen/sophmore year. We were apart about 5 months though we remained close friends and talked a lot. During this time apart, I think it was good because we both got to grow as individuals but we also realized how much we loved each other and missed each other. We also realized that despite all the problems we had, we could work through them and working through them was worth being together. We got back together and have been back together for 4 years. 

    Post # 12
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    I voted “other”.  What made me decide to be with DH is that he was so sure of us; he knew that we were going to make it through the test of time.  And, I completely agree. 

    Post # 13
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: April 2014

    I’m having a hard time putting it into words and the poll doesn’t really fit. We’ve only been together for just under two years and are getting married next year. We area little bit older (32 and 30) and spent our twenties living it up. Throughout our relationship we’ve been through a lot, family struggles, deaths, personality differences, our share of fights. But through all of it, we talk, we learn, we grow together. Lately we’ve been trying to get a head start on having a baby and just the other day we were talking about what kind of parents we want to be and how we both want to be a team and have be on the same page regarding how we raise our children. He respects and loves me more than I’ve ever been loved and I feel the same way about him. We’re certainly not perfect, but we know that and work hard to keep our relationship strong and healthy. I cannot wait until 4/25/14!!!!!!!!

    Post # 14
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    264 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: February 2013

    I love that he is my best friend. He goes out of his way to just to put a smile on my face! We are best friends and we can talk about anything and everything. We always have fun together no matter what we are doing. Only 25 days until I get to marry my best friend and I can’t wait!!

    Post # 15
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2013 - B&B

    I had originally told him no when he first asked me out: I was still bouncing back from a terrible relationship/breakup, and we started seeing each other in late April/May of 2009. The end of Aug 2009, I was leaving for an entire study abroad semester. I believed in long distance, I just didn’t know if we had enough time to really set ourselves up TO survive an LDR. 

    But about a month after I told him no (we were still seeing each other) we were at a concert on the beach. He held me and sang to me Gary Allen’s “The One”… adn the next day on the beach I was talking to him and just looking into his eyes and they were so damn beautiful and I just thought “WTF is your problem girl?!?!?! Don’t you DARE not take a chance on this!!!!” and I asked him out right then and there 🙂 So for me, it was just this feeling that he was something special. And he’s been proving me right every day for the last 3.75 years 🙂

    Post # 16
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    8580 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2014

    There are so many things that made me realize we were perfect together. We agree on all large things that can easily wedge people apart [marriage, politics, religion, abortion, everything!].

    When we first moved in together, I was worried that it would be weird, but it wasn’t It was like nothing had changed, we were comfortable around each other. Our relationship isn’t alot of WORK, although of course, we do put effort into it.

    I like that fact that he is dependable. I’ve never had to worry about him coming home late [he’s always called, I never had to nag him to!], or even worse, if he’s coming home at all! I know that if I get sick, he’ll take care of me, and the house. And the same goes for him if he gets sick.

    He’s hard working, it was a little difficult at first because he doesn’t have much tact when it comes to dealing with people, and two of the jobs he had were people related jobs. He just isn’t cut out for it, where as I am the exact opposite – I’ve always been in a people profession because people are usually drawn TO me, and I can easily relate to many people. Once he found a job that wasn’t people related, he did very well. I was actually shocked! [considering he is so young, currently 21]. His current job is very laborous, but he loves it! He never complains about having to work .

    We want the same things out of life. We want to get our own house, and eventually have kids. And we agree that right now, kids would not be the best choice. I also have PCOS, and to be honest, I’m deathly afraid of trying to carry my own child to term, and he is okay with adoption [this is a BIG thing for me, because I WILL be a mother, one way or another!].

    He’s my best friend. I can tell him ANYTHING, and he doesn’t judge me. I could tell him that I was checking out the guy in front of me at walmart, and he’d laugh about it. He could do the same thing, and I would be okay with it. We are content, and I love that.

    He’s adorable! 3 years later he STILL leaves me little love notes, sings for me once in awhile, brings home flowers just because. And he’s NEVER forgotton my birthday!

    I’m sure there’s more, but there are some of the major ones.

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