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Not a damn thing. I'm kind of a control freak so I really need to be involved in every aspect.
ETA: Now that I think about it, he is coding us a custom photobooth app for our fauxtobooth. He won't have complete control over it since I'll work with him to design it but this will be his major project.
The cake, pretty much all the food, the guest list, the OOT coordination, the venue, marriage legalities, the officiant, and anything technology-related.
Absolutely nothing! He didn't want to... and I didn't want him to. I wanted everything MY way. He did help though. He did whatever I asked him to do, but all ideas/plans were mine.
He picked his and his GM's clothing for the day (with very little input from me). That's it.
Everything has been a joint effort, and we've talked about everything, except for my dress. He printed all of the invitations and save the dates, but we stamped, sealed and mailed them together. I think we'd both be mad if one of us made a decision without consulting the other one.
Nothing - it won't get done unless I do it. If I gave him something to do, he'd pawn it off on his mother to do anyway, and whatever she does won't be what I like anyway.
Nothing. I mean, other than his groomsmen gifts, nothing. He says 'it's your day, make it yours!' yeah, yeah, yeah...likely story!
he was in change of the tuxes. but then he never got to it. So i ended up sizing them all and making sure they paid they're deposit. lol. He's way too much a procrastinator to be put in charge of anything. Especially if i want things done more than a week before the wedding lol.
Umm...nothing. I am a control freak. He'd rather just add his 2 cents here and there than take charge of a whole task.
Actually I tried putting him in charge of finding a DJ and even gave him a timeline. Well, the timeline passed and we still don't have a DJ. Ha!
He says he's taking care of our mini-moon, but I don't even know if that will get done. I'm silently having a panic attack about it. I need to know how many days to take off!
He handled all of the tent/table/chair/arbor rental
catering and bar service
DJ
Coordinated parking
Photography
We talked about what I wanted at the beginning but then I left him to it. He actually finished his list well before me 
Umm no, becase nothing is 100% up to me with no input from me. It's "our" wedding and he gets a say in everything as do I.
These were his tasks:
-Organise what him and his groomsman wore, he did, and I approved the choice.
-Organise the Wine for the reception, he organised the red and I organised the white.
-Organise the music, I ended up doing that, but he did help with song choices and he did program the ipod for the ceremony so that you just needed to press play.
-Organise the esky for the cars while the photos were being taken (best mans job) I got the wedding coordinator to do it cause once boys get together drinking they become slightly useless.
He did however make all the throwies for the paper lanterns, and we both made all the invites, booklets, menus etc, ( I designed them, came up with the wording and graphics but he did all the cutting and glueing.
Plus he oranised the accomodation for the wedding and the entire honeymoon
give him 10/10
The groom's cake, his tux (not the GM's!), his wedding band, and the "getaway" car. That's it! ETA: I guess u should add DJ to the list since we hired a friend of his, but he def doesn't get to choose the music. :)
My FI was in charge of the ceremony site. We are getting married in his hometown, and it was important to him that it was at his home church, so I left it up to him. We both picked the DJ, he took care of uplighting. We picked out his tuxs (I picked out colors because he is color-blind). We are doing cupcakes, so we each get two flavors. He helped pick out the centerpiece vases (we are using milk glass from his mother's antique shop), he also helped pick out the favors. We both go to all of the meetings with vendors so he can put his 20 cents in. I would guess it's 70% me doing the planning, and 30% him. But that's because he could care less about flowers and decor, so he just helped with the big stuff. :)
Okay so I edit my post. I mis-read the title. I was thinking 'What is your FI doing on his own?'
He was supposed to have these tasks:
- Pick out suits, book with local company, coordinate with the GM
I ended up doing it, because he couldn't make a decision to save his life.
He wanted to do the music by himself and at first I thought it would be great to let him spend all the time on it, but then I realized he'd only play obscure indie rock that nobody knew or wanted to dance to.
I'm letting him do the groomsmen's outfits. Apparently they will be suits. Any suits. He refuses to tell them anything more specific. I was kind of pissed off about this until I remembered that I just told my bridesmaids to wear green dresses.
Most of the other stuff has been joint decisions. He really wants to do traditional vows and I am pretty annoyed with that, but may go along (minus the obey stuff because, um, yeah, not my thing) out of laziness.
