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I second your opinion
that our Mexican families do not know what a RSVP card is! I laughed when I read your post all we are interested in is what time is the weddding but most importantly when is the comida and baile or more proper Mexicans when is the "cena/ baile"
My suggestion for the list of the padrinos y Madrinas is use the RSVP card and list the names of the couples that made your day possible. I know that I would not want my wedding invitation with all that on it it appears to be more like a 15 invitation.
However, it is up to you you do not have to necessary utilize the RSVP card how about using another card and inserting it inside the invitation it still looks classy.
I mean you can also if you like ask the dJ to thank the following couples by name or you can to ...however these were a couple of my suggestions
I'm not Mexican but girl, Africans do that too. I've told my mother, YOU ARE NOT INVITING ANYONE WITH WORD OF MOUTH. Wait for your invites, if you don't get them, you are not coming. I don't know why some of my folks act this way. They won't send the invites but if it's the wedding of their American co-workers, they know how to use the RSVP!
In my family, it is more common to put the names in a program used at the reception. Also, they would be announced at the reception. I have never seen them in the invitation, not even for a Quince (at least not in my Quincenera). I ended up not having padrinos/madrinas for my wedding so I didn't have to worry about where to put them....but if I did have them, I would put them in a program, not the invite.
ack! i second beatriz's suggestion of including it on a separate insert (if it must be in the invitation). you could also maybe list it in the programs or something. that way they're acknowledged, but not necesarilly highlighted on the invitation itself, lol.
as for us, we aren't listing our padrinos anywhere (gasp! i know!). instead, we're just inviting them to the rehearsal dinner and verbally thanking them for their support (i.e. "we thank those of you who have helped contribute to making our day beautiful/special/exactly what we envisioned/a dream come true/etc." or something short, sweet, and to the point like that. they'll (hopefully) know we're talking about them and their contributions).
in all honesty, i know they should be thanked and appreciated, but i personally don't want to stress tooo much that they've contributed financially. for one thing, my fiance and i are very much so capable of paying for our own wedding, and while we really do very greatly appreciate our family's help, i don't want to give some aunts/uncles special treatment just because they have more money than others and are able to help. the way i see it, nobody is more important than the other just because they forked over cash. just because somebody gave us money doesn't mean they love us more, and those that didn't/couldn't offer to contribute don't love us any less. that's how i feel about the whole padrino thing. it shouldn't have to be on display for all of your guests to see who gave money and who didn't. i think it should just be something personal between you and your fiance and your padrinos, so that they know they're appreciated.
that's how i explained it to my fiance and he bought into it, so no printing in the invitations. score! :D
I'm surprise I grew up close to the Mexican border and right now I live about 4 hours away and the truly Mexican Mexican families include all the padrinos and madrinas on the quince invitation.
For my wedding my fiance and I are paying for everything however as a token of our appreciation so that "not all the centros de mesa "center pieces" are gone before we show up Yes, in my family and most Latina families their is a tendency to grab the centerpiece and claim it as your own we are placing a small round tag on the base of the centerpiece with the names of the my family members and his that helped us set up and do the arrangements .
I second that , word of mouth invitations the more the merrier that is my case I love the atmosphere of people and music and I know that my abuelitas and tias will make enough rice and beans to last all night long in case their are late comers that arrive after 10pm because believe me they show up
thank you ladies...
@ future mrs v...believe me i have tried that already and its not flying..we r forking out most of the dinero pero he wont budge...i basically say whos the bride! but that still doesnt work...on my side theyre basically offering their help money wise but not his so maybe he'll give in...
...ni mod nuestra cultura es asi..im having a invitation only my dad almost lost it and had to agree with my wishes...we dont do wedding programs...we include all that info in the invites..so i shall see how to come up with something...
yes y los adornes well we're not having typical ones so maybe ill put a sign in the sign in table..porfavor de no llevarse los adornos..suckers are going to cost us a pretty penny...
oh man, that's rough. you could always print them on an insert, and then "forget" to put the inserts in the invites before sending them, lol. although, that might create a full on war. families can be vicious!
somebody somewhere else here on the 'bee said that instead of including the names in the invitations, they are going to print them on a nice full size sheet of pretty paper and frame it and place it somewhere at the reception. maybe like at the guestbook table or something. would your fiance go for that?
in my opinion, this day is about you and your fiance. it may sound rude (or fea, lol), but i don't think anybody else should be glorified in the invitation but you two. it isn't the padrinos' special day, it's your guys'.
I hate the typical get the nakpin holder and decorate it , si so Mexicana but I want an elegant wedding with table clothes not plasticos one (no offense to anyone) but even for birthdays I used table cloths.
I will keep all the rest Mexican "keeping it real" with barbacoa , rice, beans, aguas frescas and possibly a taco man.
But the decor will be like the rich ones, hopefully no one gets offend when they are not allowed to take the centerpieces but like you mention they cost a fortuna and all the sweat and tears tha went into them.
