What makes you feel loved by your SO?

posted 3 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
5208 posts
Bee Keeper

When he is getting ready for work and I’m still in bed, he’ll tuck the covers around me, make sure my feet are covered up, and kiss me on the head before he leaves. He’s done that a couple times, not knowing I’m actually awake. It just really touches my heart, because I know he’s doing it simpy because he cares, and not because hes tryig to get any credit for being sweet.

Post # 4
2169 posts
Buzzing bee

@Sporty-Bee:  Since I’m in a LDR, what it boils down to for me is attention. I love it when I get extra special attention and sweet words and throughts.

Post # 5
5909 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2018

Mr. 99 gets up before I do and takes the puppy out to potty so I don’t have to get out of bed.  He goes to the grocery store and does all the shopping, takes out the trash without me asking.  He’s good to my parents, patient with my brother and last night, gave me one of his pillows so that I could prop myself up and still sleep…I’m kind of sick and really congested…and that was sweet.

Post # 6
31 posts

My receiving love language is acts of service.  (Google love languages–there are 5: acts of service, gifts, touch, words of affirmation, quality time.)

When my FI cooks me a meal when I don’t have time to cook for myself, or takes my trash out, or makes phone calls/appointments so I don’t have to–those things make me appreciate him more than anything else.  When he moved me into my new place last August, that was like +1,000,000 points for him!!  I hate moving and he helped me pack/unpack, lift heavy boxes, and drove the U-Haul.  


Actually, typing this out is helping me realize why I had been so upset with him in the past couple months of wedding planning.  We got engaged in Oct, and the wedding is in May.  Only over Christmas did he finally “get” that we are planning a wedding and we actually need to make decisions/calls/plans, and if he doesn’t, I have to do it.  I get the feeling that most women don’t care/maybe prefer if their FI doesn’t help with the planning but I wanted help and was really upset about it, and I believe that is because the lack of acts of service made me feel unloved.  (We have since worked through this wonderfully but this is the first time I’ve been able to explain it in terms of the way I prefer to be loved.)

Post # 7
164 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@ahraysee:  Mine is physical touch… Whenever DH holds my hand, cuddles with me on the couch, gives me hugs, I feel that much closer to him. 

Post # 8
1625 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

@Sporty-Bee:  I love when I ask him to do some stupid little thing and he does it without hesitation. Like when we are both on the couch and I ask him to get me a drink of water just because I’m being lazy, and he immediately hops up. Or when we get home and I’m wearing boots and all I have to do is stick my leg out and he pulls them off for me. He always turns on my electric blanket when I’m getting ready for bed so its warm when I get in. He always takes bags or things I’m carrying out of my hands so he can carry them for me.. All the little stuff!

Post # 9
2114 posts
Buzzing bee

@Sporty-Bee:  Last night he had the day off to go to an interview (fingers crossed!) and when I got home I saw he cleaned the bathroom and tidied up the bedroom. THEN while i was talking about my day he rubbed my feet. Gosh what a keeper

and every morning when he leaves he kisses me on my forehead. It wakes me up, but i like it lol.

Post # 10
2248 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012 - Southern California

My husband & I rarely have days off together so I love when he comes to meet me on my lunch on his day off & he usually brings something extra special.  Yesterday he brought me a bagel, coffee, & chocolate covered strawberries WITH our puppy!  

He’s also a cuddler which I absolutely take advantage of every.single.night!  Falling asleep in his arms never gets old :]

Post # 11
3806 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

DH has done so much and continues to do so much for me… I really can not list everything. 

But the biggest gesture would be the fact that he planned our entire honeymoon and it was the most romantic and memorable time of our lives. 

The most noteworthy thing he’s ever done, and this may seem very average, but it meant something to me, was when he brought home a redbox movie that I wanted to see (I don’t remember the title), but before we watched it, he told me about his grand adventure that he went on to find it. lol He went to so many locations just to bring it home because he knew it would make me happy. In that moment, I knew that he REALLY loved me. 

Post # 12
130 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

FI always makes sure to get me ice cream or cookies when my period starts and encourages me to eat as much junk as I want if it makes me feel better, and says never feel guilty. I love it. 

He automatically opens the crook of his arm in bed at night now so I can tuck in there, it’s “my spot”. And this is from a man who told me in the beginning that he will never sleep touching someone because he’s too hot. 

Anytime we walk from our cars together, he instinctively grabs all the bags to carry.

I love little gestures.

Post # 13
279 posts
Helper bee

@Sporty-Bee:  I’m in a LDR so when he calls me even though he is stressed and dead tired and I can hear his voice perk up when talking to me. 

When I’m home and when I lived with him: He knew I was exhausted and I count calories so I cook, but he will do dishes without me asking and he puts them away. In the morning he would have my oatmeal ready for me when I was running late. When we are sitting on the couch and he suddenly remembers how lucky he is (he told me that is what he is thinking) and all of a sudden hugs me real tight and whipers how much he loves me. 

When I was sick and he did all my laundry, including putting it away.  He ran home from school. I was supposed to be his ride but couldn’t drive. He walked/ran the 2 miles home to take care of me

Post # 14
107 posts
Blushing bee

@Sporty-Bee:  (My love language is acts of service) I feel loved…

When my SO offers to drive me to work ( he works from home and we both have our own) instead of me taking the train.

When I wake up to him making me breakfast

When brings me my favorite bottle of wine ( although I believe he has an ulterior motive when he does this…to get me drunk so he can get lucky lol)

When he cuddles me

When he plans date nights

When he massages my feet (he does not like feet lol)

Post # 15
1834 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2013 - backyard in the woods

My husband makes me breakfast every morning. I have hypoglycemia and I always feel woozy whe I first get up. I could do it myself, but I hate doing it because I feel poorly, so he does it for me.

Post # 16
2562 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

This is the perfect thread for right now. I’ve had a rough last few days and he had to work tonight so when I got home, he left a note for me. It said there is a bottle of wine in the fridge, he rented me a movie and set up the new king size bed we just bought. AND he ordered pizza that is to be delivered in ~10 minutes. There has never been a better surprise to find right when I got home from work.

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