Post # 1
So I was just wondering in this day and age what makes a wedding a destination wedding?
I always thought that having one somewhere tropical (florida keys/carribean/hawaii etc) or anywhere international was a destination wedding. I never considered a location that I don’t live in within the majority of the united states a destination wedding.(with a few exceptions) I think this is mainly because my family is all across the country so no matter where I got married it wouldn’t be home for the vast majority of my family.
So just out of pure curiosity and because I am bored, what defines destination wedding for you?
Post # 3
To clarify: When it says ‘nor can I drive there’ I mean that the destination is not just a few hours away from where you do live 🙂
example: I live in denver area and I would not consider a wedding in the mountains a destination wedding as I can drive there that morning and get married there that night!
Post # 4
It seems like people use it to mean a city that they and most of their guests don’t live in. No restrictions on driving though (which is why I didn’t vote). Our wedding is a 6-hour drive for us, a lot of our friends and my fiance’s family. It’s a 2 1/2 hour drive for my parents and most of their friends. The rest of our guests live between 2 1/2 and 8 hours away (obviously some of them might fly, but it’s also 2 hours from a major airport). So even though everyone’s driving, I consider it destination, because literally only one of our guests actually lives in the town where the wedding is.
ETA – even though it’s only 2 hours away for some people, everyone will need to stay in a hotel and will probably come out the day before for the rehearsal dinner and other festivities. So it’s a weekend away from home, which in my mind makes it a destination. No one will get dressed, leave their house, drive to the wedding, drive home at the end of the night, and sleep in their own bed. (At least I highly doubt it.)
Post # 5
to me, a dw is one where the couple doesn’t live or has ever lived, nor where there families live.
Post # 6
I didn’t vote b/c I didn’t know what made most sense with my answer.
My definition changed after I started planning my wedding. I’m getting married in Charleston, SC. Not international and not my home town. FH’s family lives within easy driving distance and its where we met/fell in love/ and lived for 5 years, its also where we plan to move back to eventually.
I didn’t consider it a destination wedding at first but then certain people started calling it that so I started calling it a semi-destination because 90% of the guests have to travel. It’s not on the beach and its not tropical. I know it is a destination city for weddings but we chose it because of the attachment we have to it and the fact that a large portion of our guests would have to travel regardless of where we held the wedding.
Post # 7
- Wedding: December 2010 - Al Cielo / La Laguna
I second Miss OBG. It really means that you and your guests are traveling somewhere you don’t live. The thing that really sets a destination wedding apart is having a bunch of people who travel and stay with you in a location. The things you do like welcome parties and such are different from a standard wedding.
Post # 8
by that definition ‘a city that they and most of their guests don’t live in’ I literally could never not have a destination wedding.
we live in colorado, my parents in VA, my family in WI and MO, his family in TX, our friends all over the freaking county! 🙂 There is not even one state that contains the majority of our friends or family.
I totally see where you are coming from though, it just makes me think…
I feel like we need another wedding term:
1) wedding (in your hometown… )
2) destination wedding
3) something to describe what is inbetween! I can’t come up with anything at the moment….
Post # 9
Im with Mrs Meerkat – a DW is one where the majority of your guests and you and your FI are traveling to get to. Our wedding was in Georgia, 10 hours from us. Yes, we could drive there but we considered it destination since the only people that lived nearby were DHs parents. Everyone else had to drive at least 1 hour but the majority of guests traveled by plane to get there!
Post # 10
I think for those who didn’t vote based on the driving part the last option would be what I think you would choose – at least that is what I was trying to say by that option 🙂
Post # 10
If I have to handle all of my wedding details via fax, phone, and e-mail then I consider that a destination wedding. I am getting married 3 hours away from where I live and I am coordinating everything from a distance or either taking days off from work to go take care of stuff (b/c some things you can’t do on the weekend).
Post # 11
@Coloradolov: Yeah I mean, in this day and age with people moving so far from home for school and jobs, and making friends everywhere they go, most weddings have this vibe. That’s why I’m always astonished when people say most of their guests are local, because I can’t imagine that!
My wedding is also in a vacation town that is a “destination” of sorts, but like june42011, I kind of consider mine semi-destination, and I think most weddings are going that way. Just look at all of the bees making OOT bags, even the ones getting married in their own hometowns!
ETA – I definitely think something like Miss Pancakes getting married in a villa in Costa Rica is different than those of us getting married in a town a few hours away, so I guess I agree that there should be a third term to use. I’m going with “semi-destination.”
Post # 12
@JamaicaBride: I like how you defined it – only be able to plan it via email/fax/phone. I think that gets at what I meant by not being able to drive there. I can’t just run down the street and taste the cake for my wedding! I couldn’t even go and taste it on a weekend. (Don’t get me wrong I would love to go to jamaica before our wedding for a taste test!!)
In fact when I have my first taste of my wedding cake/food it will be at the same time as all of my guests! 🙂
Post # 13
maybe we should call semi-destination weddings
‘weekend weddings’ because most everyone who is going is going for the weekend
vs regular wedding – saturday night for most people
vs destination wedding – long weekends for most people
Post # 14
I see so many posts of people saying we drove 2.5 hours to get to our destination wedding. Def not a destination wedding.
I think a destination wedding is this exactly:
a place where we don’t live and our families do not live (nor can we drive there)
If you can drive there and back in one day then you are not having a DW!
Post # 15
I don’t think “destination wedding” has anything to do with where guests live in relation to the location. I think it is just about the B&G.
Destination wedding to me is a wedding in a location where neither the bride or groom lives nor has ever lived. Basically a location where the bride or groom have never resided but was chosen for some other reason.
For example – I’m from IN and lived there until I went to college. I had my wedding there even though not one of my friends lives in IN and DH and I now live in TX. But I didn’t consider it a destination wedding (even though DH and I and most of our guests had to travel) because it’s where I’m from and my parents still live there.