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What % of your invites are attending? (I'm nervous I might have TOO MANY)

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    beachbrideamy    September 18, 2010   DW beach wedding

    My fiance and I live in Chicago and half our guests live in the midwest and the other half live on the east coast (northeast--NYC, PA, New Jersey..etc).

    I've always wanted a beach wedding and we have decided to have our wedding at Hilton Head Island, South Carolina.  

    I don't know what percentage of guests attend a destination wedding that is located in the United States.  Airfare isn't too expensive and some people can even drive it.

    We were planning on inviting about 90 people, thinking that 40-50 would attend.  But our reception venue seats a maximum of 70, so I'm nervous about what to do if we get a bunch of people who RSVP.  There's gotta be at least 20 who won't be able to come, right?

    I know for a fact that both our immediate families are coming, which is a total of 15 people right off the bat.

     
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    EvaBostonTerrier    July 3, 2010  

    So based on the numbers you provided, as you know that 15 people for sure will be coming, you are looking to see if 20 people of the remaining 75 people will cancel.  That would be about a 27% of the non-immediate family members saying they won't be present.  As it DW will be in the US and some people can drive, I would say that inviting 90 people may be a bit too high if the facility holds only 70.  

     

    You know your guests best though - you can try to guess at who would and wouldn't come if they are invited, BUT there have been a lot of posts recently about people doing that and a lot of people RSVPing yes that bride/groom thought for sure wouldn't come.

     

     

     
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    HHI hotels in sept will be cheaper, because it's the off season. You should definitely keep that in mind.

    I'd probably invite 85, and as you find out you can have more (if more turn it down), then send out a couple more invites. Good luck!

     
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    beachbrideamy    September 18, 2010   DW beach wedding

    Those are good thoughts.  Thanks!

    I think we will start off inviting 80, and then maybe if we get enough "no's" back, we can quick send another batch of invites to another 15 people.

     
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    amariem25    October 2009  

    you probably won't get the "no's" back right away.  Most people who were "no's" never even bothered to RSVP.  We had to call them to find out.

    How many of the 90 people are "& guests"?  We invited 160 people or so but a lot of what we included in the 160 were guests and a lot of people chose not to bring guests.  We had 109 people come in the end.

     
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    amac25    03/20/2010   Chattanooga, TN

    It's so true that your "no's" won't reply at all!  It's like they are scared to say no or something!  And really most destination weddings have a lower turnout than local weddings.  My caterer told me to count on 60-70% turnout for my local wedding and that's held true for me, so I think you're safe with 90.  But the idea of sending out a few invites a little later is good too.

     
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    Miss Velveteen    20 March 2010   New Zealand

    We had 80% yes RSVPs... which was bang on what we estimated (luckily!). Mum INSISTED I didn't invite more than our max (120), but I said no way, and invited 142, because I was pretty confident about several of the RSVPs being nos. Good luck!

     

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