I'll have the dj do my dirty job of annocing that the centerpieces are for family members and to check the round table tag on them if the name is yours than the centerpiece is yours.
@ mrs v..no lo creo but we have the same wedding date...we're actually getting married dec 31 2010 por el justice of the peace and we live in dallas tx...so cool..and next yr dec 31 2011 is our big mexican catholic wedding...hmm i didnt think of that good suggestion...
@ beatriz... yea my fiance suggested the dj doing that so that sounds good too..as for our theme well ours is not ordinary this yr were having a winter wonderland at my parents y posole yummy my favorite.
..and next yr its our casino//vegas theme since we were unable to get married in vegas this yr we figured having the theme here plus i couldnt didnt side what i wanted and then everything started coming together...our venue is very gotty las vegas muy bonito ... plus they allow us to have an open bar so thats a plus cause' ya know we like to drink and well as far as food no mexican food...well slighty were having a big breakfast buffet the only exican thing about it son los huevos rancheros frijoles fritos y tortillas de harina..
...no pense en ponerles nombre a los adornos...were having picture frames of a different las vegas casino on each table ....
@beatriz ya, i just did whatever my mother suggested. she was born in mexico and grew up on the texas border. my father was born in texas and grew up on the border too.....so i figured they were doing the traditional thing. Maybe not ?
@beatriz: I wish I were going to your wedding...or that I had aunts to make us barbacoa and beans!
@nona49: I spoke with my mom and she told me it is up to the person if they wanted to include the padrinos in the invitations however in Mexico es costumbre darle gracias atraves de la invitacion.
But , girl let me tell you when God blesses me with children , I will not include the padrinos if I do I will put an insert and have the DJ announce it. I expect that my future hubby and I and my siblings will assist me. However, I have two nephews but as soon as the little girl is born the saving will begin !
@nmsoonerbride: Thank you, it quite a drive this weekend I attended a wedding and they had birria and the only negative factor was the mess that the caldo made. However by the time food is served it will be night time and plus my linens are olive green so the stain will not show up that bad as using white linens. Will post pictures of what I want my aguas frescas station to look like
@nona49: I failed to mention that my mother is from Jalisco so las costumbres son differente para cada region de Mexico.
I would have gone the same route as you, the invitation to be solely on the individual and no one else
I'm having a more modern approach to planning my wedding. We're having mariachi all through cocktail hr and dinner and the arroz y frijoles, padrino de lazo, bilbia, rosario, y misa. We're going to decorate with papel picado (it's an outdoor reception) to bring in that old Mexican look into it. As for the padrinos, I am making programs for the ceremony and am including the few padrinos I have in there. I wanted our invitations more modern than what you usually see, and of course I am not including RSVP cards either! What's the point right?? If he's dead set on it I am sure you can combine it with your invitation design so that they look professionally done. I am just having the invitation and reception card.
I hope this helps. I will be having a Pocket fold invitation with inserts. The main invitation will only mention the date time and location of the church ceremony. There will be 3 inserts one with Agradecimientos (Thank you) were I mention my 4 padrinos (lazo,arras,biblia y rosario and ramo for the virgen) and my flower girl, ring bearer, MOH,BM,BM,and GM... the next is the reception information, time adress. and the third insert was suppose to be RSVP but you know how that will go so I ended up just saying something we have reserved X amount of seats at our wedding for you and your family. I have a few family members that think its ok to bring their buddies so I HAD to give them a head count as to how many are invited...
i know in mexico pleople dont really have the culture of a RSVP, but im including a RSVP card, it might not work with all the guest but i will try.
we included an invitation with website and registry info on back (before i read it's rude to include registry info on invite, oops, or is that just an american thing?), a map & written directions (printed back to back), and a separate insert with rsvp information (phone/email). so glad we didn't spend $ on rsvps because we had to make repeated calls to find out if some people were coming. i never rsvp for parties, but always for a wedding! then, some didn't show and didn't bother letting us know they couldn't make it after all. =(
Hahaha! That is so true, I did not use RSVP cards either, because my family will think its part of the invitation. I am sending the invite and a Reception info card, thats it. You can send the RSVP if your FI wants, but let him know that you will not get many back.
Personally in my family I have never seen padrinos listed on the invitation for weddings or quinceaneras...however, they are usually on the last/back page of the program at the ceremony. I think if you have to have it listed somewhere the program is the way to go...because when you are sending out invitations you might not have everyone that is helping yet-there may be others that come forward to help after they officially know when your event is taking place.
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hello ladies...had to place mexican brides because ya'll know our tradition of not making rsvp cards..because we dont know how to use them..so that for one i'm not including..as far as everything else...in many wedding invites that our families have done they put the padrinos/sponsors on the invitations... i honestly dont want to do this but my fiance does...what are your suggestions with this?