Post # 1
So barefoot my fiance and I are both 5’9 although I have longer legs I appear to be taller. When we go out I’m always in flats so I don’t appear even taller than him. On our weddng day I don’t want to seem like I am a tower comapred to him. Should I wear flats? Also when it’s time to have our first dance should I be barefoot? Anyone else dealing with this issue?
How do your fiances or husbands feel if you’re taller than them with heels on? Are they insecure about it? Does it bother them? If not why do they like it?
Post # 3
My FI is actually slightly shorter than me. I got flats. I think with him in his dress shoes, it will be close to even. Plus… he has better posture than I do. >.>
But that’s just for the wedding, since we’re paying for pictures. When we go out I wear whatever shoes I feel like, anything from flipflops to my Amazing Boots Of Impracticality (knee highs with 4″ heels). He doesn’t mind, and neither do I.
Post # 4
This is going to sound worse than I intend it to, (honestly, I mean no harm!), but you’ve always been the same height, why is it all of a sudden such a problem? Use the same solution you’ve been using your whole relationship: flats. I don’t think the whopping 1cm that the flats will give you will tilt the scale much either way – for the dance: if you want to go barefoot, go barefoot; however, if you’re just going barefoot for picture aesthetic reasons, I really don’t think it will make that much of a difference either way. 5’9″ will always be 5’9″.
If it really is going to bug you, look into different dress shoes for him that might add some oomph to his height. While this might not be too substantial, it might help ease your unpleasant feelings some.
Post # 5
Men’s dress shoes usually have a little heel on them, so if you’re in dime heel flats, you’ll be even or he’ll be the teensiest bit taller. But I agree with PP – it shouldn’t start to bug you now.
Post # 6
@effortlesslove: Oh, I’m dealing with this same issue! I’m a sworn heels girl, but my groom is only 2″ taller than me. I’ve adjusted by buying only heels without platforms – your basic pump… but when I want to, sometimes I tower over him in a favorite pair of platform heels. For the wedding, though, I want to look up to him at the reception, and just be hot for the dance. I’m doing:
For the ceremony: flats or more likely 1″ kitten heels or…in your case since you’re the same height, one of the many bridal ballet slippers!
For the dance: custom designed (by me) 4″ tango heels!
Dyeable satin can make an uptight flat or slipper feel like a sexy little sassy piece if you dye it either royal blue as I’m thinking of (paired with a white pearl shoe-decoration) or another color from your wedding.
Some great options (and they’ll dye for you too!) are here:
I don’t think they will dye for you but you can google some reliable bridal dye houses online – I just can’t remember the name right now. these are nice and a bit more affordable: http://www.bellissimabridalshoes.com/category/008157.shtml
Let us know what you do!
Post # 7
I’m taller and I will be wearing flats.
Post # 8
I’m taller than FH in heels. He’s not insecure about it and honestly, guys that are insecure about it certainly not my type.