What month to have Bridal Shower?

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: How soon before the wedding to have Bridal Shower?
    2-3 months : (22 votes)
    79 %
    3-4 months : (5 votes)
    18 %
    4-6 months : (1 votes)
    4 %
  • Post # 3
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    Usually out of town guests don’t fly in for the bridal shower unless they are super close friends or family. Some of my BMs aren’t flying in and no family from out of town in but I totally don’t expect them to for a three hour shower. If you want to have them attend a shower it would be customary for you to go there and have a shower there. So really any time is fine. My wedding is June 7th and we’re having the shower March 22nd just because it’s my spring break. A bridal shower is typically done within 3 months before the wedding.

    Post # 4
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    I would say 2-3 months is typical.  Is it normal for your FI’s family to fly in for a bridal shower though?  Even my family who live 3+ hours away by car didn’t come to mine, but they came for the wedding.  

    Post # 5
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: March 2013

    My wedding was 3-30 and my shower was 2-2. It was after the holidays and just enough time before the wedding I thought. I threw my girlfriend’s about 2 weeks before her wedding but only because we ran out of time. 

    Post # 6
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    i had my shower 2 months earlier then my wedding- no one flew in. but lots of locals did show up.:)

    Post # 7
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

    Agree with PPs, that unless is it the MOB or MOG, generally out of town guests are regrets for a shower.

    Post # 8
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    @Sunshineliz22:  I’m not having family fly in for my bridal shower, but I’m having two..one for my family/friends is NorCal and another one for family/friends local to where we live.  I’m getting married in May and I am having one shower in February and the other in March….so basically 2-3 months before the wedding.

    Post # 9
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    136 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: April 2014

    My shower is only 4 weeks before my wedding, none of our out of town familes are coming. 

    Post # 10
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    5697 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2012

    Agreed, typically out of towners don’t come to your shower. If you want to have everyone there you might cram it into your wedding weekend when all of the out of towners will already be flying in. Otherwise 2-3 months is normal.

    Post # 11
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    Have it when it is convenient for the host. My husband’s aunt hosted my bridal shower, and it had to be four and a half months before the wedding because that’s when it was most convenient for her.

    Post # 12
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    My wedding was 7/27/13 and my shower was at the end of May.

    Post # 13
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    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2009

    Even the majority of my bridesmaids (all but two of whom lived out of state from me) didn’t attend my bridal shower.  My mother and two aunts traveled, but they were the only ones who did.  I completely understood why others who lived hours or many states away could not travel to be there.

    My showers were held approximately a month prior to my wedding, but I voted for two to three months in your poll, since that’s when most seem to take place.

    (ETA:  A wonderful and generous woman in my DH’s also area held a shower for me, and two of my bridesmaids who lived in that area were able to attend that one.)

    Post # 14
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2013 - Valparaiso, IN

    My wedding was April 7th. My Bridal Shower was on February 23rd and my personal shower was the weekend after that. So that’s technically like a month and a half before the wedding. I don’t think it really matters.

    Post # 15
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: April 2013

    I would have voted about 6 weeks.

    Post # 16
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2014 - Church

    @Sunshineliz22:  Whenever the people planning it decide. Typically it is about 1-3 months before, though.

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