Post # 1
I was just sitting here thinking, based on things from another post..
You see pictures of the uber-elegant, expensive weddings in all the magazines, and a lot of websites flaunt the “at home” or “really unique and ‘you'” weddings.
I feel like I’m putting on a rather simple event. It isn’t extravagant, but it isn’t me or my FI either… in fact, I don’t know what I could have done to make it more “US”.. We don’t share the same profession. Our hobbies and interests (watching movies, going out to dinner, hanging out w. friends, throwing back yard parties..)are not something that can be expressed in wedding decor.
We are making homemade cookies for our favors. We are having fun drinks & a big dessert bar. We are going to do a late night photo shoot with some fireworks (my FI LOVES shooting off fireworks) That’s about as close as we come to “us”.
Is anyone else having a rather “simple, non-descript” wedding? I sort of feel like I’m alone on this one…
Post # 3
Simple and non-descript? Me too. To a great extent what will make it us is what we are NOT having: no attendants, no band, no seated dinner, no tux, a non-poofy wedding dress, no favors. What we ARE having is a combination of friends and family that will be unique to us. Our music, though pre-recorded, will be our unique choices, mixed by us onto an iPod. Our ceremony readings will be specially chosen by us. We are playing with ideas of how to include all the guests in the wedding ceremony in some way. Don’t worry, the “stuff” is not what makes it “us.”
Post # 4
Oh, and look at “The Knot” site’s http://wedding.theknot.com/wedding-planning/wedding-budget.aspx. Some really unique outdoor wedding ideas you might be able to get inspiration from.
Post # 5
While I will admittedly be having some “trendy” elements at my wedding (bunting?), I will also be having a very midwestern, down to earth and fun party. We found a cater that makes Hotdish (Minnesota Casseroles, most famously, tuna noodle & Tater tot!), and there are two outdoor firepits, so we will be doing s’mores (which is my favorite thing thus far!)
When I think of us as a couple, I think of fun, casual and relaxed. We watch cartoons, we like to ride bikes and go on adventures. I just want that same spirit to be carried through our celebration.
Overall, it’s not about how fancy it is, it’s about how much fun everyone has!
Also, our Venue is super “green” which is important to me. It’s LEED certified, windmill-powered, and overlooks the Mississippi. And it’s also really involved in American Indian culture, which I appreciate, being half-Native and all.
Post # 6
i plan on doing homemade salsa as favours, which as odd as it seems is ‘us’.
my moms been making salsa for a few years now and everyone looks forward to it, and i think it’s one of my favourite things to enjoy with N.
Post # 7
I have a hard time figuring out what is “us” too. I think all the diy stuff I am going might tie into that (made our own invitations, decor, table numbers, place cards, etc).
Post # 8
My wedding is very me, and a little bit us. I am doing all of the planning so it is more me than him.
The whole thing is a secret (except from our parents and a few friends) I dont like all of the wedding hooplah, with showers and engagement parties
We are eloping to Thailand- I love to travel, especially to exotic destinations
My dress is sexy,simple, modern and elegant-it looks like a dressier, white version of something i would normally wear
I’m spending alot of time (and $$) on my shoes-I am a huge shoe fanatic
For our at home reception:
The main color is orange and flowers are orchids-my favorite color and flower
our venue is spot that my family has close ties too
the food will be Thai and there will be tons of champagne-more favorites of mine
I am a baker and am making the wedding cakes (an assortment) and the favors-baked good will be a focus
The invitations are a custom design which really reflect us and the wedding
Post # 9
The wedding was “us” because the ceremony was touching, with our own vows and my father who wrote a personal reading just for us and his sister who performed our hand ceremony.
It was also “us” because if the very easy-going feel to it. We had fun and everybody was relaxed, even us (we were probably even more relaxed than our parents!)
Post # 10
Ours is US because we’re not doing anything we don’t want to do. Like some of you – no wedding party, non-fussy event – where we have time to visit with our friends and family.
