Post # 1
Getting married or buying a house?
Getting married excited me, and I was anxious about the actual wedding planning, but there was no nervousness about actually marrying DH. Buying a house on the other hand? Total anxiety and I’m just at the beginning stages!
Post # 3
I’m with you. You got to test drive the man before you chose to make a lifetime committment. A house, you walk around in for less than an hour and committ! It’s insane. I think it would be easier if you could live in each one for a week or something before you had to decide.
Post # 4
100% agree with you. Some of the wedding planning made me nervous, but I was so excited about marrying my husband. The house search on the other hand? It’s exciting, but super stressful.
Post # 5
@mwitter80: Haha I like that idea!
For me, getting married makes me feel slightly anxious but property ownership does not.
Post # 6
Both cost more than I thought they should.
Post # 7
@mwitter80: This exactly. I’ve known my future husband for almost six years, and you expect me to sink hundreds of thousands of dollars into a house I’ve only been in for maybe six HOURS tops? Crazy talk!
Post # 8
hahhahaha ProfessorGirl I’m with you on that!
Post # 9
Marriage didn’t scare me, I knew deep down that I picked the right one. DH was already in our house before we even started dating; however, at the time he was only renting. When it was time to purchase our home, we knew what we were getting into so it wasn’t that scary either. On the other hand, I know darn well that if it was a new house to us my knees would have been shaking so hard you would have been able to hear them a mile away. Heck, any ‘big’ purchase makes me nervous.
Post # 11
@PrincessConsuelaBananaHammock: haha! now that will be scary. Exciting, but scary.
Post # 12
Planning to get married, I was completely calm, happy, and excited. THen at the last second, driving to the venue and waiting to walk down the aisle, I could barely breathe I was so nervous (although granted it that may have been more about worrying about the music playing right, timing being correct, etc.), than the actual getting married.
Buying a house, I was nervous during the process that we wouldn’t find anything, it wouldn’t go right, we’d fall in love with a house and not be able to get it, etc. But nwo that our closing date is almost here I’m just happy and excited!
So they were pretty opposite for me as far as when I got nervous!
Post # 13
For me, buying a house was easy. The moving part is making me anxious.
The wedding part is the most stressful. Mostly because I don’t know if my family is going to support me at all, so I’m anxious about that. Then there’s the fact that I’m not a social person and I don’t like being the center of attention, which is kind of what the bride is supposed to want on her wedding day. I’m sure I’ll get more anxious the closer we get to the date though.
Post # 14
Definitely married!! Which is hilarious because I’m 1000% sure that FI is the one for me and who knows which house we’re going to end up picking, but I hate being in front of people! I have total stage fright, even when I’m just eating dinner out at a restaurant, so getting married petrifies me, I’m going to have to take some anxiety pills for it.
Post # 15
I thought I would be really nervous about buying a house but I really wasn’t once it started happening.
So I voted neither.
Post # 16
Wasn’t at all nervous about getting married. The only moments that i felt butterflies regarding the wedding was the limo drive to the ceremony and waiting for the music to start before I walked down the aisle LOL. That was it!
Buying a house, different story. We put an offer in and the sellers were home and wanting to get a deal closed, that weekend. So.. it was offer … counter offer… offer… counter offer… continue this for about 4 hours. Or last offer was our final and as high as we were willing to go. They reviewed it for over an HOUR… while we were waiting across the street. Both DH and I were so full of nerves, I was literally trembling. When we got it we were super excited but then of course waking up the next day like “omg, we spent HOW MUCH money yesterday!?!?” . I found that dealing with the paperwork, lawyers, inspections, bank etc etc very overwhelming and stressful. It took a while to adjust to being a home owner but love it.
As far a nerves go though, getting married was much easier for both of us. 🙂
Best of luck!!!