Music, because my taste is pretty much "whatever sounds nice" and he has this vast endless knowledge of songs and bands and genres, sooo that's his job
Nothing. I offered. But he thought all there was to it was the rings, an officiant, a dress, a tux, a venue, some food, a cake, and invitations. There would've been no chairs, nothing to cut the cake with, no MARRIAGE LICENSE, no lodging for 19 friggin' people, we'd be sleeping in my old bedroom on our wedding night, let alone decorations, guestbook, birdseed, tablecloths, favors, or flowers.
He chose his tux (more or less - I was there, and I instructed that there should be no vest due to heat), decided the groomsmen should mirror the BMs' colors (bad decision, since a BM dropped out and the best man is still in Afghanistan), how many people there were in the wedding party, the guys' bouts (one of several suggestions from me)... He said he wanted an active role in choosing catering stuff, but when push came to shove he was just "yeah, that sounds good. Yeah, that works..."
Even the honeymoon, which I wanted to be 100% hands off with... "Let's go on a cruise to Jamaica!" "I blister in the sun, I hate crowds, and I get motion-sick. Why does this seem like a good idea?" "I get sea-sick really easily too, and I also hate crowds." "Again, why?" "Uh... cause I want to go to Jamaica?" "Why don't we just, you know, go to Jamaica?" "But I don't know of anywhere..." "Why not this place?" (few months later) "We should really honeymoon shortly after our wedding. But I don't have enough time for Jamaica." "Where do you want to go?" "Somewhere within the continental US!" "Um..." My mom suggested a town in Maine.
He picked the style of tuxes, but I was there to help him match colors. But...that's about it. He chose the honeymoon spot (with me agreeing, of course). Everything else has been me deciding and clearing it with him.
Just the tuxes and shoes (he got custom blue chucks, the other guys get regular black ones). But he couldn't decide on a nice blue and black striped tie on his own.
My DH handled all of the flowers. He is an avid gardner and knows all about them. He handled it wonderfully and I really could have cared less. He also did the tuxes.
FI handled his attire and both of the dads. I had myself and the moms. Other than that, every decision has been joint (he is way more involved than any other man I ever heard about. Bees who complain about their FI not helping...try one who wants in his hand in EVERYTHING. Ugh)
It's "our" wedding, but FH is a procrastinator and not the best self-starter with stuff. If it wasn't for me...well....I'll spare the description of what the wedding would be like!
He did write our vows on his own. I ended up doing some minor tweaks because the officiant was having trouble reading the format that he used.
Honeymoon!! I won't know where we're going until we're on our second leg of the flight heading to the destination. He's going to tell me how long it is and what kind of weather to expect, but that's it.. and I can't wait :)
I also gave him DJ and the guys' clothing to work with... but I'll have some input in those.
Honestly, I have a hard time letting him just ipck things. He always runs it by me (I feel like a control freak, which I probably am). But there were just too many instances where my FI suggested things that made me cringe. He definitely has some interesting ideas.
Nothing. I try to get him involved, he doesn't care about the wedding details, just the getting married part. He would have been 100% fine with a courthouse marriage.
hmm I don't know even if he's working on something for the wedding he asks my input and I do the same to him... I guess the budget is out of my hands (completely in his control- because he's paying for it alone)
Well, I originally left a lot of things up to him. What he wants him and his GM to wear. Where he wants to go on the honeymoon. What gifts he wants to give GM. I also asked him his opinion on pretty much everything but the STDs (those are ALL mine :) But for all of those things he decided that he wanted help and asked my opinion. Haha! Either that or he ran out of time and asked me to just do it. Oh well :)
He picked the tuxedos for him and his groomsmen and the wine selection so I guess he did do something. For the most part I make decisions or we both make the decisions together but my FI is not much of a planner in general. I am glad he doesn’t have strong opinions about how it should be because I do have strong opinions.
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Was there anything you left 100% up to your FI? I mean, absolutely no input or ideas from you at all.
FI doesn't really want much of the planning responsibilites (apparently I will "do it better", his words) but he is picking our cake topper and designing our invites both without any input from me.
(He's also doing most of our music - I'm giving him a list of must-plays but otherwise it's up to him. So that doesn't quite count...)