Post # 1
So, I thought it would be helpful/interesting if people would post about what roles you asked friends and family to fill beyond being a Groomsmen or Bridesmaid or Best Man. So many of us have special people in our lives that we wish to honor, but for various reasons don’t feel as if the GM/BM party is the way to go.
It would be particularly useful if you had a creative role, and how it is going/how it went.
I have a friend officiating, another giving a “sermon”, another doing readings, another administering a blessing.
I have a very quiet friend that I would like to involve somehow, though.
Post # 3
does your friend have any special talents? i know i’m quiet and would hate to do any readings for friend/family’s weddings, but i’ve been asked to do artwork like paint the ketubah or help with other things like that.
as for special roles in the wedding, i don’t have much to add. we’re having a tiny ceremony, so we’re lucky to have a bridal party at all.
Post # 4
Singing, doing readings, serving as ushers. Your quiet friend could help hand out programs before the ceremony.
Post # 5
My graphic designer cousin is designing all of our papers – but she’s also my Bridesmaid or Best Man. 🙂 She offered and I wasn’t going to say no! She works professionally full time designing covers for books!
ETA: We’re also asking a married couple (friends of mine) to do our ceremony music – she plays piano and he plays spanish guitar, and they sound great together. They’ll do at least the processional and recessional, if not everything.
Post # 6
If you have programs, menus, bubbles, or anything else that needs to be passed out at some point, perhaps she can help in an usher-like capacity that way. If she’s quiet, then she probably won’t want to be doing anything that forces her to speak in front of everyone. 🙂 She may prefer to help you behind the scenes with whatever DIY projects you may be doing.
Post # 7
We each have a cousin who we wanted to include in some way without being in the bridal party. We have asked them to hang out the programs and when we are leaving the reception for them to pass out whatever we are using when we are leaving.
Post # 8
My Fiance is asking one of his ushers who is now a minister to lead a prayer. Our officiant is the minister at my church and feels more like a friend to me. We will probably ask someone to pass out programs or stand by the registry table, but we haven’t decided who.
Post # 9
I’ve been a rice passer outer and a cake cutter. The cake cutting job really sucked though. Its hard! That stepsister who gave me that job is making my cake now, so I guess I can forgive her! 🙂
Post # 10
I offered the role of reader to my sister, but she hasn’t told me whether she wants to do it or not. Other than that we just have a non-traditional bridal party aka male Maid/Matron of Honor, female Best Man, 1 female Bridesmaid or Best Man, 1 male Bridesmaid or Best Man, 1 female Groomsmen, and 1 male Groomsmen.