Post # 1
Isnt it funny how the way someone behaves or the words they say could make them less physically attractive?
For example, I began to find my ex less and less attractive physically (couldnt keep my hands off of him before!) when he began acting different toward the end of our relationship. He became sexually selfish (would implement sex despite me wanting to or not), increasingly mean, and rude. Since then, I feel like he’s not physically attractive at all.
What makes you less physically attracted to someone?
Post # 3
In the past, I was turned off by an ex when he got clingy and would bring out the baby talk. Ugh, so irritating! We were teenagers, so hopefully he’s learned how awful that is by now.
As for a random hot guy walking down the street, if he smells like cigarettes or I see him smoking, he instantly becomes unattractive to me.
Post # 4
Bad breath – I can’t be all lovey in the morning until we brush our teeth, totally not romantic & I know it kills those spontanious morning times, but it literally makes my stomach turn.
Post # 6
I had an old co-worker from another office that I saw a picture of and every girl in my office though he was really hot. We would get giddy when it was one person’s turn to work with him on a project. He came to our office for a training session one week, and he was so cocky and had that “I know I’m hot” attitude. From then on, we all called him DB and couldn’t stand talking to him.
Post # 7
I absolutely second ‘bad breath’.
Also: bragging, gossiping, regular heavy drinking/getting smashed, dipping, jean shorts.
I HATE smoking and find it so unattractive, but what do you know… I’ve dated a smoker for almost 3 years and we’re getting married next May :/ He’s trying to quit and it’s like the best wedding gift he could give.
Post # 8
@AnnieAAA: I TOTALLY agree. Bad breath is one of my biggest pet peeves. I feel like people don’t know that you have to brush your tongue as well as your teeth to get rid of the bacteria.
I am attracted to FI (of course), but sometimes he does stuff that causes a complete shutdown below my belt. For example: stripping down to a tank, boxers, and socks, stuffing his hand down his pants while watching TV, and then suddenly trying to get on me. Aw hell naw.
Post # 9
For me, attitude/personality. It is funny though how someone can be very physically attractive to one person and not attractive at all to another.
I also thought this was strange- I waited tables in college with another college aged guy that was very attractive. But, I wasn’t attracted to him at all. He wasn’t a jerk or anything… he just had no sex appeal or something.
Post # 10
Bad personal hygiene’s pretty bad, but the worst mood-killer for me has to be attitude/personality, hands down. My ex had general anxiety disorder, and before I convinced him to go into therapy to get a handle on it, he used to take out it out on me. Basically anything to do with drinking, sex in the movies, and dark/morbid/raunchy humor would set him off. So if his roommate told a tasteless joke and I laughed, my ex would act like I was the one with the problem and give us both a lecture about how we were horrible people for enjoying jokes like that. You get the idea.
Anyway, we were going to bed one night and started making out and fooling around, and right when we were getting into it, he goes, “God, you and your perverse sexual lust!”
Goodbye, sex drive. I broke down crying and point-blank asked him, “Do you enjoy having sex with me?” He said yes. “Then why would you want to make me feel so shitty about wanting to have sex with you?” He had no answer for that one. We talked it out and he agreed to get help with his GAD, but I never initiated sex again with him after that because I never wanted to risk him making me feel that un-sexy again. It was the worst turn-off ever.
I’m now married to the aforementioned roommate, btw, who makes me feel like the hottest woman alive 🙂
Post # 11
Oh! Great thread! I cannot find weak men attractive. And I don’t mean physical weakness. I really need a strong personality.
Post # 12
@KristenGotMarried: bragging, know-it-alls! Fully agree. I had an ex like that, and that’s why he’s my ex.
Although, i would like to ask… what is “dipping”?
Post # 13
@.twist.: Dipping is chewing tobacco.
Post # 14
@bells: Oh yeah, bad breath is a big one for me too. I’m not a morning sex person for that very reason…well and just the general feeling of being unclean.
Post # 15
For me, confidence is important, but there is such a thing as being overly confident…. a.k.a …. cocky. if a guy is full of himself he is so much less attractive to me! Even though he may be beautiful on the outside….
Post # 16
Dirty fingernails or long fingernails, bad breath, arrogance.