Post # 1
Well, after reading some other posts, I’m starting to feel really cheap!! I have required my BM’s to buy their dresses which were like 220.00 and alterations, as well as silver shoes if they don’t already have them. I have 6 altogether, 2 MOH’s and 4 BM’s. Also, their hair the day of the lady is charging 85.00/ea!! I was going to pay 20 per girl to bring that down for them a little.
For their gifts, I got my 2 Maid/Matron of Honor cool pearl necklaces and the other 4 a different pearl necklace. This was going to be part of their gift. I was also going to give them a wine glass w/ their initial and a tank that says bridesmaid etc…I also paid for half of my Maid/Matron of Honor dress. But now after reading, it sounds like I am asking so much, and i’ve also read you’re not supposed to include jewelry their wearing in wedding as a gift?? Any wedding I’ve been in, I’ve always paid for dress/alterations and usually gotten something to wear in the wedding. I just feel bad now and don’t know what to do?? Especially since some of them have went above and beyond for me. Any suggestions of what I should do or if I’ve done enough?? Also, any other gift suggestions? i would really appreciate any feedback ladies! Thanks:)
Post # 3
If you are able to, I would pay for their hair
Post # 4
Pay for hair and get them something like a wristlet or a clutch that they can use after the wedding.
Post # 5
most bridesmaids have to pay for their own dress/shoes anyway.. do your BMs have the alternative of doing their own hair? or does it have to be done for $85.00
Post # 6
Since you are getting them wine glasses you could also include a bottle of wine for each girl. That’s something I would appreciate, especially since I dont always like to accumulate more “stuff”
Post # 7
I don’t know…I really wanted them to get it done as a couple don’t really do much w/ it (like myself) but at the same time i can’t believe this lady charges that much. It’s just who i really want to do my hair but 85 for BM’s?? WOW! At the same time, if I paid for their hair that’s nearly 500 more i have to come up w/ and we’re already way over budget! Feel like I’ve gotten in over my head:(
Post # 8
@loopdiloo: If you are requiring them to get their hair done, I would definitely pay for it. You really can’t expect that everyone has that type of money for something you’re making them do.
Also, the tanks, I’m not sure how much good those will do after the wedding. Are you able to give it to them before your shower or bachelorette party (if you have either of these)?
I think a nice piece of jewelry for sometime other than the wedding would be nice. The glasses sound like a cute idea. What about flip flops? What else do they like that you can afford to give them?
Post # 9
I am so glad you wrote this! I feel the same way! And I have had the same experience of paying for everything myself, but a lot of people here seem to have opposite experiences. For my wedding I have the exact numbers as you. (2 Maid/Matron of Honor, 4BM) So far I have bought each a bag (like a large tote. I went on Amazon and got them for $6 a piece), flipflops from Old Navy (2/$5 sale) and a pashmina. I am going to add earings that I found on etsy (to wear the day of), and a cute cosmetic bags in their fav color(also on etsy). I love to scrapbook so I plan on adding something little in there too.
When I have been in my friends wedding, I have got little presents that I have eventually thrown away. The best things I got were beach towels, but a wedding in the fall that wouldn’t work.
Post # 10
Yes, I know the tanks aren’t really a “gift” because what are they going to want them for? We were just going to get ready in them. But I like the tote bag idea, then maybe fill it w/ a couple more small things and pay for half of their hair?? I don’t know I’m just a little stressed and not sure how i can come up w/ that much more money!