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Nothing major, but:
- During the ceremony, the officiant handed hubby's ring to HIM to put on MY finger! Um, not so much!!
- Officiant never told guests they could sit down after they stood for my entrance! I JUST found this out because we watched the wedding video...I felt so bad about that.
- I forgot to add my BFF (who was also a BM) to the seating chart, d'oh! My sister (MOH) fixed it though.
I loved my wedding in the worst way. I planned it to the tee & had faith in my vendors (who all came through wonderfully). What I could not plan, however, was my FIL's attitude & behavior. He is the one negative thing @ my wedding & I am not the only one who noticed. Several commented on the bad vibes/miserable attitude of FIL. One good friend even mentioned that FIL "creeped her date out". Morning of, H asked him if he'd join him for coffee & a trim/shave @ barber shop. FIL lost it - yelled @ H about how his hair is fine & does not want to be told what to do by his son. (IMHO, mullets are NOT fine). He kept disappearing from the bridal suite (where we asked him to stay) and nearly ruined the processional by being MIA and then appearing @ the bottom of the stairs just as my first BM was about to walk up. I lost it & started yelling to stop the processional and get his sorry self up there in his seat immediately before he ruined my wedding. (Guests heard the commotion - ugh, how embarassing!). He sat moping the entire time he was @ the reception & then left somewhere in the middle without saying goodbye or congratulations to us. Next day, he came to our room w/H's aunt & uncle to chat. He said maybe 10 words - asked me what i do for a living (only been w/H for 5 yrs & this is the first time he's asked!) and if there was a football game on. WTF? Then, he had the nerve to talk smack about us when he got home. He visited w/family that couldn't attend & told them about "mulletgate" said we demanded that he get a haircut and then went on to tell them that we snubbed him the whole time he was out here & did nothing to make him part of the wedding. WTF? Seriously! Want to smack him. (sorry this is long - been holding it in since last week & this thread just made me burst!).
think this photo sums it up... FIL on the right, looking miserable & mulleted as ever.
My DJ failed to show up. I found out an hour before the ceremony that not only was he not showing up, but that he told the company he worked for that he couldn't make it and that company lied to me about it. Also company dodged our phone calls, and now we can't get our money back from them. So we are refuting the charges on our credit card. Hopefully, this will work. We did find a replacement and everything else was wonderful.
@Meepsie: OMG, that is horrible! Looking at the picture made me laugh, though.
The one thing I'm having a *really* hard time letting go of: we had co-officiants, and I met with one to plan the ceremony script. The Book of Worship's ring ceremony starts with the husband saying "I give you this ring as a sign of my love and faithfulness," then the bride says "I receive this ring as a sign of your love and faithfulness," then they switch. I thought that was too much, so I asked the officiant to strike the "I receive this ring..." and so she wrote in her notes "Only 'I give you this ring...'" Then she wrote up the ceremony script and shared it with the other officiant.
At the ceremony, the other officiant presided over the ring ceremony, and so he prompted hubs to say "Worcesterbride, I give you this ring." The first officiant had struck "as a sign of my love and faithfulness" also! At the time, I thought it would be awkward to whisper and correct it, but 5 months later I'm still really sad that we had the wrong words for our exchange of rings. I should've whispered the correct words to the officiant, awkward or not.
Here is our list:
1. I couldn't get the ring over my husband's knuckle.
2. The officiant called my husband my 'wife'.
3. The DJ played every single group dance song even though I only wanted 2 specific ones.
it rained right after we signed the papers (outdoor wedding) but it did clear up after a few minutes, my brother didn't come, we or the DOC messed some seating up (i didn't care, to be honest - everybody ate! haha), the spa and the hotel messed up billing and payments and people got charged incorrectly at some points, oh, and during the biggest part of the ceremony where you say I do, kiss the bride and all that, our neice burst into tears and ran in the middle of everybody on the altar. If it were anyone else's kid, I would have been pretty mad (and to be honest, not invited them in the first place) but she's cute, so we just "re-did" the parts that got drowned out by crying.
We wrote our own vows to go after the vows we were to repeat after the officiant and the officiant completely skipped over them!
Also, we had a small wedding and were promised use of the patio, and then we were told to move out of the way because they wanted to seat diners (from the hotel restaurant) outside on the patio. I was kind of miffed, but oh well.
Just for the record - I was at Melissabegin's wedding and everything was GREAT!!
