Post # 1
I am writing this as I desperately need some advice. As I sit here tonight, three weeks from our wedding, I have no idea if i have a maid of honor. The story is so long and hard to tell. But basically, I feel like my friend of 27 years is going to abandon me and never call me again and I don’t even know what i did.
Several weeks back, we went on my bachelorette party ( in which most people backed out) in Las Vegas. While there, my MOH and another BM didn’t get along at all. Basically the BM treated her very rudely and for reasons I still don’t know why. However, I did apologize many times to my MOH for the BM’s behavior on the trip and I felt really badly. This created a lot of tension between the two and wasn’t helpful at all for the fact that they would be planning my shower together ( which was this past weekend) . Long story short, at my shower my MOH wasn’t very nice to me, and had told the other girls and my mom that she would be doing many things that she never ended up doing and had sent them emails that they don’t need to come early and help w the shower anymore. (mainly because she was uncomfortable being w/ the BM who was rude to her). All I did was tell my MOH to please allow them (including my mother who had NOTHING to do w anything in vegas or elsewhere) to come early and continue helping w/ the shower as they had planned.
Now it is almost a week after the shower and MOH will not return calls, emails, texts etc. I have no idea what I did or what to do from here. We are waiting to print programs, i need to figure out their hair, dress alterations etc and feel so upset. My other friend hinted that she is still upset at vegas. I had nothing to do w/ what happened there and feel i deserve an explanation. I have been a great friend to her and would NEVER to this to her or anyone for that matter. Throughout this whole wedding planning, i have never felt more alone, deceived etc. as numerous people have said/done things to hurt me. I cannot believe after what a good friend i have been to so many people and at 31 years of age this is happening. WHAT DO I DO??? I am supposed to be able to count on her to help me and instead i’m standing here clueless as to what on earth i did?
Post # 3
How old are these girls? They sound like children.
If they can’t put aside differences for one day, for your benefit, you’re better off without them and their drama!
Your MOH needs to grow up.
Post # 4
Maybe the MOH is feeling you’re not on her “side” after these altercations with the BM. like you’re not being loyal, even though you have no idea what happened?
If you two have been friends, she needs to come clean about what’s really going on.
It really is too bad this is putting unnecessary stress on you!
Post # 5
I agree, your MOH needs to grow up. Call or e-mail her one more time and state you can no longer wait to make the necessary arrangements and that you do not hear from her in ___ amount of time, you must regretfully assume she no longer wishes to participate. You can not put your wedding on hold for this BS.
Post # 6
What are they fighting about? Something must have happened.
Post # 7
I agree with every person here. They must be children in 30 year olds bodies. You quite frankly can and do a better job with out them then with them and there not getting along with each other and what not. Birdie love had said it well too, the MOH is loyal and felt like you have not done your part in digging in deep into this matter by demand =ing some answeres and stat at that. you dont need to be stressed like this, they need to fess up BIG time on what on earth is going on with them two, whats been said why is there anger at things said and done. your bridesmaid though for sure should have been put-in line- for sure DURING the trip. I am wondering why you havent stood up and gotten a hold on them. I would have been raising my voice if that was me in vegas b/c I am honest and a trip to vegas should not be ruined over some BS kindergarten stuff. Regaarding the time line, I actually had to do the same thing with the time line thing to my ex bridesmaids.. they never returned my phone calls or even showed interest so why bother? I told her if I diont hear from you soon about anything then I dont really need you. She wondered why and its like I dont have time to go back and forth with you just to contack you when I need you to answere your phone… there loss and now stress free. I would invest in your MOH friendship though, its a long time and beofre giving a time line dig deep of this mystery matter and ask some serious questions and demand answeres from the both. Make sure one of them arent fibbing on the situation to avoid blame!
Post # 8
@loopdiloo: Did I just read your wedding day right? 2010? or was that a typo? If so I just gave advise on your situation that has been over a year ago, oops I didnt catch that if it is the right date! Maybe your so stressed out you made a typo, is my guess if it is then ok but if it isnt then ignore my answere lol