Post # 1
Hope you are all having a great day! I am in the middle of planning my wedding for next spring, and I’d like to know what it is for you that makes a wedding GREAT! Is it the food? The amount of food? The kinds of food? Is it the decor? The Centrepieces?Is it how expensive the wedding looks? Is it the personal detail that went into it? The time of day? etc. What for you, for any wedding you’ve been to and have come back saying “wow that was fabulous” what was it that stood out? I’m curious where I should focus my attention with respect to details 🙂
Looking forward to your answers!!! 😀
Post # 3
I can’t tell you how glad I am to see that NO ONE has voted that a great wedding is based on how much was spent.
Post # 5
I’ve been to many weddings as a wedding photographer. Honestly, my favorite wedding EVER was one that the bride spent less than $5K on, and she had tons of family help.
she worked at the venue for 6 months, every weekend, so she could borrow it for free on her day. her FH’s family made food that was to die for! Thy cooked it on grills while we were there-like food station style. Her sister made the flowers with blooms from Costco. Her mom did the favors that were wildflower seeds in a pack that was biodegradable. The wine was deeply discounted because she worked for the winery. Her dress was off the rack, David’s Bridal clearance for $200. Her make-up was from going to the MAC counter and asking for a make-over and all she purchased was the lipstick. She was a friend or a friend so I did her photography for the cost of a plane ticket. And the venue was all inclusive so she spent nothing on rentals.
It was truly the most beautiful wedding I have attended. She was gorgeous and she was so damn happy!
Post # 6
I think just the mood that is created. I recently went to a very expensive wedding where the bride and groom fought the night before and the morning of the wedding and it showed, no matter how much they spent. She walked down the aisle frowning at her groom and the guests that didn’t know what had gone on knew something was up and everyone was walking on egg shells. If the bride and groom are happy then I think everyone is.
Post # 7
A great wedding has nothing to do with the amount of money versus the emotion of the day. I’ve been to weddings where $$$ was spent and it was kinda of empty feeling. Yes the food was great tons of options, there was an open bar, the venue was nice, but there was no “fun” or personality to the day. It was so …i don’t know what other word to use but cold and blah.
If no one is having genuine fun i don’t give damn how much you spent, its just another event. Honestly the weddings i remember most its always the feeling that I got from the couple and their guests that stayed with me the most. Was it genuine?
If I get the feeling that the wedding is for “show” (and a wedding can be inexpensive/diy but still for show) thats such a turn off. I don’t remember the centerpieces or the details that we as brides tend to kill ourselves over. I want to feel the love and dance to some great music. Those are the details that I look for.
Post # 8
Wow fantastic comments Lady Bees! This day and age you hear so much of “elaborate elaborate elaborate” and even myself, in my fiance’s family they love $$$ the more of it you have the more accepted you are, the less you have, the less you matter. I personally come from a small town and growing up emphasis was always on quality not quantity and it was ALWAYS the thought that truly counted. Now where I am and who I am surrounded by it’s quite the opposite, and superficial beats sentiment and it’s hard to compete with. Compete? Maybe not the word I am looking for, maybe stand up to, or stand against. Personally for me, it’s always been, Feeling over Flashy, thought over thoughtless, sentiment over superficial, heart-throbber over Show-stopper and my best over the Jones’.
Post # 9
Found this older thread, saw OP’s wedding is coming up in a few weeks, and thought I’d revive it:
For me, the thing that makes a wedding GREAT is the joy of getting family and friends together. You can just feel it in the air when you have a group of people who are all really happy to be together.
My sister and her now-husband did an awesome job of creating this (or maybe just creating the conditions to allow it to happen) at their wedding a few years ago. One of the things I noticed about what they did was, they went out of their way to make the kids feel included and special. It was so great to see all the kids rocking out on the dance floor at their reception and having a blast – everyone got a kick out of it, and it helped build a really energetic, festive mood. I know lots of Bees have strong feelings about not wanting kids at their weddings, and that’s fine. In our family, though, including all of the generations is an essential part of the celebration.
Post # 10
@KCKnd2: That’s exactly what I think!!
Post # 11
I decided that what makes ANY good time a great time is having a good story to share afterwards. And good stories usually involve strangers somehow…
That was the basic premise my FI and I had when we were thinking of venues. So we decided on Foxwoods. I am really excited about it. We are going to have a reception in a private bar next to a few bowling lanes we have rented out. (swankiest bowling alley ever. High Rollers at Foxwoods in CT) By the time the reception is over at 9:30, our guests will be ready to mingle through the casino. I plan on wandering around all night, seeing what kind of trouble people get into… and hopefully having great stories afterwards!
Post # 12
@KCKnd2: We have two kids of our own and quite a few kids in my family so we will have kids at our wedding. I honestly prefer for it to be just close familys children since plates are so expensive.
For me, I think the DJ makes a good wedding. If the music is good and people are dancing, it is always a great time. Also the guests invited make a difference too. If the guests are friendly, outgoing and make a point to enjoy themselves, others join in the fun. I also love the little personal touches at weddings. I dont care about big elaborate centerpieces. I rather see a beautiful DIY centerpiece that you can tell the bride and groom put their hearts into! A wedding is a personal event and should be made that way. It makes you feel the love!
Post # 13
@baileysbride2be: Did you check with your venue about a children’s plate option? Ours has a children’s plate for 13-and-under that is only about a third of the price of the adult plate. I agree that makes a huge difference – we would have a hard time including as many kids if we had to pay the full adult price for them.
Post # 14
Great music=great wedding; lots of dancing and smiling=great wedding!! but the main thing is: deeply in love brides and groom=great wedding ever!!!