Post # 1
- Wedding: March 2005 - Westside Loft, New York
I had dinner with an engaged friend this evening, and we got to talking about families and weddings. She and her FI both have huge families with 50 cousins on each side.
Mr. Bee and I both have very small families. I had 7 relatives on my side, and he had 10 on his side. 17 family members for our almost 100 person wedding, and the rest of our guests were friends.
What percentage of your guest list is family vs friends?
Post # 3
I would say ours is 50% his family 10% my family 10% my friends and 20% his friends and 10% our friends!
He has a big family and I have a really small one.
Post # 4
We are between 80 and 85% family (mostly mine) and the rest friends (an equal number for each of us).
Post # 5
- Wedding: September 2009 - Harbison Chapel & The Maple Lane Farm
Ours is about 2/3 family 1/3 friends with just over 100 pple total. We share a lot of friends, and we have nearly equal family/family friends in that 2/3rds. We’d like to make it 1/2 family 1/2 friends, but it’s really not possible.
Post # 6
My FH and I both have large families. However, we also know a LOT of people (at our church) so I think it comes out to about even.
Post # 7
Ours is at least 50% family, probably a lot more. I know I’m only inviting about 4 friends (plus guests, so 8). He’s got a few more, but not a ton. I’m shy, so don’t have many friends, and he’s much more social but has few friends he’s close enough to to invite. The balance of the list (we’ve somehow managed to make it over 400 people being invited, how?) are family friends. I’m not sure how to classify those, since some of these people I literally have never heard of, so they’re not OUR friends. (We are providing very little food, and my FH’s dad is over 4 restaurants, so there’s little additional cost with extra guests, so we’re pretty much inviting anyone my parents want, since they’re paying anyway.)
Post # 8
- Wedding: September 2009 - City Hall
Ours would be about 60% his family, 15% my family, and 25% friends/close coworkers.
Post # 9
65 percent are family. His family is huge mine is somewhat large but they are scattered across the country. So, I have faux family that is another 25 percen that we spend holidays with etc. that I’ve known since the day I was bord. So, 75 percent. Our list is 225 – 65 are shared friends between my FI and I. Rest family and parents friends. It can be frustrating at times
Post # 10
Oh- about thirty percent of our guests are family. My fi and I have small families, and we are having a small wedding of about 60 people. Obviously, the rest of our guests are family friends, college buddies, & a few select co-workers.
Post # 11
Ugh. I would say probably about 75% of or 240 person guest list is family, almost all of it mine…and sadly most of whom I am either not that close to, or see once a year if I’m lucky! My parents insisted on inviting them all. I am hoping (since many of them are out of town) that many decide not to make the trip.
Post # 12
85%, yo! I get incensed when the #1 buget tip is to cut the guest list, or when people say "if you can’t afford x, you’re having a bigger wedding than you can afford". Uhhh… okay. You tell Aunt Maude she can’t come after she’s made her travel plans…
Post # 13
- Wedding: July 2018 - Outdoor ceremony, banquet hall reception
Defintely about 85% family out of a 100-120 person wedding. Mr. Powder Puff has an enormous family (his dad is one of 14 children!), so most of them are his relatives. The rest is made up of my family and a few close friends.
Post # 14
We are having a pretty small ceremony with 50 people max. I would say family is a good 1/2 of that.
Post # 15
85% of our maximum guest list is family. It’s 79 people total (including us), and only 14 people on the list are not family (2 of whom are in the wedding party: my MOH and his BM). Of the family portion, the largest portion are the cousins (there’s 24 of them) plus their spouses/fiance(e)s, and babies, coming to a whopping total of 32 people (compared to 35 immediate family plus (great-)grandparents plus aunts and uncles). We’re hoping to cut the guest list further, but it’s pretty much IMPOSSIBLE to cut it past about 17 people without A) excluding people we want to be there, or B) majorly stepping on some toes (or both!).
Post # 16
I would say about 50% of our list is family, 30% is family friends and 20% are our friends or coworkers. We are having a large wedding (320 invited, hoping for less than 275!) and the majority of our friends are in the bridal party.