Post # 1
When I planned my fantasy wedding growing up, I always thought I’d have a very fancy, elegant, traditional wedding. Now that I’m actually in the process of planning my wedding, I’ve been surprised at how many traditional aspects of a wedding I just don’t like and don’t want to do. We’ve already eliminated: engagement party, bridal shower, receiving line, bouquet and garter toss, videographer, and cocktail hour. We’re also waiting a week to leave for our honeymoon instead of leaving the next day. Instead of a traditional guest book, we’re putting cards at each seat with questions like “Where do you see us in 10 years?”, “What’s your best marriage advice?”, and “What should we name our kids?” and having guests drop them in a basket before they leave.
So Bees, what nontraditional things are you doing at your wedding? Or what traditional things have you left out/added your own twist to?
Post # 2
No bouquet or garter toss. No formal dancing. Signing blocks of our initials instead of a book. Honeymoon will probably be a year later an a small one after the wedding. I’m thinking of doing a evening event (penguin parade, kunch time wedding) instead of leaving right away. Also doing a first look so we have more time later. My dress is champagne and ill be wearing purple tights. Walking down the aisle to rainbow connection instead of boring bridal music.
Post # 3
alexsquared: I left out the garter/bouquet toss, ring boy/flower girl. I’m not sure if its “untraditional,” but we hired a digital caricature artist, which was a huge hit amongst the guests.
Post # 4
My dress is also champagne and I forgot to mention we’ve also hired a caricature artist (not digital though). I thought it seemed like a really fun thing for guests to do. I’m glad to hear it was a hit!
Post # 5
My sister was my MOH, his sister was his Best Woman, and there was no other bridal party. My father performed the ceremony, no garter/bouquet toss. We also had our own unexpected “first look” which I loved, with no photographer or anyone else there but after I saw him then we just stayed together all day which was great. We all had a couple of drinks before while joking, laughing and looking at the pouring rain before the sun made it’s appearance. We took formal pictures with family before the ceremony because I wanted to make sure we got those while the sun was shining. We kept the wedding at 35 people, immediate family and friends. I also didn’t use traditional music but I think we kept it very classy with our choices. No regrets!
Post # 6
I am leaving out the garter/bouquet toss as well. I just don’t see the point, with a guest list at 50 thats all family and close friends, almost everybody is married. I don’t want to single out the maybe 2 guests that are actually not married out.
Post # 7
Also, I have always dreamed about a videographer. But we decided it would be cheaper for us to buy a new vid cam, and make our own wedding video. 🙂 Im having my neices film it for us. I think that’s more sentimental anyway.
Post # 8
We’re leaving out the garter/bouquet tosses, the dollar dance, and a ‘traditional’ reception (instead of dancing and music for hours, we’ll have a couple hours of dinner and dancing with the traditional father/daughter and first dances, then it’s a sunset cruise). We’re also not having a videographer, ring bearer, or flower girl. We probably won’t have a ton of flowers everywhere either – more woodsy elements instead.
Post # 9
We’re doing cocktail hour before the ceremony and we’ll both be there; walking down the aisle together to “Clocks” by Coldplay; no guest book and instead having guests sign the mat of a picture frame that will have our wedding photo; and we’re not leaving for our honeymoon until 6 months later. Now that I think about it, we’re cutting out more traditional stuff than putting in non-traditional things lol
Post # 10
I thought ours was fairly traditional. But reading through I guess it really wasn’t. We decided to forego a honeymoon till our first anniversary. We tore down everything from our reception (which I found out later was abnormal). We had our guests sign butterflies which we’re putting in a shadowbox to display. We used a mailbox instead of a traditional card box. No ring bearer, and we didn’t hire a professional photographer (no regrets) and asked my mom to do our photography instead. Also, my bridesmaids carried pinwheels instead of bouquets and his best woman and groomsman had a pinwheel corsage and boutonniere.
Post # 11
Spending the night before together at our hotel venue, best friend walking down aisle with me, son the only one making a speech. Also having an evening wedding which is unusual here in the UK!
Post # 12
We arent doing any of the traditional bouquet/garter tosses, kissing games or parent/child dances.
My mom is also a bridesmaid. So far THIS is the thing that people seem to react the strongest to. I had no idea that it would raise peoples eyebrows as much as it has.
Post # 13
- Wedding: June 2013 - Upstate NY
Koalaclark: In the UK weddings are during the day?!
Post # 14
No bridal party except maybe a flower girl. Possibly not doing bouquet and garter toss. Possibly not doing first dance. No videographer. No traditional music. Not leaving for honeymoon right away. Doing a first look before wedding.
Post # 15
alexsquared: Here are some nontraditional things we are doing at our wedding:
- We are getting married by our friend at our venue as opposed to in a church or by a priest or pastor. (I’m Catholic, so this was kind of a big deal in my family.)
- Our officiant friend, FI, and I are writing our ceremony. We are leaving out all of the religious scripts and passages. Religion is being left completely out of the ceremony. Instead, we are pulling from literature.
- We are forgoing any flower girls or ring bearers. FI and I did NOT want children at our wedding period, so I was not sad to see this tradition go.
- I am making a brooch bouquet for myself and the bridesmaids. (I actually hardcore regret this right now. It’s just such a pain in the ass to make, so I’m hoping it pays off at this point.)
- I am wearing a blush/champagne dress as opposed to ivory or white.
- Bridesmaids and groomsmen are wearing mismatched outfits. I gave my girls a color palatte to choose any style and color of dress from. FI gave his groomsman a few pictures of what we were looking for and let them go at it. FI and I want a more laid back and relaxed vibe from our bridal party. FI and I have offered to go with each of the members in our party and a few have taken us up on the offer (we still have plently of time and plan on going shopping more next year than this).
- We are using mismatched china for the settings as opposed to renting white dishes. This has been a total labor of love, but I am beyond excited about it!
- I opted against flowers, period. We are getting married in a garden club, so there will be flowers all around. Our centerpieces do not need any flowers (we are toying with purchasing pansies closer to the wedding and incorporating them elsewhere as they are my FAVORITE flower).
- All of our music is “offbeat.” We are all walking down the aisle to nontraditional songs.
- Our menu is somewhat nontraditionl: More apps than a sitdown meal.
- No bouquet or garter toss
Some of these things might not seem “nontraditional” but I was thinking more in the sense of my family/social circle than on the Bee.