What makes the last strech stressful?

posted 3 years ago in Logistics
  • poll: What makes the last days stressful?
    procrastination : (6 votes)
    25 %
    forgetting details : (7 votes)
    29 %
    things going wrong : (5 votes)
    21 %
    other : (6 votes)
    25 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    5697 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I think the why is because most people procrastinate, and they don’t get things done and that last stretch is a high paced marathon. I didn’t feel stressed in my last bit, I just was ready to go on PTO and get things started!

    Post # 5
    Member
    473 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: January 2014

    @Anna10-05-2014:  We’re just 10 days away and as I was sitting with FI last night eating dinner we both started talking about how hard these last few days are, not because we have a lot to do, but because everything is done and we are just waiting now! I think the key is just to spread everything out, don’t take on too many projects that have to be completed at the last minute, and try to leave yourself open time in the weekends leading up to the wedding that can be filled with anything last-minute that does come up (so you aren’t stressing about having so little time to do those things).

    Post # 7
    Member
    789 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: January 2014

    My stress has been caused by a vendor who cancelled last minute, and unresponsive/rude vendors.  I’ve planned and done everything ahead of time, but you just can’t do anything about rude people!

    Post # 9
    Member
    1864 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    This is a great topic, hope more people answer as my wedding is almost two months away and I’m trying my best to get everything done the week BEFORE our wedding so I can relax the week of. Especially since I only had 6 months to plan our wedding and have procrastinated a bit at first. Hope I succeed! 

    Post # 10
    Member
    1437 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2014

    What I’ve gathered from my friends who’ve gotten married, is that it’s those last-minute details that you really can’t do ahead of time. No matter how great of a planner you are, you’re still not going to have a final guest count until maybe a month before the wedding, which means you have to wait until that time to make a seating chart, place cards, keep track of and submit entree selections, etc.

    Then there’s the last-minute finalizing of all day-of details with vendors, and making sure that everyone knows where to be, when, and what to do.

    I’m a November 2014 bride and I’m right there with you. We have everything done that we possibly can at this point – venue/catering, photographer, attire, invitations, save-the-dates, guest lists…we’ve got it almost all done. I think as long as you stay on top of whatever you can, you’ll be fine. 🙂

    Post # 11
    Member
    789 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: January 2014

    @Anna10-05-2014:  It was a vendor with a photobooth, which I reserved and paid a deposit for in June.  They emailed me mid-December notifying me that they no longer serviced my area, and would be refunding my deposit.  I found them through Groupon…..my mistake!  The vendors who aren’t responding were referred to me by other friends who used them, but I think the communication issues are a thing for them all the time. 

    Post # 12
    Member
    6505 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2013

    My biggest stress at the end was the seating plan and place cards. There really isn’t any way to do those ahead of time because you need RSVPs back first. I guess we could have pushed up our RSVP date to help with that but I didn’t realize we would have so many issues getting a yes or no from people.

    Post # 13
    Member
    2782 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 2013

    @Anna10-05-2014:  Here was my last month:  seamstress tore my dress by accident (she was awesome, but human!), last RSVP trickedled in and they RSVPed for EIGHT– when there were FOUR invited.  They also waited until the very last minute to RSVP– which was a surprise because we sent out our invites earlier than the norm- and everyone else got back to so fast.  We figured for sure the few we hadn’t heard from would be no’s- and the day we were going to do follow phone-calls, that one came in the mail.  It temporarily threw a bunch of stuff off, but thankfully my venue handled it well and still kepy my vision.  My hair piece hadn’t arrived and there was no communication from the seller.  There were a few things that ended up being mild procrastination– and they took longer than I anticipated.  To top if off, I had health issues that required 3 DRs visits and an ultrasound– and then 5 days before, I got sick. I was sick the week before my wedding LOL

    We were on schedule, and I wasn’t a anal-retentive bride- I’m generally laid back, and there are few things that bother me enough to make me upset.  But– none the less, it was stressful and then to get sick– LOL yeah

     

    Post # 14
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    789 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: January 2014

    @MrsBeck:  Yes.  It is really frustrating when people can’t be bothered to return a pre-stamped, pre-addressed envelope.  I had to hunt down so many RSVPs….

    Post # 15
    Member
    227 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: January 2014

    Two weeks to go!

    I’m with the others on RSVPs and seating plan type stuff, it’s not procrastination as you need to wait to hear back and it can be an organizational nightmare.

     

    Post # 16
    Member
    8720 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2013

    For me:

    my husband is in the navy so he wasnt here until the very end

    I worked all the way up until the wedding weekend

    all my vendors wanted to talk/meet that last week PLUS I worked PLUS some things went wrong

    What went wrong: Our favor guy cancelled 6 days before the wedding and we had already bought everything else so we needed that SAME EXACT favor and ended up paying double in price and having to drive farther to pick them up

    -a groomsmen tells us 3 days before that he has no money and never booked a plane ticket or got transportation to get from Atlanta to NJ and never got his suit so basically he cancelled

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