Okay, it did rain, but no one really cared :)
heehee - mz nightly, I didn't say they ruined the day, they just were mishaps ;) I actually thought E's crying was kind of funny - I wanted her to get up there quickly and be with J so we could finish the ceremony with everybody that was supposed to be up there! It was also funny b/c JB and I are so non-infant people, but thought it was too cute that she wanted her mom.
One of my heirloom toasting glasses was broken. Most of our outside pictures were canceled due to rain. Several guests canceled at the last minute due to swine flu. I think that these were the main things that went wrong. There may have been others but I'm trying not to think about them since all in all it was a wonderful day.
Oh this is a good topic
The one that makes me laugh the hardest is that my manzantia tree caught on fire! I got by branches..and my hanging votives ....when they lit the votives I geuss that the branches totally caught fire. The ran out and got some LED ones and put them in instead. When I arrived I was so bummed as the fake ones didn't look like really candles at all. I asked what was up and they told me that my tree caught fire. So word to the wise "The SAY votive holders but don't use votives...use tea lights...they are MUCH shorter
The other things that I have a hard time getting over:
Some people who were important so me RSVP but then didn't come...or a few came to the ceremony but then left and never came to my reception. I took it really hard and am still very dissapointed
My dress made me SO hot at my reception that I couldn't really enjoy myself and dance like I wanted. I ended up feeling really tired and ready to go home...how sad is that?! :-(
The pics are an after the fact thing. But we didn't give ourselfves enough time for the pics. When I got them back I was so sad and how few pictures I had compared to what I wanted. I was trying to be on time and I sacraficed pictures for that
oh! i forgot one! the entire wedding's power went out during dinner! hahaha. The DJ blew it and also broke his computer somehow, and the band's manager I guess sent him packing and found a new one. That's how I understood it anyway. So the lights were out for a few minutes during dinner, but the band just played instead of the DJ until they restored the power. They had tiki torches out, so it wasn't completely dark. Clearly I wasn't too concerned since I forgot about it, hehe.
Best wedding I ever went to:
Groom had pneumonia and looked so ill. He could barely speak. Bride brought the wrong version of her vows to the alter. They couldn't do their fist dance because groom couldn't stand up long enough. Both bride and groom forgot what they were supposed to recite after offiant said things.
But? they laughed off everything. In the middle of the ceremony the bride actually looked at the audience and said "ummm so i was in a hurry this morning and brought the wrong version of my vows! i guess i'll wing it!". It was just authentic and awesome. Everyone had a great time. No one cared about the mishaps.
(although... I was sad for the couple that the groom was so sick he couldn't really enjoy the day, skipped the rehearsal, and they had to cancel their honeymoon)
We had a freak storm on our wedding day, so outdoor ceremony had to be moved into the reception room. It made the first part of the day a bit more hectic, but it worked and by then I was too happy to care. Nothing like thunder and lightening at 4am to help you let go on the day of!
@melissabegins - I forgot the power went out! Of course the things didn't ruin your wedding, but I don't even think they made an impact on anything. I wanted everyone to know your wedding was awesome and all your guests had a great time!
Our "piano player" (who was also using an I-pod! wtf) had a technical difficulty and played no recessional music for us. It was horrible. We stood there awkwardly wondering if we should walk down the aisle...the whole crowd was staring at him. It was mortifying. After a month or so of everyone commenting on it, I called the place and complained. They gave me part of the money back. But it was really terrible.
Also it rained, so everything had to be inside.
Oh and my brother and sister got in a fight at the end. My sister actually punched my brother in the face! Luckily this was at the end when the majority of people had already left. I didn't even know until later on.
Oh and my mom had a stomachache, and was therefore in the restroom for the cake cutting. She is terribly upset over it.
I was so nervous about my stomach that I had a box of immodium hidden under the sweetheart table centerpiece. I had already taken about 6 during the day, so needless to say, I was fine!
Oh yea...
and my bustle fell apart almost immediately. Then so many people stepped on my dress that it tore. It ended up being funny though, as I was dancing with a huge (about 1 foot in diameter) knot tied in my dress.
My IL's went and sat down with the rest of the guests. They didn't walk down the aisle. WTF moment.
Carban_Girl this is a great thread.
