(Closed) What shall I do?

posted 5 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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172 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I think you should wait until you are on the same page.  He doesn’t want to get married and you do.  It doesn’t seem like the best idea to move in with him – and involve your son – in hopes that he will change.  You won’t be able to change the way he thinks as much as you want to. He has to come to it on his own.  IMO – please wait, it’s only been a year. 

Post # 5
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3569 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Your So is being honest with you. It sounds to me that he made up his mind about not wanting to get married again. I think you shouldn’t move in at this point because it sounds like you guys are not on the same page.

So before you make any choices and huge movements you need to be absolutely clear on where this is relationship is going.

I think judging by what you said it sounds like he is thinking long term but not just marriage. At this point I think you need to be clear, and ask him to be clear, then give it some time. If he isn’t willing to budge decide if you want to continue this relationship when you two have different goals and priorities.

He may be a great guy, you guys may be a great couple, but if you really need marriage and he really doesn’t want it, it just may not be enough to sustain the relationship.

Post # 6
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11273 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2012

@SophieG:  you have posted this twice.  you may want to delete one of these treads.

this is what i posted on the other thread.

you need to be on the same page when it comes to future goals.  you are obviously not right now.  it’s only been a year.  why the rush?  i wouldn’t move my family, quit my job and uproot my son from school in hopes that my bf will propose one day.  if marriage is important to you, wait until he proposes.  your relationship is still fairly new so he may change his mind one day.

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