What men don't know about wedding planning….

posted 3 years ago in Grooms/men
Post # 3
1106 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

hahah! those are all very humorous! “second ring”

my SIL’s FI had no idea that he could pass of duties to the bridal party for the day of– he was saying how stressed he’d be getting a hold of the vendors. when i told him he needs to give a list to a groomsman or someone else, his response was “i can do that?” lol! of course you can, you’re the groom!

Post # 4
52 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

@Ms_Purple:  Hilarious!!! My FI also was shell shocked when I bought the wedding band at the jewelers. (we still ended up being 200$ under budget after buying all 3 at the same time)

We got in the car and I look over at him and I was almost scared, he looked stressed and uncomfortable. So I said “what’s wrong?”

He replied in an uneven/confused tone, not angry or anything but super confused… “Why did you buy that other ring??”

“you mean the wedding band? Women have 2 rings! I’m sorry i thought you knew!”

“NO! I had no idea! Are you sure??”

haha to which I explained yeah i was sure, and all the jazz, gave him the option to just go back and cancel the band purchase and he had calmed down by then. It still makes me LOL.

Post # 5
3735 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@Ms_Purple:  Your FH and the tasting … very cute!

In general, FH thinks nearly every item should not cost more than $200. The photog is $3.5K. Really? YES! The cake is $XXX. REALLY?  YES!  You can’t buy a dress for $500 – well I probably could but my budget is more. Really?  YES!

Ok, I know my original budget was waaaaaaaaaaaay off but his was even worse. He’s a good sport though and I’m happy to have him!

Post # 6
2696 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@LilRhodyGem:  LOL! Your FI sounds like my dad…”$200, yeah that sounds about right!”LOL

Post # 7
231 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Oh lord. My FI is clueless also. Hence I am doing almost everything myself.


He also needed to be convinced by other people (not just me) that I needed a “second ring.”

Post # 8
605 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

FI thought catering would be less expensive. he was thinking $3-4 pp and i told him I WISH! he also went with me to a bridal expo for prices on things and he thought that everywhere i signed up for info was me signing a contract! he was probably zoned out and wishing he was elsewhere! LOL!

Post # 9
298 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I think FI was a little confused about the two rings, but not really sure. He proposed with a solitaire and said later on that he looked for a set but the jewelry store didn’t have any. Fast forward a few months and we are talking about wedding bands and I told him what I wanted he said “you get another ring?” and I said “Yes. Girls have the engagement ring and the wedding band.” I don’t know if he was playing dumb or though he was supposed to look for a set but didn’t know what it meant. Silly me I didn’t think to ask him.

Other than that he has been pretty knowledgable about most of it.

Post # 11
435 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

He was totally against a wedding cake.  I had no idea why until I found out that he thought it was going to be $1200 (because of the Father of the Bride movie).  Yes darling, a cake made to feed 35 people will be $1200.  Because that’s logical.

We ordered it from the baker the other week and it’s costing $120.


Post # 12
8480 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

@LilRhodyGem:  Sounds like my FI!

Post # 13
48 posts
  • Wedding: April 2015

I brought up the idea of a day of coordinator and my FI was basically like ‘we don’t need one of those, I don’t mind being in charge of things on our wedding day’……. I looked at him like he was crazy. He honestly thought in his mind that he could be behind the scenes ushering vendors around the venue, setting everything up, handing out payments, making sure everyone was where they needed to be ON TOP of being the groom and getting married…. But he was so  sincere in his offer as if it was all going to be a piece of cake!

Post # 14
49 posts
  • Wedding: April 2014

Haha! Love reading these. My groomy is the opposite. All his friends are getting married around the same time so needless to say he has opinions for everythinggggg and he thinks the bigger/more the better. Im a simple bride so it’s not as great as you think but it is super sweet 😉 MEN! 

Post # 15
1302 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@LilRhodyGem:  @Penelopeee:  haha, your stories made me laugh. My husband is also totally clueless about the cost of things. He thought $10K was a really reasonable price for a photographer, but then he thought it was completely absurd that I was going to pay someone $100 to do my makeup the day of the wedding.

Post # 16
9856 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2014

My FH can’t believe what things cost either.  He also didn’t know that women got 2 rings until we started looking and he realized that many come as sets – he thought you got them both together…He doesn’t understand the importance of finalizing the guest list, all the invites should go out at once…

Where do WE learn these things?  Somehow women seem to inately know this stuff and men just don’t.

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