Post # 1
- Wedding: May 2014 - Madison, WI
So I’ve personally been very surprised recently at all the things my FI and his friends were clueless about when it came to tying the knot. So just for fun what surprised your groom/FI the most? Or what surprised you that he had a strong opinion about?
Mine: Had no idea he also had to buy a wedding ring for me or as he calls it “a second ring” ! He’s not alone either, his best man didn’t know either and thought that you just took the engagement ring back before the ceremony and put it back on her finger. Thankfully his wife clued him in before the wedding!
Then, after our tasting for the reception food…FI was telling people all the food we would be having…every dish we tasted!! He did not get at all that the tasting was to decide which dishes we would be having. Even when the planner wrote them down?! He just thought it was to make sure we liked all the food! Lol
It also surprised me some of the traditional stuff FI was horrified at the idea of not having…like a recieving line.. Cause he’s “never been to a wedding without one”
Just reminded me of the line in Bride Wars where Kate Hudson’s character asks her FI “What do boys learn in school??” When he suggests letting out her Vera Wang gown.
Post # 3
hahah! those are all very humorous! “second ring”
my SIL’s FI had no idea that he could pass of duties to the bridal party for the day of– he was saying how stressed he’d be getting a hold of the vendors. when i told him he needs to give a list to a groomsman or someone else, his response was “i can do that?” lol! of course you can, you’re the groom!
Post # 4
@Ms_Purple: Hilarious!!! My FI also was shell shocked when I bought the wedding band at the jewelers. (we still ended up being 200$ under budget after buying all 3 at the same time)
We got in the car and I look over at him and I was almost scared, he looked stressed and uncomfortable. So I said “what’s wrong?”
He replied in an uneven/confused tone, not angry or anything but super confused… “Why did you buy that other ring??”
“you mean the wedding band? Women have 2 rings! I’m sorry i thought you knew!”
“NO! I had no idea! Are you sure??”
haha to which I explained yeah i was sure, and all the jazz, gave him the option to just go back and cancel the band purchase and he had calmed down by then. It still makes me LOL.
Post # 5
@Ms_Purple: Your FH and the tasting … very cute!
In general, FH thinks nearly every item should not cost more than $200. The photog is $3.5K. Really? YES! The cake is $XXX. REALLY? YES! You can’t buy a dress for $500 – well I probably could but my budget is more. Really? YES!
Ok, I know my original budget was waaaaaaaaaaaay off but his was even worse. He’s a good sport though and I’m happy to have him!
Post # 6
@LilRhodyGem: LOL! Your FI sounds like my dad…”$200, yeah that sounds about right!”LOL
Post # 7
Oh lord. My FI is clueless also. Hence I am doing almost everything myself.
He also needed to be convinced by other people (not just me) that I needed a “second ring.”
Post # 8
FI thought catering would be less expensive. he was thinking $3-4 pp and i told him I WISH! he also went with me to a bridal expo for prices on things and he thought that everywhere i signed up for info was me signing a contract! he was probably zoned out and wishing he was elsewhere! LOL!
Post # 9
I think FI was a little confused about the two rings, but not really sure. He proposed with a solitaire and said later on that he looked for a set but the jewelry store didn’t have any. Fast forward a few months and we are talking about wedding bands and I told him what I wanted he said “you get another ring?” and I said “Yes. Girls have the engagement ring and the wedding band.” I don’t know if he was playing dumb or though he was supposed to look for a set but didn’t know what it meant. Silly me I didn’t think to ask him.
Other than that he has been pretty knowledgable about most of it.
Post # 10
@omglauren: $3 to $4 pp? Fun-NEE!
Post # 11
He was totally against a wedding cake. I had no idea why until I found out that he thought it was going to be $1200 (because of the Father of the Bride movie). Yes darling, a cake made to feed 35 people will be $1200. Because that’s logical.
We ordered it from the baker the other week and it’s costing $120.
Post # 12
@LilRhodyGem: Sounds like my FI!
Post # 13
I brought up the idea of a day of coordinator and my FI was basically like ‘we don’t need one of those, I don’t mind being in charge of things on our wedding day’……. I looked at him like he was crazy. He honestly thought in his mind that he could be behind the scenes ushering vendors around the venue, setting everything up, handing out payments, making sure everyone was where they needed to be ON TOP of being the groom and getting married…. But he was so sincere in his offer as if it was all going to be a piece of cake!
Post # 14
Haha! Love reading these. My groomy is the opposite. All his friends are getting married around the same time so needless to say he has opinions for everythinggggg and he thinks the bigger/more the better. Im a simple bride so it’s not as great as you think but it is super sweet 😉 MEN!
Post # 15
@LilRhodyGem: @Penelopeee: haha, your stories made me laugh. My husband is also totally clueless about the cost of things. He thought $10K was a really reasonable price for a photographer, but then he thought it was completely absurd that I was going to pay someone $100 to do my makeup the day of the wedding.
Post # 16
My FH can’t believe what things cost either. He also didn’t know that women got 2 rings until we started looking and he realized that many come as sets – he thought you got them both together…He doesn’t understand the importance of finalizing the guest list, all the invites should go out at once…
Where do WE learn these things? Somehow women seem to inately know this stuff and men just don’t.