You and I kind of had the same problem. I named my tables after Godfather characters as opposed to numbers (it was a themed reception) and the restaurant where we had it gave me the floor plan with the exact # of tables and seats per table way ahead of time. I memorized that floor plan along with who was sitting where, however the restaurant didn't set it up the way they were supposed to the day of. There were a few tables that were short of seats. So some of our guests were wandering around looking for a place to sit.
The new hubby and I were taking pictures during all of this. I was on the cell phone with my DOC while this was happening and I told her to put any "strays" at the head table with us.
I was so concerned that naming the tables this way would confuse people. I never in a million years thought the restaurant would screw up their own seating plan.
I also had some relatives who wanted to sit somewhere else so they switched table names (I started a whole other thread on this topic alone over in 'Reception').
I tell ya!
Overall if you can look back at your wedding and realize that no police or ambulances showed up then it was a good day! 
Hmm,
i didn't have a bustle plan for my dress so I ended up with a train that people kept tripping over
My photographer didn't get any pictures of anyone walking down the aisle because she decided to stay in the back of the room(and I missed the look on my husband's face when he saw me coming down the aisle!)
It was FREEZING so the horse drawn carriage in 30 degree weather wasn't my wisest of ideas.
There were several problems with the marriage license and technically we are still not legally married - this is supposed to be cleared up this monday
Not my wedding, but at my cousin's wedding, the groom fainted three times during the ceremony! It was kind of funny, because he had spent the whole weekend telling all of the bridal party not to lock their knees while they were standing or they would faint...and then he was the one to faint.
It was bad, because they didn't really know the officiant, and he was DETERMINED to keep going, even though the groom couldn't even stand up! He would faint, and the officiant would wait till they got him woken up and then just keep talking! I felt so bad for him!
Honestly, the only thing that went wrong was the officient asked me if I took J to be my lawfully wedded wife. I said that I took him as my lawfully wedded husband, and the officient got all flustered and had me redo it. We all laughed, though. I just pretended that I was channeling Obama, who had someone flub his presidential vows four days earlier. Fun:)
Has anyone seen this episode of Bridezilla's?
http://www.wetv.com/bridezillas/episodes/lajune-and-lacey
POOR GIRL, she had a terrible wedding (at least the show made it seem that way.)
How real that show is im not sure, but the way she acted she deserved it, lol.
I'll keep posting as I remember them, but here's a few wedding flubs I remember just off the top of my head:
I was an HOUR late for pre-wedding photos because my hair would not curl. I have never had that problem before, but on my wedding day, straight as a stick. I was ok with that, but my SIL showed up and started fussing. Once she did a couple curls, I had to sit there for the rest of it so I wouldn't look lopsided. She kept saying "Only a few more!" and finally I told her I would just douse my hair with water and get married with soaking wet hair if she didn't finish in 30 seconds. Everyone said how calm I was about being behind schedule, but in reality I was PISSED OFF. It took all of my willpower and energy to appear calm for everyone else's sake. I really didn't want to be Bridezilla.
The venue set up the wedding seating in the wrong place and the wrong number of chairs. My DH was on time for photos, so he was able to fix it while he was waiting for me.
Because I was late, we don't have a lot of photos. Plus a lot of the guests started to show up. This meant too many people looking at the disposable cameras and not enough people looking at the $5000 photographer!
My neice was pushed into a large pond they have decorating the venue. She was one of the flower girls.
Our caterer was a B*atch and didn't follow her contract, tried ot shut the bar down an hour early and closed the reception down 15 minutes early. We didn't have a long reception either, so those 15 min really meant something to me. le sigh.
The PA system broke and our friend Josh sounded like a frog when he sang our first dance song.
I was married on the coldest day in Houston in a long time, and the night before the wedding my reception venue called to say the heater was broken... I thought that would be the worst part of my wedding. Turns out, I was wrong.
On my wedding day, after setting up the reception, having lunch with my bridesmaids, and getting my hair done I headed to the church. I had just put my makeup on when it hit me... the stomach bug. My brother in law had it the day before, and turns out my mother had woken up with it, but didn't tell me bc she didn't want to worry me. I had all sorts of stomach troubles and threw up twice before the ceremony. With the help of anti-nausea medicine and peppermints I was able to take some pictures and make it through the reception and even our first (and only), though i didn't eat or drink anything. I threw up again when we got to the hotel.. talk about romantic :) The hubby woke up with it the next morning and had to suffer through the flight to mexico with it. After the wedding at least 23 other people had the bug as well.
