What methods of birth control work best?

posted 2 years ago in Intimacy
Post # 4
2696 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

How are you determining when you are ovulating?

Avoiding fertile times can be pretty safe, but it takes a lot of work, charting, attention, etc.

Post # 5
7936 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2015

I would talk to your gyno and reconsider the IUD. Its very safe and very effective- and theres a non hormonal option (Paragaurd).  A few minutes of discomfort for years and years of protection. So worth it!

Post # 6
137 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

Hormonal birth control isn’t as bad as some people like to make out. Sure there are risks but most are minimal and if you are a healthy woman then you will be fine with them. Other than that condoms and natural planning are probably your only options.

Post # 7
2675 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014 - Madison, WI

While I do use hormonal birth control without any problems, there are a lot of good resources out there for using non hormonal methods.

Learning to chart your cycles is much talked about method on some of the boards here and while many women use it to get pregnant, the same logic can be used to avoid pregnancy. Most recommended the book “Taking Charge of your Fertility” and there’s also some helpful information on using charting or monitors here: http://wellnessmama.com/14832/fertility-monitors/

If you’re effectively charting your cycles and avoiding your fertile days, using condoms, etc – I think you’d do pretty well avoiding pregnancy.

Post # 8
288 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

If you are charting and using a barrier method, thats about all you can do.  I would really reconsider the nonhormonal IUD for maximum protection against pregnancy.  Esp if you want to wait several years to have children.

Post # 10
7936 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2015

eveline:  Well they put the IUD into your uterus and that is by no means fun. It feels like a mega cramp/contraction but its fast (a minute or two) and then its over and you can forget about it from 5-10 years depending on which type you choose. Its invasive, but not surgery or anything they just do it at the gyno like a pap.

I have the Mirena (which has localized hormones)- I had some spotting for a few months which went away thanks to an herb tincture. I chose Mirena because I had very heavy crampy periods and Mirena lightens them, vs the copper which can make them heavier (but has zero hormones). Now I have zero side effects and I love it! My gyno has one herself which made me feel confident.


Post # 11
33 posts

The Mirena scewed up my hormones completly!

We happily use condoms and diaghram.

Post # 12
3996 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

eveline:  If you’re set against hormonal BC or an IUD then I would recommend learning about the Fertility Awareness Method (FAM) by reading Taking Control of Your Fertility ( I bought a copy from Amazon for about .40). It teaches you how to identify the signs of ovulation, chart those signs correctly, and either avoid or hit your fertile window depending on if you’re trying to prevent or achieve pregnancy. I was on BCP for 8 years and while it worked well, I did get tired of the synthetic hormones and side effects.  I began charting in April and love it. TCOYF will also refresh you on your body’s natural cycle and gives you a lot of control over your body. It does require a few minutes a day (but nothing ridiculous) to temp, check your cervical mucus and position, and to chart using an online site (FertilityFriend.com). Good luck!

Post # 13
242 posts
Helper bee

Eveline, I would say that the methods that you are using are probably not very effective.

Post # 14
948 posts
Busy bee

I always found homosexuality to be an extremely effective form of birth control.  I was never worried about getting pregnant with any of my female partners.

In all seriousness, though, check out the Planned Parenthood website.  They have this information up front, including information on abstinence, family planning/charting, implants (like Implanon), IUC/IUD, pills, NuvaRing, condoms, etc.

Post # 15
1465 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2016

I have the Paragard and I love it.  Yes, it was uncomfortable when it was inserted.  I went home that day and took a nap, and felt fine when I woke up.  I’ve had it for about 3 years, and I’ll keep it in until we are ready for kids.  I plan to get another one inserted when we are done having kids.

It’s so easy, you can just forget about it.  I never think about my IUD (except when I’m telling people how much I love it!).  I’m glad that I don’t have any hormones in me, after taking the patch/pills for 8 years.  

My periods did get heavier (compared to when I was on birth control pills, but of course those are lighter).  I don’t remember what they are compared to my periods before I went on birth control.  The heaviness now is nothing too intense.  I just empty out my cup more like 3-4 times a day on the heavy days instead of twice a day.  (I use a cup instead of tampons or pads, and I know that grosses some people out, but it’s great for me).

Let me know if you have any other questions.

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