Post # 1
Of the out of town (OOT) guests you invited, what percent would you estimate came? Including OOT family, since, well, most of mine is.
About 2/3 of our invited guests live at least a few hours flight from where the wedding will be (our mutual hometown), and while we’re looking at possibly getting married over the winter holidays (January 2?) a lot of venues are MORE expensive because it’s a holiday weekend, and we can’t afford to pay more… I don’t really want to book a venue that holds 250 and then only have 110 people show up, especially when there’s a great venue that holds 125 that’s 2/3 the price, you know?
Or should I send my OOT invites out in waves? How’d everyone else handle this?
Post # 4
🙁 I have no idea, DDW. How old is your average OOT guest? The older they are, the less likely they are to make the trip. Same if they have itty bitty kids.
Post # 5
mid to late 20s… lots of newleyweds, young parents and grad students. Not a lot of money, as a general rule 🙁
Post # 6
Hmm.. that’s tough. For me I looked through me list and tried to guess… who would make it no matter what.. who is iffy. For my brothers wedding we really didn’t think much family would make it.. but they did! ALL my dads siblings, most spouses and about half my cousins made it… that was a lot more than we thought…. 🙂
Post # 7
I want people to vote on this too, since we probably have about the same proportion of people coming from out of town, or possibly even more. We’re getting married in FI’s hometown (where we live) and my family is all half-way across the country, and FI’s extended family is a 4 hour drive away.
Post # 8
@Ottawa – have you seen any similar posts? The Related Posts aren’t helping much 🙁 and two very different responses aren’t giving me much direction!
@KLP – I’ve tried doing that, but there are soooo many people that I’m just like, “I have no idea if they’ll be able to take a weekend off to fly across the country”
Post # 9
Not having had my wedding yet, I can’t really vote…. 🙁
I know some people think that doing anything like a FB or email query is ‘tacky,’ but I’m not one of those people. Especially when you are LD planning, it’s hard not to use those tools to connect with people. Could you try to contact people and see pre-booking what the general numbers are? I know it’s easier for me because there are only about 90 coming, but I’ve already asked most people I’m inviting if they are available. Another option would be to ask a person ‘in the know’ from a particular group of people (ie. my grandma on my dad’s side is a good go-to person to get the general feel from my dad’s side), and ask them to ask people in their social circle by word of mouth. The other thing…and I’m not sure if this works for your venue options…but are there venues which have multiple rooms? We looked at 2 that had different reception rooms, so we could book one room, but then change to a larger or smaller room as long as nobody had booked it yet….
Post # 10
@daydream – no I haven’t seen any 🙁 I’m surprised there hasn’t been more of a response from the married bees!!
Post # 11
We had less than half our guestlist come. Pretty much everyone was out of town. So invited about 100 and had about 40 come.
Post # 12
I think the answer to this question will vary A LOT depending on individual guest lists. In our case, I strongly suspect that out OOT response rate will be really high. A couple of years ago, my fiance had a blow-out party for his 30th and invited 50-60 people. EIGHTY people showed up, some of them flying cross-country or driving for HOURS. His crew likes to party 🙂