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usually it would be husband and wife hislastname (provided you are taking his name)
but honestly it doesn't really matter. If you wanna keep it casual just say your first names... alphabetical if you're really worried about it.
When I was shopping for invitations I spoke with a stationer at Crane and she explained that notes are written from one person only so thank you notes, the fold kind, should only have the woman's name on them. If your man would like to send out thank you notes then he would have a separate card that doesn't fold. The woman's thank you note is called an informal and the man's is a correspondence card.
I wasn't thinking about it but it made sense after she said it two people really can't write a note. You can reference your hubby ("Hubby and I would like to thank you for your gift") but you would be the one writing or vice versa if he was writing one he could reference you ("Wifey and I would like to thank you for your gift").
I do see people commonly doing both names together now so I don't think anyone will care either way but I thought I would let you know what supposedly the "proper" thing is for the thank you notes.
I put my name then his name on all our thank you cards as I wrote them!
We are doing both first names with mine first, because it comes first alphabetically and because I'll probably be writing most of them. (My family is larger than his.)
@rbabyrolle: Wow! Hmm, I understand the idea of it, but personally have never seen that happen with the events/weddings that I've been to (& I've worked in event planning before...). Who knew?!
I appreciate knowing the true etiquette, I find it kind of fascinating, but I doubt I'll be using it in this case.
Thanks for your insight!
I expect I'll probably be doing most of the writing. I have nicer handwriting :) lol Our names both begin with the same letter & I'm not taking his name, so I'll probably just do: me then him. Hopefully none of his family are etiquette obsessed & realize we did it "wrong." lol
Thanks, y'all. Time to order :)
I put "MyFirstName & HisFirstName". I'm keeping my last name, so to make that tripley clear (it'll be said on the wedding website, and at the reception when they announce us) I put both our first/last names on the back flap of the envelope for the return address. Like others have said, I'll end up writing those suckers probably since FI has horrible handwriting.
@bearlove: See, I wanted to print the name & address on the back, but I don't know where we will be living in the next few months, so there's some logstical issues, there.
But thanks for that, because I wasn't sure what women who keep their name usually do in this situation. :)
@RayRayFurious: We already have our thank you cards and envelopes (they came with our invitations) and it says "MyFirstName and HisFirst Name" on the front of the card. Our envelopes have just our address on the back flap (no names). My FMIL does this (invitations/stationary) as a living so I figure she would know the norm...
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My FMIL bought us one of those LivingSocial/Groupon Vistaprint deals. It expires soon, but we haven't selected a venue, so the best bet would probably be to order some Thank You cards, so the money doesn't go to waste.
Their cards are set up this way:
Background Image
Thank You
Couple's Name
What should I put as our names? Should it be just first names? First and last? Who goes first? Him or me? Or alphabetical? :)