I don't know if you'd call it a 'mishap', but it did threaten to ruin the day. Thankfully though, it didn't .. I was just so happy everything else went so well and that all of our guests were there, having a good time that I was able to somewhat enjoy it all. Definitely a memorable day!
Our DJ's were so nice before hand and even had a website where you could create your own song list based on what they had. They did not follow our list at all! Can you believe they played Push It by Salt N Peppa? My husband and I spent a lot of time deciding what to play and they only played a few songs we wanted. They were the only vendor we were disappointed in.
We forgot to put bubble on the guests seats for the recessional (outdoor wedding). I realized it in the middle of the ceremony and even whispered it to DH. He was so funny, he just laughed at my OCDness.
My DH and I were the LAST ones at the venue and had to clean up so that everyone else would make it to the afterparty. I'm not really mad that happened, but it was more of a "WTF?"
My mom took my suitcase by accident. So when I went to switch to my afterparty dress, I didn't have any other clothes. So I had to wear my dress to the afterparty, and DH had to wear his tux (not really but he felt bad for me and didn't want me to be the only one dressed up!). Out afterparty was a professional baseball game. Talk about dirty! Try walking through a baseball stadium in a wedding dress!
We rented out a box at the baseball game for everyone, but the organization messed up and didn't have any tickets ready for us! They had to personally escort every guest up to the booth. Top it off, we were the last ones to arrive (since we had to clean up the wedding venue) so my mom had to straighten things out FOR me.
@nowimmrskidd, aww, I was married the n ext day in DFW and it was definitely FREEZING!
The biggest mishap of the wedding and the only one that makes me sad was this. We'd painstakingly planned the photo list with the photog for the formal photos in between ceremony and reception. Since it was a morning wedding, it was really important to me that we have a short photo session so we could see people at our short reception before they left like I've seen at every early wedding i've been to. My mom misunderstood the "extended family" photo which included my husbands first cousins and mine, and since i only have one first cousin and he has 18, it looked funny. So she called for all my 2nd and 3rd cousins to get them out of the reception and back to the chapel. waiting, waiting. I figured it'd be ok to take that first group photo and quickly move on. We were waiting for one last cousin when my 14-year old 3rd cousin fainted. We were all standing there posed, including our elderly grandparents for about 20 minutes during all of this and it was really hard not to cry. My cousin was fine in the end tho, she'd just locked her knees.
So that made us 30 minutes late to our reception, and we didn't even get all the photos we really would have liked to have had. Plus, before we'd even been introduced, 2 couples met us at the door and said they were sorry but they had to head out.
The reception was a blur. We did have a great time and the day was wonderful overall!
Miss Damask,
I think my photog forgot our photolist. Some pictures were forgotten and I was two overwhelmed to remember everything. We the u-expected rain also screwed with our pictures and the timing of the day.
my best friend had her bustle messed up by the cleaners (her french bustle was all tied underneath when she took it in, but rather than untying it, they ripped it) so when her mom and I went to tie up her dress, some of the ribbons had been torn out. Thankfully, she is totally prepared and both she, her mom and her planner had needles, so the three of us stuck our heads up her dress and sewed the bustle! it was actually pretty funny and she totally rolled with it!!!
there were a couple other things that were wrong, but the bride totally didnt react to any of it, so i dont remember it now.
Ladies, thanks so much for replying to this thread. Knowing stuff always goes wrong for everyone makes us all feel a little better about the mishaps at our wedding.
@nowimmrskidd: Stomach bug?! and you still made it through the day. You are impressive!
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So I just got married on Sunday and it was wonderful, but I am having trouble letting go of what went wrong, kind of like Mrs. Lab. I thought if I wrote what went wrong here, it would be cathartic and I could move on to the good parts! I thought we could each write one thing that went wrong here, to let it off our chest and help show others that not everything goes as planned.
My seating chart did not get followed for two tables. I had combined them into one table a couple days before the wedding but had changed the name of the table (they were named after trees, not numbered) on the chart but not on the placecards. There ended up being a table with 4 people (rather sparse), and then another with 6 that did not have a centerpiece because it was an extra table not on the chart. The guests at the table with the centerpiece taken from a cocktail table did mention something. I have no idea if the wedding coordinator scarmbled to get another table set up or what excatly happened but it looked odd.
So share one thing that went wrong!