My dad is performing the ceremony so I think that’s pretty special, plus I’m going to ask my little bro to play the guitar for me to walk down the aisle and my cousin will be taking photos – I love that it’s going to be very family-oriented.
Other than that I think little touches – sure people have had similar flowers but I’ll be arranging ours, and similar invitations but I’m designing and making them so I think that kind of stuff just makes it more special to us.
Post # 11
@Ella1978 that sounds like you are having a wedding that has a lot of elements that incorporate you two. Maybe you’re having a simple wedding but it sounds like there are elements of the two of you incorporated. What about in the actual ceremony? We’re having a pretty simple wedding as well but I think once we work out the ceremony details it’ll definietly feel more like us, to me that’s really where a lot of the couples “personality” shines through.
Post # 12
I love reading all about the personality that everyone puts into their wedding. I love reading how someone’s grandmother always made apple pies, so everyone got a personal apple pie for dessert. i think that those weddings are the most personal, most unique, and they make the greatest stories…
Admitedly, we don’t have a lot of that. @Cricket1524 we are trying to interject a few elements of us into the reception. We’d love to add an ice cream bar, and cheesecake, they are more our style, but it’s not in the budget. My mother is very traditional, so there is a lot of “traditional” put into our wedding. A traditional cake (which will be beautiful but neither of us LOVE cake), a traditional dollar dance (even though the FI doesn’t care for dancing), and a champage toast (even though the FI and I don’t like champagne….. this makes me roll my eyes) they were things that were “expected” and those “expected” things are the bulk of what we have.
As far as the ceremony. I am walking down the aisle to the wedding processional from the sound of music.. something that I have dreamed of forever. My fiance picked pinstripe tuxes… something he LOVED. And the photography is important to us, so we are spending a LOT of time between events getting amazing photos… so there are things that we like about it, but it doesn’t embody US.. I don’t know if that even makes sense.
I do love love LOVE reading about all of yours though. I think that those are the things that tell you a little more about someone!
Post # 13
@Ella1978 I wouldn’t worry about it too much – so long as you’re doing the things that are important to you – which I think could even be including those things that your Mother expects – because your mother is important to you.
I say who cares if it isn’t like all those “blog-worthy” weddings? Which are lovely but the most important thing is that it’s special to you. Even though you might not love every single aspect of those traditional things – no one else is going to have YOUR wedding. So that make it special. 🙂
Post # 14
Thanks Camrie! I think that the most important thing is that we are getting married!!! At the end of the day, it’s just a big party celebrating that fact. I guess it will be “us” because it’s about us.
I’m not letting it stress me too much, it’s just something I think about.. like what could I have done to put more “us” into it..? I still try, with everything we do.
Post # 15
It’s funny cause it’s all me not too big not too small were both not flashy, but he trust me ideas!!
Post # 16
I think the “us” factor isn’t in specific things that you incorporate, but the overall feel and personality of the wedding.
Our wedding will be just family. No friends. (because we were running into the “if we invite x, then we’ll have to invite y, z, a, b, and c so we don’t hurt feelings…and if we invite c and not d then d will create drama” and etc. :)) Plus our wedding is several states away.
We’re getting married outside. I LOVE outside and we’re minimizing decorations because outside (and the beach!) is enough decoration. My flowers aren’t the most gorgeous or extravagant, but they’re my favorites (alstromeria) and I want my bouquet to look like I was frolicking in a field and decided to pick a bunch of flowers. LOL. Our wedding will be really simple and laid-back, which IS us. Formal and extravagant doesn’t fit either of our personalities. We want to have FUN and we want our families to have fun, and we want it to be intimate and meaningful and not a spectacle.
We’re having a very casual afterparty when we get back. I can’t even call it a reception because it won’t be that formal. I’m wearing an ivory cotton sundress for the afterparty. Again….informal is very us.